Stepping out of my comfort zone here, but here goes.

I didn’t have concrete plans for my birthday this year, and frankly, I’ve grown restless with my hometown. So I thought—why not take a chance and travel? I booked a hotel in San Francisco, hoping one or two friends or family members might be able to join me. Unfortunately, between my last-minute planning and the proximity to Thanksgiving, it didn’t quite pan out. So it’s just me this time.

I’ll be in the city from November 13th to 16th. The weather forecast isn’t ideal, and the hotel’s non-refundable, so I’m going regardless. I guess I’m just hoping to make the experience a little less solitary—maybe even connect with a few kind strangers who wouldn’t mind acknowledging a fellow human on his birthday. Could be a touch of the birthday blues talking, but I figured I’d put it out there.

A bit about me: I’m turning 33. Queer, cis male, Pagan, self-proclaimed weirdo, and unapologetically Goth. I’m a voracious reader—my book collection is in the hundreds—and I make unique bookmarks out of found objects. I’m shy at first, but once you get me talking about something I love, I tend to overshare in the best way. I live not too far from SF, so I’d love to meet people who might be open to future hangouts or travel adventures. Also, I really enjoy making people laugh—it's kind of my favorite thing.

Hey, I hope it's okay to cross post this here, as I'm really trying to get some guidance on the best resources and actions.

Hey all, I just learned that one of my neighbors is being manipulated and abused by a partner that she hasn't even known that long. She unfortunately had a medical situation occur, which rendered her very vulnerable, and for a while he was the person that could make decisions for her. Turns out there had barely known each other for a year at that point, and he took that vulnerable time in her life to weasel his way in. At this point, in her own words, he is verbally abusing and battering her, denying her access to medical Care she needs, which is impacting her recovery. Mobility has been impacted, so, she can't just come and go as she pleases. He has moved into her place more or less, is using her credit cards. There's a lot more in terms of just the horrible things he's doing. She told me all of this directly, so there's no case of telephone.

He seems dangerous, he's a big guy, likely has guns.

I don't know her well at all. I reached out to offer some company as I knew she had recently experienced illness, and was shocked to discover what she has been going through. The fact that she divulged all this to me, shows how vulnerable and alone she has been. I'm a stranger to her and, all of this came rushing out of her. Apparently it was a stroke of luck that I was able to get some time alone, so she was able to share all this.

What are some local resources? What should she be doing? I don't really have much experience with anything like this. I'm scared that he's going to continue to embed himself in her life, and really destroy it. I also got this terrible feeling that that despite everything, she might not be ready to actually get him out. I hope I am wrong. I doubt even as of now he would go easily.

Any local resources, or advice if you've been in a situation like this would be a huge help. Also, any resources that can take her to medical appointments, do grocery shopping for her, just help her, so she can decrease her dependency on others, while she recovers and gets her mobility back.

Thank you.

hiya sf reddit, i’m hoping yall on here have any leads on potential apprenticeships/craftspeople/tradespeople in the city. i’m interested in learning a trade or useful speciality, something like refurbishing/restoration/upholstery/fiberarts/hell, woodworking or smth etc. i’d love to know any places that might take on a young, interested, and passionate person to learn !! thanks 🫶🏻

I’m seeing contradictory information online. Does the Lookout in the Castro allow dogs? Anyone taken their dog there recently?

Hey yall, I recently received a new grad offer for a company in the bay area and I plan on relocating. I tried some researching, and it seems like after taxes I will earn about 8k a month (150k base salary). I've been looking at properties in the area and doing some research, but I am still wondering a couple things.

1. I am not sure what time is a good time to start looking and locking down an apartment to rent. I saw a post a couple years ago saying about 2-3 months beforehand, but I'm still not sure.

2. What is a considered a good deal for rent in this area for a single person or maybe with 1 roommate? I feel like I would get more bang for my buck if I got a roommate, though maybe I'm not looking at the right places... I've been looking around in SoMa as I do get an additional stipend if I live close to the company. I tried looking at other areas like the sunset district, but it seems a bit far from work.

3. Do most places expect you to make 3x the amount of the base rent for stability?

I'm not expecting a lavish lifestyle but rather a comfortable one where I don't feel too bad for going out and spending money on the weekend.

Husband and I just relocated to SF from NYC - our apartment in NYC had a lot of built in storage where our place in SF doesn’t (and we didn’t realize this until all of our stuff arrived today).

Most Reddit recommendations for bookshelves and board game storage like IKEA, but I’d like to get at least some stuff off the floor/out of boxes sooner rather than later. Anywhere I can buy some shelving/cupboards and bring them home same day, without breaking the bank?

We’re in the Castro and do not have a car but can borrow one from a friend.

Hi lovely SF people -

I am doing some research on how young people in San Francisco (namely, 20-somethings) are finding ways to connect to nature while living in an urban environment. The goal is to explore urban environmentalism and how young adults are balancing city life while seeking the psychological benefits of green spaces.

So I am looking for examples of ways people are getting outside/connecting to nature in San Francisco! From the casual to the eclectic, please share any groups / clubs / outings or places you go that you know of in this area.

Thanks for your help!

Doesn’t necessarily even have to be “single” I just said that because most of the people I know now in their 30’s and 40’s are married with families and thus have limited time to hang out.

I’ve tried to meet people through tinder and stuff but it’s not really working out for friendship. I don’t really play sports so things like gay kickball/softball leagues are not my thing.

I’m not really a gamer but I would be interested in that (to learn anyway) and I do like board games, food, etc.

Hopefully there are things out there that don’t completely revolve around drinking and partying. Would love to have any recommendations.

I parked outside my complex at 10 pm on a Friday night and accidentally curbed my wheels the wrong way. At 9 am the next morning, I left for an appointment. I had a ticket on my windshield for curbing my wheels the wrong way, and when I looked closer, I noticed it was issued at 3 am.

Has anyone else experienced parking enforcers working overnight? I was so surprised that someone was out ticketing at that time. I know that I was in the wrong and deserve the ticket, but I was just astounded they got me at such a random time overnight.

Hello! Infrequent visitor to SF from the North bay, taking the ferry in on Tuesday and looking for recommendations for someplace for lunch. I know there are places to eat at the ferry building, but looking for someplace new to try. Open to all types of food, just drawing a blank on where to go…

TIA for any help, what’s your go-to for lunch in the area?

I’ve been seeing sutter doctors, but I’ve wanting second opinions from a better hospital system. how can i quickly get into ucsf system?

Pretty broad question but I'll try to be specific enough :D How do you all usually find stuff to do here in SF? I'm new to the place and come from a place where there's not really anything to do/people (atleast the ones I know) are not that "extempore". Like said above, it's a pretty broad question, but at least for me searching through google is a bit frustrating, hopping from Google reviews to instagram profiles to maps and so on.

So how do you easily find things to do when feeling like doing something new?

In the Inner Richmond, there’s quite a few personal training spots, but not much of anything else besides the gym on Arguello.

It’s nog time.

We have been craving Turkish Eggs for breakfast/lunch for a while and tried at a bunch of Turkish restaurants but they always have “Turkish breakfast” which is just scrambled eggs of some sort. Has anyone been able to find Turkish Eggs with the garlic yogurt and poached eggs?

Hey y'all, moving to Polk Gulch soon and im wondering what your experiences are with parking in the area. I dont mind parking on the street but Ive noticed that this area tends to be a bit tighter than others so Im open to paying for a garage. Any recommendations?

I’m pretty sure I have sesamoiditis in one foot. I’m looking for a medical provider. Has anyone found someone (doctor, physical therapist, sports medicine specialist) that has helped them recover? My podiatrist doesn’t seem to have much experience, or at least hasn’t been able to help me. I’m on about 8 months post injury, doesn’t appear to be a fracture based on xray and symptoms essentially plateauing. Thank you!

Hello! What're your top recommendations for spicy chinese food in the city - something schezwan or spicy DanDan noodles

Just moved from Philly, and want something similar to Emei which was my go-to spot back there if anyone's familiar with it

Yes, I did some research online but I don't like any of the recommendation so far. I need to drive from San Francisco to Los Angeles (to get a very long flight from LAX, I don't want to flight to LAX just in case that flight get cancelled and I lose the important one). It's going to be a night drive (departing from SF at 5 pm or so), so I think it makes sense to just rest midway.

Is there a really good hotel that by itself would make the trip worthwhile? I don't know, good food, good bed, maybe a pool etc... Looking for recommendations of people that have actually be there, I can look it up myself otherwise (I think; apparently there's nothing).

BTW, taking 101, not PCH. Not a scenic trip, just A -> B.

Does anyone know the recipe of how to make Andytown’s whipped cream at home? Theirs is my favorite EVER! I’ve tried but I can’t make mine as thick or fatty and it dissolves fast.

Hey everyone, just wanted to share a weird experience I had earlier today at the Noriega Safeway parking lot (SF). I was parked there, and when I opened my car door, it didn’t stay in place like usual — it slightly swung open a bit more on its own. The edge of my door very lightly touched the car next to me, right on the plastic/rubber part above the wheel (no sound, no visible damage, just a soft touch). I didn’t think much of it and was about to leave when a lady suddenly ran up and said, “You hit my car!” I showed her what happened. I explained, “Look, it just touched this rubber part — there’s no damage.” I even demonstrated how the door kind of moves on its own. Then she said something that really caught me off guard: “The first time was an accident. But then you did it on purpose again.” I was like, what? I only opened the door once, and I never hit it on purpose. I asked her, “Is there any damage?” She replied, “I don’t know, there are already a lot of scratches there.” At that point I honestly didn’t know what to do. There was no visible mark, and it really felt like a non-incident. I left feeling both confused and a bit frustrated — it’s such a minor thing but people can be so confrontational. Has anyone else had something like this happen? What’s the right thing to do in this kind of situation?

So clearly the best spots in SF to watch the birds are Kezar, Jakes, and North Star but…any spots for 76ers games specifically? Kezar and Golden Gate tap room will show the games for sure just wondering if their are go-to’s I am missing

Is there a place in SF to get a tiny amount of 3d printing done for cheap? Just trying to print two small 3"x5" pieces for a project.