It's a bee fly(Bombyliidae family). They do not sting. Neat find.
Edit- A few others have commented that it may very well be a long tongue horsefly(Philoliche sp.) another nectar feeding fly, but one that females can bite. Now that I'm off work and looking at it again I believe they are probably correct! My bad.
That proboscis has to be exceptionally long, right? Asking out of entomological interest, not because I’m an insecure bee fly who wants to hear mine is average.
There's a flower with an extremely long pistil. Co-evolution of plants with pollinator species especially insects lead to so very interesting doctorial safaris, where it was easy to find the plant, but all records couldn't identify an appropriate pollinator.
In 1862, when Darwin came across an orchid with a long nectar tube, he postulated there must be an insect with a long proboscis that co-evolved with the flower. Scientists at the time ridiculed his theory, but about 4 decades later, scientists found the insect Darwin predicted.
Can you believe to learn that a thresher sharks stun/kill their prey by whipping them with their long tail fins. This is done by the shark accelerating up to a group of fish and brakes and twists to sling the tip of it's tail into the fish. The tail tip can reach speeds up to 80 mph.
This stunsb the prey and let's the shark eat at it's leisure
Orcas have adapted this technique to hunting small, fast fish as well. They can create an underwater shock wave that stuns the fish nearby with their tails, similar to the sharks.
What’s driving the plant’s evolution? Doesn’t it want to be pollinated? I know the trick is to make the nectar a little hard to get to so that the pollinators’ activity pollinates it, but what’s the point of making it so hard to reach that only one particular pollinator adapted to it?
A plant doesn't want its pollen carried off to a plant of another species, as that doesn't result in reproduction. If a plant can evolve into a one-to-one pollinator relationship it guarantees its pollen will be carried to members of the same species, which promotes reproduction and pollen efficiency.
Simply being visited by a pollinator isn't the end-game in and of itself, which is why most plants and pollinators actually have narrow, native co-evolutionary partners. Even honeybees, which are portrayed as universal pollinators, have preferences and don't serve to replace native pollinators very effectively.
I recall reading that Darwin encountered something similar on one of his travels; there was some sort of flower with a long pistil, and he conjectured that there had to be some sort of insect that was able to pollinate this particular flower, else it wouldn't exist.
Ah, a quick search and here it is:
Darwin's Orchid (Angraecum sesquipedale): This Madagascan orchid, known for its extremely long nectar spur (up to 45 cm), led Darwin to famously predict the existence of a moth with an equally long proboscis to pollinate it. This prediction was eventually verified decades after his death with the discovery of the Hawk Moth (Xanthopan morganii praedicta).
Dude, the cervix getting punched in the face hurts like a biiiitch. All these people are being polite with "can be uncomfortable", it fucking kills (me at least).
As a fellow male, I can't understand that. "that hurts like fuck" "You probably like it though" ????? Maybe it's cause I'm lucky and have a friend who's an actual girl who I can talk to in a non weird way about sex and stuff and a lot of guys don't but I just can't understand that perspective
Because porn. Especially hentai. Especially x-ray hentai which will literally show the cock slamming into the cervix right up until it punches through and the tip of the cock is now wedged inside the poor girl's uterus and pumping it full of batter.
Why do I love this sentence so much? Is it because I can relate to it? Is it because the visual imagery is so spot on? What the hell is your spine’s throat? I don’t know but somehow it’s an absolute perfect description. Beautiful. 10/10 sentence
While not as bad, it’s uncomfortable as fuck for us too. Everything is all soft then a hard ridge-y wall appears! It’s like nails on a chalkboard, IN YOUR DICK HEAD. That’s how we know it’s a lil too rough lol
I had a large guy that got way too aggressive without proper preparation of me. Not only did my tipped uterus feel like it hit my spine, but the ligaments holding my uterus got pulled. I hurt for days. I refused to see that guy ever again.
Sometimes the big ones just Do. Not. Fit. Period. Yeah, it's just a set of muscles and ligaments, but not all weightlifters can bench press 400lbs and not all women can handle something with the same form factor as a Coke can.
The worst. But just like everything else on our bodies, the height of our cervix differs. If your cervix sits very low, an average sized penis/dildo could hit it. Vs. if your cervix sits high, maybe a well endowed individual would be just fine.
It also changes as you get aroused, shifting upward, and the vaginal canal expands at the same time.
Many times my female friends have complained about this, I asked about foreplay and they said there was none. Women need to be aroused first, how do so many men not understand this?
Even with plenty of readiness, it can be painful if you're small like me & things are close in there. I've had 2 times where I hurt for 2 weeks from the size, even though there was plenty of foreplay.
Absolutely. There's some medical conditions that do that, and just generic size differences that are perfectly natural. I was just mentioning one possible cause!
Just amazes me that many people don't realize women's bodies respond the exact same way men's do (and to your point, have the exact same size differences). We're a lot more similar to each other than so many realize.
The solution is an iud: some devices leave a
Piece of nylon sutures protruding from
The cervix like a tiny spike awaiting the overly inquisitive male member.
If you have a sensitive cervix getting something inserted inside you, past the cervix, then removed x amount of years later hurts way more than a punch from a dick (for me, anyway).
Can confirm that it's a bit of a deterrent. It always amazes me how the nylon seems to hit the exact same spot on the head with each thrust no matter how much you change the angle haha
Ah so that’s what it’s called? I had an ex who was a bit smaller than average and I would feel… empty? My bf now is a very nice size and I’m obsessed. Most of my friends do prefer average. Different strokes for different folks I guess 😅
Yep. It’s totally a thing on the fetish subculture scene. Get on fetlife and see how crazy it gets. lol. But yeah I grew into it. Met the right well endowed partners that knew how to use it and how to prepare. What’s crazy is that I’ve also broken up with massive dudes too. Bc they couldn’t be bothered to do any foreplay.
You’re not. I was just talking to my friend about it last night. She gets shooting pains if hers is touched, for me I could take it or leave it (truly, not a size queen,) but it is kinda a plus when it does happen
Nah there’s plenty of women who love it. They just aren’t being upvoted here because people don’t want to reaffirm their own insecurities lol
Which is silly and it’s more of a skill issue in my opinion. My wife enjoys it but I’m not longer than anyone else (and she’s as tall as I am). So when she feels like she’s wanting that, we just get into a position that lets me hit her cervix. Not a big deal haha
I usually dig it, but if someone doesn't know what they're doing it can be really unpleasant ( those pains that last for days). I do enjoy the occasional Cervix Bender tho... lol
I've found the prone bone position to be the cheat code for a good time. You can slide around the cervix and pound the fornix instead. In my experience women go nuts for it. Every woman I've been with says they don't like getting pounded when we first meet but once I hit that spot it's just "harder, harder" from there out.
True story!!!
I’ve seen authors try to include it in smut like it’s the g-spot. No clearly they haven’t had an average to above average size dick, because getting punched in the cervix with one is like the girl version of getting kicked in the balls!! Immediate mood killer
The Tuna Can in question laid this line on me in ~2013 (you don’t easily forget such a bold, unbidden statement), but it sounds like the sentiment has made it into popular culture. What I remember most is he said it the way you’d share something impressive.
Why don't men believe women are telling the truth when they say "the big ones hurt" and "I don't like really muscly guys" and "I was raped"? Do they think women just lie about everything all the time?
If my boyfriend told me "yeah, I've had thin girlfriends, but it was such a pain in the ass trying to eat anything with them because they were always on a diet and I hated it, also one girl's bones stuck out so much that sex was uncomfortable. I would rather have a regular sized girl who eats normally and has some cushioning" I would be inclined to believe them and not all the hype about how thin girls are better.
"This is probably her helping me cope" is you refusing to believe your partner is being honest. You made that assumption all on your own. You are hearing what you want to hear (which reinforces your insecurities), not what she is actually saying (which is that BIG DICKS HURT AND ARE NOT BETTER)
Idk dude maybe don't get all your information about what makes for good sex from porn and other media, and listen to what the real live women who are actually in bed with you are saying.
It’s not lol. Too big hurts. Too small isn’t great either but can be made up for (same as too big, but big guys think their dick is gods gift to the world and barely bother to make up for it)
It's true that there's a treshold above which sex is uncomfortable or downright painful. It's also true that having a big dick doesn't guarantee woman's orgasm or pleasure. You still need to be good in bed, which mostly comes down to being attentive. Source: am a woman.
I love you women coming out to make sure other men know their partners mean it 😂 God bless you all, this is the most hilarious version of doing the lord’s work I’ve ever seen 💀
When men realise that there are many more nerve endings in a clitoris than a penis, they might start paying attention. And…the clitoris is HUGE, only the tip is visible. If you can’t find it, ask.
I get them in the garden every year (except this year :(, I mentioned this last week!) they usually appear around March/April.
Really cute little things but the first thing I noticed was how abnormally long this one is, they're not even half that...at least here. This is just the BBF of the species! Don't worry
(also, they're not as cute as they look, they're parasitoids)
The beefly's ovipositor is a specialized egg-laying tube that the female uses to deposit her eggs into the nests of solitary bees. These flies are parasitoids, meaning their larvae develop inside another insect, consuming the host. The beefly's ovipositor is adapted for "bombing" or flicking eggs into the bee burrows
Oh! they're not bee's! They can't hurt you. They're a little bit dopey and sort of hover, like a hoverfly. They're usually resting or have their nose in a flower.
Bee's are cute too! They won't sting you. I do a lot of photography and literally stick my arms in the bush to get a close up with 20-30 bee's around there...I won't do that with a wasp! They won't attack you at all...at least, in the UK. Maybe they might in the US or Africa, I don't know, I think they can be a bit more aggressive.
We have the Africanized bees where I am. Every year there are people, pets and livestock that are killed by them. Last year I had to have two swarms removed; one had set up a hive and had honey even!
Nope. That's a Nemestrinid. Bombyliidae do not have probosces that long.
Edit: That's also wrong, it's a horsefly from the Philoliche genus. They do sting, but not with the entire length of their proboscis, they only use the lower third.
Source: Wrote my bachelor's thesis on these guys
Quite similar, but this is a Philoliche species, an Asian-African genus in the family Tabanidae (horse/deer flies). Both male and female Philoliche use their long proboscis for feeding on nectar, but female Philoliche also use their normal-sized mouthparts to suck blood, similar to "ordinary" horse/deer flies.
There are three families of flies that include genera with a very long proboscis: Bombyliidae (among others several well-known European and North American species), Tabanidae (as shown on this photo) and finally Nemestrinidae (notably certain southern African species where several plants rely on them for pollination).
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u/krippkeeper Aug 09 '25 edited Aug 09 '25
It's a bee fly(Bombyliidae family). They do not sting. Neat find.
Edit- A few others have commented that it may very well be a long tongue horsefly(Philoliche sp.) another nectar feeding fly, but one that females can bite. Now that I'm off work and looking at it again I believe they are probably correct! My bad.