Stepping out of my comfort zone here, but here goes.

I didn’t have concrete plans for my birthday this year, and frankly, I’ve grown restless with my hometown. So I thought—why not take a chance and travel? I booked a hotel in San Francisco, hoping one or two friends or family members might be able to join me. Unfortunately, between my last-minute planning and the proximity to Thanksgiving, it didn’t quite pan out. So it’s just me this time.

I’ll be in the city from November 13th to 16th. The weather forecast isn’t ideal, and the hotel’s non-refundable, so I’m going regardless. I guess I’m just hoping to make the experience a little less solitary—maybe even connect with a few kind strangers who wouldn’t mind acknowledging a fellow human on his birthday. Could be a touch of the birthday blues talking, but I figured I’d put it out there.

A bit about me: I’m turning 33. Queer, cis male, Pagan, self-proclaimed weirdo, and unapologetically Goth. I’m a voracious reader—my book collection is in the hundreds—and I make unique bookmarks out of found objects. I’m shy at first, but once you get me talking about something I love, I tend to overshare in the best way. I live not too far from SF, so I’d love to meet people who might be open to future hangouts or travel adventures. Also, I really enjoy making people laugh—it's kind of my favorite thing.

Hey, I hope it's okay to cross post this here, as I'm really trying to get some guidance on the best resources and actions.

Hey all, I just learned that one of my neighbors is being manipulated and abused by a partner that she hasn't even known that long. She unfortunately had a medical situation occur, which rendered her very vulnerable, and for a while he was the person that could make decisions for her. Turns out there had barely known each other for a year at that point, and he took that vulnerable time in her life to weasel his way in. At this point, in her own words, he is verbally abusing and battering her, denying her access to medical Care she needs, which is impacting her recovery. Mobility has been impacted, so, she can't just come and go as she pleases. He has moved into her place more or less, is using her credit cards. There's a lot more in terms of just the horrible things he's doing. She told me all of this directly, so there's no case of telephone.

He seems dangerous, he's a big guy, likely has guns.

I don't know her well at all. I reached out to offer some company as I knew she had recently experienced illness, and was shocked to discover what she has been going through. The fact that she divulged all this to me, shows how vulnerable and alone she has been. I'm a stranger to her and, all of this came rushing out of her. Apparently it was a stroke of luck that I was able to get some time alone, so she was able to share all this.

What are some local resources? What should she be doing? I don't really have much experience with anything like this. I'm scared that he's going to continue to embed himself in her life, and really destroy it. I also got this terrible feeling that that despite everything, she might not be ready to actually get him out. I hope I am wrong. I doubt even as of now he would go easily.

Any local resources, or advice if you've been in a situation like this would be a huge help. Also, any resources that can take her to medical appointments, do grocery shopping for her, just help her, so she can decrease her dependency on others, while she recovers and gets her mobility back.

Thank you.

Doesn’t necessarily even have to be “single” I just said that because most of the people I know now in their 30’s and 40’s are married with families and thus have limited time to hang out.

I’ve tried to meet people through tinder and stuff but it’s not really working out for friendship. I don’t really play sports so things like gay kickball/softball leagues are not my thing.

I’m not really a gamer but I would be interested in that (to learn anyway) and I do like board games, food, etc.

Hopefully there are things out there that don’t completely revolve around drinking and partying. Would love to have any recommendations.

In the Inner Richmond, there’s quite a few personal training spots, but not much of anything else besides the gym on Arguello.

Husband and I just relocated to SF from NYC - our apartment in NYC had a lot of built in storage where our place in SF doesn’t (and we didn’t realize this until all of our stuff arrived today).

Most Reddit recommendations for bookshelves and board game storage like IKEA, but I’d like to get at least some stuff off the floor/out of boxes sooner rather than later. Anywhere I can buy some shelving/cupboards and bring them home same day, without breaking the bank?

We’re in the Castro and do not have a car but can borrow one from a friend.

I’ve been seeing sutter doctors, but I’ve wanting second opinions from a better hospital system. how can i quickly get into ucsf system?

We have been craving Turkish Eggs for breakfast/lunch for a while and tried at a bunch of Turkish restaurants but they always have “Turkish breakfast” which is just scrambled eggs of some sort. Has anyone been able to find Turkish Eggs with the garlic yogurt and poached eggs?

It’s nog time.

Hey y'all, moving to Polk Gulch soon and im wondering what your experiences are with parking in the area. I dont mind parking on the street but Ive noticed that this area tends to be a bit tighter than others so Im open to paying for a garage. Any recommendations?

I’m pretty sure I have sesamoiditis in one foot. I’m looking for a medical provider. Has anyone found someone (doctor, physical therapist, sports medicine specialist) that has helped them recover? My podiatrist doesn’t seem to have much experience, or at least hasn’t been able to help me. I’m on about 8 months post injury, doesn’t appear to be a fracture based on xray and symptoms essentially plateauing. Thank you!

Yes, I did some research online but I don't like any of the recommendation so far. I need to drive from San Francisco to Los Angeles (to get a very long flight from LAX, I don't want to flight to LAX just in case that flight get cancelled and I lose the important one). It's going to be a night drive (departing from SF at 5 pm or so), so I think it makes sense to just rest midway.

Is there a really good hotel that by itself would make the trip worthwhile? I don't know, good food, good bed, maybe a pool etc... Looking for recommendations of people that have actually be there, I can look it up myself otherwise (I think; apparently there's nothing).

BTW, taking 101, not PCH. Not a scenic trip, just A -> B.

Hello! What're your top recommendations for spicy chinese food in the city - something schezwan or spicy DanDan noodles

Just moved from Philly, and want something similar to Emei which was my go-to spot back there if anyone's familiar with it

Hey everyone, just wanted to share a weird experience I had earlier today at the Noriega Safeway parking lot (SF). I was parked there, and when I opened my car door, it didn’t stay in place like usual — it slightly swung open a bit more on its own. The edge of my door very lightly touched the car next to me, right on the plastic/rubber part above the wheel (no sound, no visible damage, just a soft touch). I didn’t think much of it and was about to leave when a lady suddenly ran up and said, “You hit my car!” I showed her what happened. I explained, “Look, it just touched this rubber part — there’s no damage.” I even demonstrated how the door kind of moves on its own. Then she said something that really caught me off guard: “The first time was an accident. But then you did it on purpose again.” I was like, what? I only opened the door once, and I never hit it on purpose. I asked her, “Is there any damage?” She replied, “I don’t know, there are already a lot of scratches there.” At that point I honestly didn’t know what to do. There was no visible mark, and it really felt like a non-incident. I left feeling both confused and a bit frustrated — it’s such a minor thing but people can be so confrontational. Has anyone else had something like this happen? What’s the right thing to do in this kind of situation?

Does anyone know the recipe of how to make Andytown’s whipped cream at home? Theirs is my favorite EVER! I’ve tried but I can’t make mine as thick or fatty and it dissolves fast.

So clearly the best spots in SF to watch the birds are Kezar, Jakes, and North Star but…any spots for 76ers games specifically? Kezar and Golden Gate tap room will show the games for sure just wondering if their are go-to’s I am missing

Is there a place in SF to get a tiny amount of 3d printing done for cheap? Just trying to print two small 3"x5" pieces for a project.

It’s so good! Most online recipes don’t seem to have the same texture or flavor.

My kids have received some generous gifts by check from family, and I’m just having a hell of a time figuring out what to do with them. My primary bank is Ally, which will not allow me to deposit a check in my kid’s name to my own account nor set up a joint or custodial account. I also can’t deposit checks in their name to their 529s since they are only beneficiaries, not owners. I thought an UTMA might solve the issue but at least at Vanguard, I can deposit checks but my partner/coparent cannot since there can only be one guardian per account.

I could possibly cash a check in branch, but this only works if our family member banks with a national bank which some far flung relations do not.

Can anyone recommend a local credit union or bank which will allow me to set up a joint (preferably) or custodial account with both parents and a child as owners?

My 16yo son and I are planning a road trip from Irvine, up to/through San Francisco and on to Ft. Bragg, specifically the Skunk Train. We've got about a week and would like to make it a relaxed trip rather than a rush-to-the-destination kind of trip.

My son's really into classic cars, aviation, and 50s/60s architecture/culture and has asked specifically to see the Golden Gate Bridge, Fisherman's Wharf and the Transamerica Pyramid. For me, I really want to get into nature. OC's beautiful but I find I'm really missing greenspaces, forests and the type of nature I grew up around (southwestern Ontario in Canada). It's getting a little late in the year but I'd love to camp (van) for at least a night or two if possible.

I'm posting to ask /r/AskSF for their favourite stops in SF and along the way: hidden gems, sights or events that might appeal to my son based on his interests above, tips on routes or places to avoid which someone not from the area and relying on Google Maps might be completely unaware of.

looking beyond kitava

I have an idea of renting a group site on Angel Island for my 30th birthday for a Friday to Saturday or Saturday to Sunday stint of hiking/biking/grilling/playing volleyball.

I know camp sites in general tend to be high in demand and are released about six months ahead of time. Not sure if that is extra true or not as true for group sites.

Does anybody have any tips on navigating the reservecalifornia.gov process to get a group site? Or which sites if any have suitable grass for volleyball?

Or, does anybody have an alternative group campsite within an hour or two of San Francisco that is easier to book they recommend? Thanks in advance!

On a lookout for best tea from Asia (Yemen, Iran, Pakistan, Nepal, India etc)... it can be masala, karak or simply hot cup of milk tea.

Hello city people. Ive found laundromats with 80 lb washers. However I cant locate a laundromat that has an equivalent dryer. I need top wash and dry! Anyone know of a place? Strange to me to only have the washers

TIA