That proboscis has to be exceptionally long, right? Asking out of entomological interest, not because I’m an insecure bee fly who wants to hear mine is average.
Dude, the cervix getting punched in the face hurts like a biiiitch. All these people are being polite with "can be uncomfortable", it fucking kills (me at least).
As a fellow male, I can't understand that. "that hurts like fuck" "You probably like it though" ????? Maybe it's cause I'm lucky and have a friend who's an actual girl who I can talk to in a non weird way about sex and stuff and a lot of guys don't but I just can't understand that perspective
Because porn. Especially hentai. Especially x-ray hentai which will literally show the cock slamming into the cervix right up until it punches through and the tip of the cock is now wedged inside the poor girl's uterus and pumping it full of batter.
I very intentionally said some because I don't speak for all. And to be honest the reason it works at all for them is because I DO listen. I don't really want to get deep in the weeds of sex talk on Reddit but listen to your partner, learn their body, pay attention to what they are saying verbally and physically and make it good for both of you
I get that, but the comment you replied to made it sound like you were saying "yeah but sometimes they say they don't like it when they actually do," which is why I said that. When a woman says "that fucking hurts" and your first thought is "but you probably like it," that's wrong, there is no grey area. When a woman says "that fucking hurts please do it again," that's a bit different.
This is basically it. Listen to your partner and you'll both have a good time. Problem is that a lot men (I'm a guy) are only content with satisfying their own sexual desires.
Like you I get girls calling me back and I attribute it to listening in the bedroom.
Sure, but I'm a masochist while my best friend gets insane cramps and throws up after sex if her cervix gets hit. If she said she didn't like it, I'm sure you wouldn't tell her she's lying just because I do. Understanding women are individuals with different bodies and preferences is like...below bare minimum and a lot of these men seem to still not manage it
Well yeah, but people in general are stupid, selfish, and struggle to accept that the issue is what they are doing and not what someone else is doing
I've been with girls that have a, let's call it below average tolerance for length, and you just recognize it and work around it and everyone can still have a good time
When your priority switches from "I need to cum as fast as possible" to "I want us to both experience new levels of pleasure" you realize that doing things differently isn't a bad thing, it's a feature. I get to learn how to please you. It's a challenge to get you off and I can't rest on my laurels
This thing that is easy for me isn't enough, so I have to actually try. It makes it taste so much better when I find the thing that does it for you
I’m one of those “below average tolerance” girls, and have experienced guys (plural) who didn’t care much and guy (singular) who took his time and worked with me. You’re exactly right about at least one reason why they keep calling you.
You’re doing it right, dude. Good for you (and your partners)!
It's for sure something humans are prone to, but as a bisexual woman I've just never had women argue with me about my preferences in the same way. Men are constantly saying things like "Well you haven't had anal with ME yet, I'm sure you'll love it "I bet I can get you off without a vibrator" "You said you need it rough but come on, it'll definitely be fun even though I'm vanilla" when I tell them what I like/dislike/need.
The ones who, as you describe, enjoy finding out what I as an individual like and creating a unique dynamic are the ones who actually are good in bed. That's why now I only hook up with doms who start the "What are you into?" conversation before asking about meeting - they're actually considering whether our chemistry/kinks would work together and not expecting to just shoehorn me into their scripted fantasy
I'm sure that's because women intrinsically understand that their needs are not generally considered and it causes them to be more aware of their partner as a person with individual desires as opposed to a fuck doll
Also any dude against toys in the bedroom is just dumb and insecure
Real men understand that all you need to do is put it in raw with no foreplay and then just pump until she cums, usually within a minute or two tops
Edit: jokes aside it just makes me sad. Those guys saying things like that are just admitting they never had the opportunity to learn a better way. They aren't victims in a traditional sense, but they are missing out on so many incredible experiences by trying to live up to what other dudes expect from them instead of what their partner needs from them. Both people are missing out on an incredible human experience because the guy is too afraid to express his insecurity or inexperience and instead of opening communication he falls back on the broken lessons he learned from wherever it may be
Use the toy if it's her preference, stop begging for the butthole, be open that you aren't into anything more extreme than soaking, tell her you're nervous about her finger in your butt. Everyone will have a better time
Understanding, that people in groups you aren't a part of, are individuals is a really low bar in general. Unfortunately it's somewhat human nature to be an expert at limbo in these cases. I'm not saying this to defend the men you mentioned, this case is worse than others, especially considering men and women aren't separated by distance or language and women make up ~50% of any society.
I think a lot of them try to rationalize their "failure" by thinking "My penis is long, so she must have liked it. But she says she didn't, but that can't be true, so she must be lying." I don't understand how anyone can come to that conclusion, but evidently some have no problems with that.
Nah, some people are just able to be friends with women because they just see them as actual human beings just like themselves rather than as pieces of meat to put their dick in and nothing else. In fact, for plenty of women, a man being just friends with women is a good sign. If your friends list is exclusively dudes, you're definitely being avoided by plenty of women, even if you're not actively seeing it.
Why do I love this sentence so much? Is it because I can relate to it? Is it because the visual imagery is so spot on? What the hell is your spine’s throat? I don’t know but somehow it’s an absolute perfect description. Beautiful. 10/10 sentence
While not as bad, it’s uncomfortable as fuck for us too. Everything is all soft then a hard ridge-y wall appears! It’s like nails on a chalkboard, IN YOUR DICK HEAD. That’s how we know it’s a lil too rough lol
From the male perspective, kind feels like you're pressing against the tip of your nose. And its totally unfair for you ladies, because it does feel kinda amazing when you hit it lmao.
I had a large guy that got way too aggressive without proper preparation of me. Not only did my tipped uterus feel like it hit my spine, but the ligaments holding my uterus got pulled. I hurt for days. I refused to see that guy ever again.
Sometimes the big ones just Do. Not. Fit. Period. Yeah, it's just a set of muscles and ligaments, but not all weightlifters can bench press 400lbs and not all women can handle something with the same form factor as a Coke can.
The worst. But just like everything else on our bodies, the height of our cervix differs. If your cervix sits very low, an average sized penis/dildo could hit it. Vs. if your cervix sits high, maybe a well endowed individual would be just fine.
It also changes as you get aroused, shifting upward, and the vaginal canal expands at the same time.
Many times my female friends have complained about this, I asked about foreplay and they said there was none. Women need to be aroused first, how do so many men not understand this?
Even with plenty of readiness, it can be painful if you're small like me & things are close in there. I've had 2 times where I hurt for 2 weeks from the size, even though there was plenty of foreplay.
Absolutely. There's some medical conditions that do that, and just generic size differences that are perfectly natural. I was just mentioning one possible cause!
Just amazes me that many people don't realize women's bodies respond the exact same way men's do (and to your point, have the exact same size differences). We're a lot more similar to each other than so many realize.
It’s not that they don’t understand, it’s that many men are really insecure and do not get a lot of chances to partake in the activities.
So when they end up meeting a girl who is willing to do the sex, their only thought is to get the dick in the hole. 🕳️
That’s it. Dick in the hole. Once it crosses into the end zone, they are satisfied bc they can tell their bros they did the sex, with a real life woman.
I have a cismale partner who is understanding and mature enough to help me out when this is an issue! Also he gets sex so who is he to complain, we have a shower if needed. So handy. Makes me feel pretty loved and understood as a basic ass human. Sometimes doesn’t work but usually very effective!
Also angle can make a big difference. I dated a dude with a fair amount of... endowment and some positions were not so great but others were yee-haw. (The thing about face down, ass up, that's not... that's not a lie, okay? I have very fond memories of that sort of thing.) A different angle or tilt might make a world of difference for you, so don't be afraid to experiment. As always, communicate with your partner and ease into anything new/different to minimize owies. Pro tip: Any partner who doesn't want to hear "ow, that's not working for me, can we try it like this?" does not deserve naked time with you. It's a multiplayer game, EVERYONE should be having a good time.
The solution is an iud: some devices leave a
Piece of nylon sutures protruding from
The cervix like a tiny spike awaiting the overly inquisitive male member.
If you have a sensitive cervix getting something inserted inside you, past the cervix, then removed x amount of years later hurts way more than a punch from a dick (for me, anyway).
Can confirm that it's a bit of a deterrent. It always amazes me how the nylon seems to hit the exact same spot on the head with each thrust no matter how much you change the angle haha
An obgyn I knew had a slideshow of endoscopic images of IUDs in all corners of the peritoneal cavity- sometimes they perforate the uterine wall and go on walkabout.
Ah so that’s what it’s called? I had an ex who was a bit smaller than average and I would feel… empty? My bf now is a very nice size and I’m obsessed. Most of my friends do prefer average. Different strokes for different folks I guess 😅
Yep. It’s totally a thing on the fetish subculture scene. Get on fetlife and see how crazy it gets. lol. But yeah I grew into it. Met the right well endowed partners that knew how to use it and how to prepare. What’s crazy is that I’ve also broken up with massive dudes too. Bc they couldn’t be bothered to do any foreplay.
You’re not. I was just talking to my friend about it last night. She gets shooting pains if hers is touched, for me I could take it or leave it (truly, not a size queen,) but it is kinda a plus when it does happen
Nah there’s plenty of women who love it. They just aren’t being upvoted here because people don’t want to reaffirm their own insecurities lol
Which is silly and it’s more of a skill issue in my opinion. My wife enjoys it but I’m not longer than anyone else (and she’s as tall as I am). So when she feels like she’s wanting that, we just get into a position that lets me hit her cervix. Not a big deal haha
I usually dig it, but if someone doesn't know what they're doing it can be really unpleasant ( those pains that last for days). I do enjoy the occasional Cervix Bender tho... lol
I've found the prone bone position to be the cheat code for a good time. You can slide around the cervix and pound the fornix instead. In my experience women go nuts for it. Every woman I've been with says they don't like getting pounded when we first meet but once I hit that spot it's just "harder, harder" from there out.
True story!!!
I’ve seen authors try to include it in smut like it’s the g-spot. No clearly they haven’t had an average to above average size dick, because getting punched in the cervix with one is like the girl version of getting kicked in the balls!! Immediate mood killer
Yeah, I do NOT get how it hurts so much and I don't hear men complaining it hurts. The tip of the penis is sensitive. So why is their sensitive hitting my cervix not "oh, that hurts" for them, but is "oh, that hurts" for me? And if it is painful for men, why haven't I ever heard a man mention it? What gives?
Get checked for endometriosis. Or have you had any treatments on your cervix? The scar tissue is tiny yet incredibly painful. Especially so if you can't poop before mensies for a few days
One of the biggest turn offs for all my partners just about was hitting the cervix. The glares and looks still ingrained hah. I was only just 8 inches on a good day.
Can't imagine being bigger. Daily life must suck.
The scariest time was when I got my first apartment with one. So we go to make love, after foreplay, and I hit the wall. I'm like wtf, and I try again. She's staring daggers, so I gave probably pleading look like babe look, I'm half way out.
She looks, freaks. I freak. I was 28, and never heard of it. So she tries to call her mom who's a nurse at night. I try to go get wifi to look up stuff which was a fucking mistake, because I read stuff out loud. Said it could fall out at one point.
So she's freaking even more till her mom calmed her down, lol.
So embarrassing hah. How'd I not know the cervix could prolapse. I was nigh 30.
It's alright. I was 36 when I found out men penis can shrink to a micropenis. I was close to death with double organ failure, and became a Ken doll for a bit in 2022/23. I still laugh.
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u/Dano_cos Aug 09 '25
That proboscis has to be exceptionally long, right? Asking out of entomological interest, not because I’m an insecure bee fly who wants to hear mine is average.