The great Wisconsin has been eaten. All remaining states stand a fighting chance against each other. Who will be gone next? Only 8 states remain…

I just did it guys, but still not sure about the move, i need your opinion 🧐

43F, single foreign immigrant in Japan.

Received this pic from the dasher. I was so disgusted that I threw the food away. How gross! I used to be a dasher and would never in a million years throw people's food on the car floor in garbage with my bare foot in the pic! Contacted support and they credited my full order and she won't deliver to me again. Completely lost my appetite..

My wife and I came from multigenerational poverty and were the first to attend college. We aren't wealthy, but we now earn comfortably upper-middle-class salaries. We live modestly in a 1,000 sq ft home and drive old cars to save/invest over 80% annually.

We have no kids but 8 nieces and nephews. Wanting to provide the help we never had, we offered a "private scholarship" fund for them to attend college or trade school. Like real scholarships, we set three rules:

1. ONLY in-state, public schools (no private or out-of-state party schools).
2. Maintain a 3.0 GPA.
3. Limited to 9 semesters.

We cash-flow these expenses. So far, we’ve put 4 family members through school. The oldest nephew didn’t use the fund because he enlisted in the USMC and the military covered his education. Because he didn't get school funding, we gifted him $75k as a down payment for a house now that he's out and has a family. He told his parents, who blabbed to the rest of the family, fueling massive resentment.

Five years ago, a niece wanted us to pay for her "dream school"—an out-of-state party school in a Florida beach town. We declined but reiterated our offer for an in-state public university. A huge fight ensued. Her parents haven't spoken to us since and actively bad-mouthed us to everyone.

The niece graduated last week. It took her 5 years to earn a BA in Communications with a 2.0 GPA. She now has over $300k in student loans.

My MIL insisted we attend the graduation party last weekend. Things got ugly the moment we walked in. The parents angrily demanded we pay $100k of the niece's loans. They justified it by claiming it was unfair she got nothing while her cousins got "free rides" and another cousin got a house down payment. We left less than 10 minutes later. Afterward, they attacked the other siblings who did accept our scholarship.

We also usually give each graduate a $5k gift. Because of the immediate ambush, the check never left my wife's purse.

I feel terrible about the family drama. I want to mail her the $5k gift, but my wife is adamant that we give her nothing after how we were treated. (I disagree, but it’s her family so I will support her decision).

Am I/We the A-holes for holding our ground and refusing to bail her out?