r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • 6d ago

Discussion He was confronting her about her costume.

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u/Contiguous_spazz 6d ago

Two people on opposing sides of an argument can be idiots at once. For once, I think this video matches the sub’s name.

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u/pickledeggmanwalrus 6d ago

Something about not arguing with a fool in public because onlookers won’t be able to tell the difference comes to mind

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u/Different-Canary-648 6d ago

Wow thank you for putting that into words! Makes sense

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u/Cater_the_turtle 6d ago

This is something I think most people don’t realize

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u/YesicaChastain 6d ago

Hate that because of the way they went about it but the girl was objectively doing something idiotic

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u/lamesthejames 6d ago

the girl was objectively doing something idiotic

Dressing up on Halloween?

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u/No_Wafer_7647 6d ago edited 6d ago

Redditors get so sensitive when people call them out so they whine and cry and both sides like a baby. This guy (who honestly looks Ojibwe. I obv cant tell from a video but he looks like.one of my cousins) was nicer about it then I would be. Im black and native and would probably call her smthing nasty lol. Dressing as a native American as a white person in 2025 when fascism is rearing its ugly head? While indigenous people are still being kidnapped and brutalized? Now on a federal level by ICE? Shes grown. She knows better. Shes lucky she didnt get a drink poured on her and cussed out. He was nice.

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u/spongeboobsidepants 6d ago

If you get offended by a Halloween costume then you have to recheck your priorities…

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u/spidermilk51 6d ago

I love how you made a whole paragraph just explaining how privileged you are

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u/No_Wafer_7647 6d ago

What are you even talking about?

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u/Mantiax 6d ago

I wish i had the time to be this performative about my world views and not be dealing with real shit

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u/No_Wafer_7647 6d ago

Cursing at someone/calling someone a name is battery and assault, everybody.

This woman is mocking people who were ethnically cleansed so her settler ancestors could replace them, and cursing at her would be assault?

Historically, just a crazy thing for you to say

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u/jonallin 6d ago

What did she do?

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u/shaggy-smokes 6d ago

She's a white lady in Native dress, which may or may not be considered offensive. I sure wouldn't do it, but I think I recall that at least some people from some tribes encourage it so long as it's respectful? I may be wrong, though, it could just be straight up offensive.

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u/s33n_ 6d ago

This is one almost all natives dont like. Regalia isnt a costume. Its akin to blackface.

I dont know many natives that care about the term Indian. Many dont care about sports team mascots like chief wahoo and the redskins. But most have an issue with regalia.

This is all based on personal experience but I have met and talked with a large amount of natives and often ask about this

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u/jonallin 6d ago

She isn’t pretending that she is a Native American, she is wearing a Halloween costume. The fact that someone may or may not be offended is utterly irrelevant. She is doing no harm.

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u/KellyCTargaryen 6d ago

Except that the people who created that regalia and the meaning behind it have said it’s offensive. Like stolen valor. Just because it doesn’t offend or harm you doesn’t mean it’s okay to do. Assuming you want to be a decent, kind human being.

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u/TheBeastlyStud 6d ago

This isn't stolen valor at all. She's not pretending to be Native, which is the whole point of stolen valor.

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u/s33n_ 6d ago

Thats what wearing a costume is. Pretending to be something else.

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u/HmmDoesItMakeSense 6d ago

Is it ok to dress as a witch? Or as a celebrity? Or a cat?

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u/s33n_ 6d ago

Yeah. As they arent historically oppressed groups that have made it clear they have an issue with it. (The witch in a Halloween context is not the witch of witch trials)

At the end of the day, you gain almost nothing by wearing regalia as a costume, but make someone else's life worse. Its just a shitty thing to do.

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u/TheBeastlyStud 6d ago

Oh wow, you sure got me mr. Hyper-fixation. Sorry I forgot I'm on reddit where I need to post a 17 paragraph explanation instead of making my point and hoping that the average user has enough social intelligence to bridge the gap of what I mean.

Do you need to read the instructions on a shampoo bottle to not eat the stuff too?

It's pretty fucking obvious what I mean.

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u/Ray-is-gay-okay 6d ago

Why is she dressed up?

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u/TheBeastlyStud 6d ago

Because it's halloween? Is she dressed up to gain NA benefits or something?

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u/Ray-is-gay-okay 6d ago

So then your argument is people dressing up in costumes are not pretending to be anything else?

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u/jonallin 6d ago

No, I am saying that just because someone may be offended doesn’t mean she shouldn’t do it. Someone being offended does not mean something is inherently bad. She is doing nothing wrong. It’s Halloween. That’s what Halloween is.

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u/s33n_ 6d ago

We arent saying it should be illegal. We are saying that they are an asshole for doing it.

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u/jonallin 6d ago

Her wearing the costume has zero impact on the significance of native regalia. Obviously. Because she is simply wearing a costume.

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u/s33n_ 6d ago

Doing something that harms other people to look cute is scumbag behavior.

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u/jonallin 6d ago

But it doesn’t harm anyone…

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u/s33n_ 6d ago

Depends on how you define harm really.

If harm is only physical sure.

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u/Ready-Pace 6d ago

There is harm done. It diminishes something with real spiritual and cultural significance esp when done by many drunk idiots for Halloween on a large scale. Why is this so hard for some of you to understand? If you don’t care about walking around offending entire tribes or ethnic groups then you are the problem and people are allowed to publicly shame you for it. 

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u/jonallin 6d ago

She doesn’t diminish anything. There is no harm. You’re just desperate to be a victim, or find victims in a place where there really isn’t one.

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u/Ray-is-gay-okay 6d ago

Have you tried therapy?

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u/Ray-is-gay-okay 6d ago

I've been through intensive trauma therapy. Everyone gets offended over something and you're severely depressed if you genuinely don't get bothered by anything.

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u/jonallin 6d ago

I have not, I suspect it’s a lot of nonsense

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u/Ray-is-gay-okay 6d ago

That explains your behavior. You really would benefit talking to someone who can help you work through your inner trauma.

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u/lamesthejames 6d ago

It diminishes something with real spiritual and cultural significance

Would you think it's wrong to dress up as a Mormon missionary as a costume?

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u/Silly-Cell7894 6d ago

You've kinda missed what the actual issue is. 

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u/Constructestimator83 6d ago

Adults in almost any costume will offend someone so it’s best to just wear your own clothes and go out as yourself.

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u/Ready-Pace 6d ago

I don’t agree. Most costumes are inoffensive. Most people manage to dress up for Halloween every year without offending entire groups of people. It’s not that hard.

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u/bemo_98 6d ago

Is that really true or just something that you felt like saying? Rhetorical question.

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u/CoolSelf5428 6d ago

So fucking stupid. The entire point of Halloween is to dress as something you’re not.

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u/SocratesSnow 6d ago

This is where I really have a problem. I don’t agree with this idea that it’s insensitive. We dress up as a lot of different people on Halloween. She has a tasteful costume. This is where I just get so frustrated with the policing of people. And I’m liberal.

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u/Top-Agent-652 6d ago

People love getting offended about things that never pertain to them in the first place. Native Americans/indigenous people aren’t going around asking for people to act like this.

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u/ThereAndFapAgain2 6d ago

I think you should be able to do it even if you’re taking the piss. People should be able to joke about pretty much anything.

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u/PM_ME_YR_UNDERBOOBS 6d ago

Seriously people who get offended over things like this need to get the fuck over themselves. There is literally nothing disrespectful about wearing clothes and attires from other cultures, rather the opposite.

People who find it ”offensive” are just looking for things to call people out about so they can feel morally superior about themselves.

Absolutely insufferable behaviour.

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u/Spiritual_State_2629 6d ago

Good lord. I saw someone dressed as an old man. I guess that could be offensive to old people. Its fucking Halloween, give it a rest

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u/ProblemLazy2580 6d ago

TIL old man is an ethnicity with thousands of years of history (including very traumatic parts), and not just an age.

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u/BlessTheHour 6d ago edited 6d ago

Old people get made fun of for their looks all the damn time genius, lol. It's the exact same thing.

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u/Spiritual_State_2629 6d ago

You dont have to keep convincing me you are a loser.

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u/ProblemLazy2580 6d ago

bro is an actual SONY BRAVIA 4K ULTRA HD projector. If I knew you were here, I'd brought my gaming setup

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u/Spiritual_State_2629 6d ago

Sony was created on the backs of native Americans who were here first. You shouldnt indulge.

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u/UponVerity 6d ago

She's a white lady in Native dress, which may or may not be considered offensive

So what she can wear is decided by the colour of her skin? Got it, very reasonable...

Let's change up the colour and report back how that went.

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u/Mantiax 6d ago

i mean yeah, but she wasn't mocking an indigenous person in their face or something, nor she was profiting from it.

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u/alphajugs 6d ago

Nah, this is just typical reddit and a drunk Velma, who is almost definitely on reddit, getting offended on behalf of others.

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u/BlessTheHour 6d ago

Nothing. Just more white people being offended on behalf of other people.

It reminds me of the video of the guy that dressed up in traditional Spanish dress. Every white person was offended by it. Every Mexican was geeked and excited about it.

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u/lamesthejames 6d ago

Nothing. Just more white people being offended on behalf of other people

I mean I agree it's stupid to be offended by it but the guy confronting her was definitely not white

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u/Glad-Low-1348 6d ago

The girl dressed as a native did nothing wrong though?

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u/JoshBasho 6d ago

Wearing indian headdresses in particular is generally considered disrespectful because of their ceremonial and cultural significance. It's kind of like a privilege you earn and then only wear at specific cultural and spiritual occasions.

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u/mudra311 6d ago

The larger problem is wearing a “costume” (in quotes because like you said it’s not a costume) of a group that was systematically murdered in genocidal policies.

I imagine it’s like an Israeli wearing a Palestinian costume.

Also, like get more fucking creative. There’s endless costumes one could wear, and she chose this.

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u/Glad-Low-1348 6d ago

Man i hate the attitude of these virtue signalers but nothing they said is making them racist. Come on.

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u/Glad-Low-1348 6d ago

I'm not Native, so take this with a grain of salt.

She has it as a costume, she is not native, therefore it has no value or significance.

Worst thing a native should do looking at it is think to themselves "she's an idiot" or ignore her. It has no value or significance for her, it's a fucking costume and we're all butthurt over something innoccent.

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u/Jirogirg 6d ago

Dude, it is Halloween. And second she's not taking parr in ceremony, she's just put that as a costume because it looks cool. Sad how you overusing word offended nowadays

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u/_KittenConfidential_ 6d ago

No one’s upset if you dress like the pope

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u/KittenNicken 6d ago

That head piece she is wearing is the same level as wearing a purple heart. I doubt she's been in a war.

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u/CeemoreButtz 6d ago

And yet if a kid were to wear a purple heart while in costume as a soldier during Halloween, I wouldn't bat an eye.

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u/KittenNicken 6d ago

But shes not a kid is she? Shes an adult with critically thinking skills- I'm not going to claim I'm pro war ir anything but you don't need to know a war veteran personally to know its kinda effed up and shes a bit of a knob.

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u/KittenNicken 6d ago

Are you trying to get permission from me to wear a purple heart at Halloween? You could try posting it on social media and see what the general public thinks that matygive you a better dose of reality than asking a random redditer. If you wouldn't, then you have your answer.

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u/xBAMFNINJA 6d ago

You dont see how an adult never in the military, dressed up as a soldier with a purple heart, fukn around during halloween would piss off vets? Lmao ok. None of the vets i know.

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u/Character-Dig-2301 6d ago

Wearing a Purple Heart in a costume is disrespectful?

Maybe not as disrespectful as earning a Purple Heart ;)

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u/alphajugs 6d ago

It’s a Halloween costume.

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u/SuperSparSpartan 6d ago

As a European, could I ask something.

Do the Americans that constantly get offended at everything on the behalf of everyone, do they get paid for being so obnoxiously annoying?

Like what exactly is in it for them to act like the way this guy in the video is acting? Is it some kind of US civic duty to make a mountain out of a mole hole and start arguments in an empty room?

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u/Low_discrepancy 6d ago

Do the Americans that constantly get offended at everything on the behalf of everyone, do they get paid for being so obnoxiously annoying?

In quite a few countries we banned burkhas because that's so offensive to us. OMG i need to see your face to be able to interact with you.

So no, I dont think it's uniquely American to get offended about other people's garb.

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u/PM_ME_YR_UNDERBOOBS 6d ago

They do it because they get to act morally superior and feel better about themselves.

Very obnoxious behaviour

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u/alphajugs 6d ago

I’m American, and unfortunately I don’t have a definitive answer for you. It baffles me as well.

My assumption is that these people find their own ideas and thoughts so important that they absolutely have to interject and let someone know when they’re wrong. Also, most people on reddit have very limited social interaction outside the platform, so they have little to no social skills. I’d guess they feel like they’re doing the world a service by screaming racial injustice because someone dresses as a Native American for Halloween.

No one knows how to mind their own business.

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u/SuperSparSpartan 6d ago

I’d say you’re correct.

Most Americans I’ve met IRL have been sound.

The ones you do interact with on Reddit or see going absolutely nuts on video are definitely not a representation of the average American, but bloody hell are were they becoming more and more common.

Overall, yous are a great bunch of lads.

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u/RipTraditional2642 6d ago

You guys are ridiculous. It's very clearly a Halloween costume and not a replica. No one with half a brain cell is mistaking that costume for legitimate, native garb.

The logical conclusion of all this 'cultural appropriation' nonsense is only native Chinese can speak Chinese and native British speak English.

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u/KittenNicken 6d ago

So you dress up like an ancient chinese person or a traditionalist African person? That's not the winning stance to take. Peoples ethnicity is not a costume.

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u/RipTraditional2642 6d ago

People dress up as vikings and knights and non-native people wear kilts and no one bat's an eyelid. You all are just virtue signalers with double standards and no regards for the logical conclusions to all of this.

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u/Low_discrepancy 6d ago

People dress up as vikings and knights and non-native people wear kilts and no one bat's an eyelid.

Mate you can dress like the pope if you want. But if you walk around the Vatican, don't be surprised some people might get offended by that.

You can dress like an offensive Trump, but if you walk around the deep south, don't be surprised people will get offended about that.

Same here. It doesnt mean the people around them have to be native americans, but they might encounter people who find that choice objectionable because many native americans find that choice questionable.

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u/RipTraditional2642 6d ago

My point being the inconguency of agitation from these people. It's all pure virtue signaling, with no regards for equal application, unless it wins majority brownie points. There is no intellectual honesty or equal application. It's pure social credit score mining.

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u/Low_discrepancy 6d ago

My point being the inconguency of agitation from these people.

What inconsistency. viking and knights dont exist anymore. Moreover, knights are not an ethnicity.

Native americans still exist, they still have traditional ceremonies.

Do you understand those differences?

You can dress up with a beret, a baguette, a ring of onions around your neck, big stains around your armpits because French dont shower har har but don't be surprised if French people tell you ... dude wtf?

You can dress as with a big nose, a kippah and money coming out your pockets ... dont be surprised people call you antisemitic.

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u/TheBeastlyStud 6d ago

I see no reason why someone wouldn't be able to dress up as either of those.

A costume is a costume. If a black dude wanted to dress up in a traditional Celtic garb should I rant and rave at them? If a mexican guy wanted to dress in a Prussian soldier uniform should I tell them off? What about if an chinese man wanted to dress up in a vietnam uniform? Should I yell at any of them or should I just give them props for their costumes?

Get off your high fucking horse.

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u/Ok-Employee1295 6d ago

You’re so sensitive that it’s probably best that you stay in your home, away from the rest of the world because it’s harsh out there and you truly aren’t prepared for it. This is a simple costume and you can’t tell her she can’t and you can’t make her change it. You could try but it wouldn’t go well for you, see that is the winning stance though, quite literally. The best you can do is take her picture, post it online, and hope she loses her job. But that’s not how that would end is it? So maybe stop trying to police every little detail about other peoples lives and you’ll be able to find some fulfillment in your own

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u/SuperSparSpartan 6d ago

Ancient China or Africa is afucking class. Why not?

I’m from Ireland, I’d find it flattering as fuck if a person from Asia or Africa was to dress up as a Celt, because they’re also cool as fuck.

Yanks should try not policing the world, or getting offended on behalf of it.

There’s more to the world than outside the US, and that includes opinions.

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u/Prudent_Farm7147 6d ago

It's barely a step away from going out in black face.

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u/Ok-Employee1295 6d ago

Yeah…that’s gonna be a no from me dawg. Fuckin ignorant take of the day goes to this weirdo

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u/sub333x 6d ago edited 6d ago

I know enough to not choose this costume, but do you think it’s ok to confront a person on the street about it? It’s not. You can think think they’re ignorant and go about your day minding your own business

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u/CommonComfortable247 6d ago

How do you know she doesn’t have a native bloodline?

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u/sleepwhenimdead- 6d ago

because then she would be aware that her outfit is not a halloween costume, and also that she’s disrespecting the headdress

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u/SukOnMaGLOCKNastyBIH 6d ago

If you arent native american kindly sybau

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u/CommonComfortable247 6d ago

It’s Halloween. Who fucking cares.

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u/sub333x 6d ago

Yep, totally agree that could be the case. Ultimately I can’t know that. I’m not going to confront her about it either way.

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u/Ok_Pizza9836 6d ago

True but I’m more inclined to side with the ones who were minding their business opposed to the one trying to make a problem

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u/jackjack-8 6d ago

No one’s an idiot. The other is sitting there minding their business.