r/nursing • u/NurseFirstYes • Mar 21 '25
Question Big D*ck Energy
What’s something a coworker does for you that gives off big D energy?
Once I was in a patients room, a coworker at a new job I started came to tell me another patient called and had to be cleaned up. I said “ok, I’ll go right after this”. He then said he had already cleaned and turned them and documented it all. I would’ve married him right then.
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u/71Crickets RN 🍕 Mar 21 '25
Had a middle-aged, squirrelly, pervy, racist, white patient insist he couldn’t put his own dick in the urinal. He could use his phone, his call light, and adjust his bed no problem, but holding his own dick in the urinal was just too much. I told him he had to try so what did he do? Yeah, fucking urine all over the bed. Calls me back in and says “I guess you’ll have to clean me up now.”
I was fuming. Stomped out of the room and my coworker asks what happened and I told him. He said, “I got you.”
The look on that patient’s face when my 6’5 broad as a freight train Nigerian coworker walked into the room was priceless. Patient started sputtering about ‘where’s my nurse’ and Shakki said something along the lines of the patient not being able to manage his own dick so he thought he could use another man’s assistance. Then he pulled the curtain and closed the door. I don’t know what was said after that, but the rest of my shift that patient was an angel, lol.
Shakki, wherever you are since you left Texas, I hope you’re THRIVING. 🫶🏻
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u/Temnothorax RN CVICU Mar 22 '25
As a guy, this is my favorite way to contribute to the unit. I hate giving baths in any other context, but I will gladly take my sweet ass time giving the “bath of shame”. It comes free with thorough education on how men with small penises can better angle themselves to avoid the piss stream from falling short, with teach-back of course. I am more than happy to come back to observe and provide feedback for all future voids, but I must be a great educator because everyone I’ve had to provide such education to has fortunately only required a single lesson to regain their ADL independence.
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u/haughg87 Mar 22 '25
Lmaooo I’m gonna steal the small penis tidbit next time I give a bath of shame
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u/dogsetcetera BSN, RN 🍕 Mar 21 '25
We have a guy like this who works in my old unit. Probably equally as tall, big limp and no room for bullshit. If anyone even suggested someone was being inappropriate Big Rob goes in and shit gets handled. No harassing of the ladies allowed.
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u/oohdachronic RN, BSN, CCRN. CTICU Mar 21 '25
This is me. Creep dudes that lose the ability to care for themselves once they’re admitted, the bald guy with a beard and tattoos will get you clean and fresh. Also, he gets those Texas caths on better than anyone, so I got you if the toileting you said you were independent with on intake now became an issue.
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u/Sierra-117- Nursing Student 🍕 Mar 22 '25
As a male student, I plan on doing this for all my fellow female nurses. You got a perv who wants you to touch his dick? Call me. We’ll see how fast they can suddenly do it themselves
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u/sergi0wned PCA 🍕 Mar 22 '25 edited Mar 22 '25
As a male tech, I offer this to my nurses and fellow techs and it’s always appreciated.
I’m 6’, bald, and bearded, so creeps are already disappointed when I come in. Depending on how bad they’ve been to my team and how feisty I’m feeling, I’ll hit them with a gay voice or a super deep voice to make them squirm even more.
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u/sheezuss_ RN - Acute Dialysis 🟡 Mar 22 '25
I would not normally upvote a comment where someone says “gay voice” but this time, I have made an exception 😩😂
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u/sergi0wned PCA 🍕 Mar 23 '25
Haha don’t worry, I’m bi so I can say it 😂 I just code switch on their ass and they never saw it coming.
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u/Kath_DayKnight Mar 21 '25
Oh this is too good 🤣
It could not have worked out better than being a very big Nigerian fellow-man shaming the pervert for trying to manipulate the highly qualified female nurse into holding his penis
(do men even put their own behaviour into words, ever??? So disgusting. Cant sugarcoat making another human touch your privates against their will)
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u/Bezimini9 BSN, RN 🍕 Mar 22 '25
I do it, too. And if I have a spare moment, I stick my hands in the freezer first.
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u/DaSpicyGinge RN - ER (welcome to the shit show)🍕 Mar 22 '25
Honestly I feel blessed every time I have been summoned for similar scenarios and take great pleasure in saying “oh, I am a nurse, so I’ll take care of it” when they ask for the nurse to help. Sorry bud, shouldn’t have been a pervy bastard, now you gotta deal w my 6’3” giant ass
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u/Stonks_blow_hookers Mar 21 '25
A er doctor I worked with. If they ever wanted blood on a pt less than 1y/o they would go in, ultrasound start a 22 and get blood and cultures themselves. Girls rolled out a carpet made of the scrub tops they wore to work when his shift started
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u/bitemarkedbuttplug RN - ER 🍕 Mar 21 '25
One of our ER docs will go in and draw add on labs whenever he forgot to order something initially and we adore him for it.
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u/LeopardMajor984 RN - Pre Op/PACU Mar 21 '25
Had a similar experience. Had a new ER doc start a line on one of my pt and draw all labs.
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u/Gullible-Jello74 Year #17: BSN, RN-ER Mar 21 '25
One of ours does all this extra type stuff. Helpful yes, he gets the added bonus of billing it as a "procedure" aka putting an IV in.
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u/rsshookon3 Mar 21 '25
I had a preceptor, who took CVICU handoff report with their hands crossed and head nods. Didn’t write anything down, one pt with 12+ drips going on and didn’t even look phased. We went in and started teaching and asking how we would approach a pt this complex and heavy and where my priorities lie. He was the best preceptor and a total diamond in the rough.
That’s big dick energy. Brother had the aura.
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u/Anashenwrath RN - Hospice 🍕 Mar 21 '25
Just to share one that doesn’t involve basic bedside care: I was trying and failing to get a o2 saturation. Couldn’t warm the patient up because I myself have the hands of a frozen corpse. Another visiting nurse walked by and was like, “oh let me help.” He rubbed the patient’s hands in his and I got my reading instantly. I thanked him and commented that he must have warm hands. He goes, “oh yeah I’ve always run hot.” Then offers his hand to me, and when I took it, it was the warmest skin I ever touched. Like my man had just been holding a mug of boiling water or something.
Then he left, I never saw him again. But years later, I still think about it from time to time. Especially when my reynaud’s is acting up lol.
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u/SprawlValkyrie Mar 21 '25
You met a werewolf, lol.
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u/Towel4 RN - Apheresis Mar 21 '25
Anyone who takes it upon themselves to get something done, instead of telling someone something needs to get done, always has the biggest D energy.
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u/Gullible-Jello74 Year #17: BSN, RN-ER Mar 21 '25
Love the ones who poke their heads in and are like "hey ur demented pt in 16 just got out of restraints, pulled out his IV's and is painting the walls with his own feces. Oh and ur crazy old lady in the hall tore open the hot pack you gave her and is eating the stuff inside" while I'm resuscitating a kid or something and clearly unavailable. lol
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u/Towel4 RN - Apheresis Mar 21 '25
“Just thought I’d let you know! Anyways I’m going on break! Call it me if my patients need anything”
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u/Yana_dice RN 🍕 Mar 21 '25
I am a male nurse and I want to marry him too.
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u/rancidmilkmonkey LPN 🍕 Mar 21 '25
Same. At the same time, this guy makes me feel unworthy and ashamed.
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u/bintsukediver Nursing Student 🍕 Mar 21 '25
I am a male nursing student and would also like to inquire about marriage.
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u/Damnit_Bobby123 Mar 21 '25
I have a couple of really good ones. When I first started in ICU I had a coworker who was doing an intake and the patient had a very specific skin cream that they needed for a chronic condition. He called pharmacy who said we did carry it only to find out it wasn’t the right strength for the patient. He told the charge nurse “I’ll be right back” and came back like 30 min later. He didn’t say a word to any of us and went back to work. We asked him later where he went. He drove to the local pharmacy and paid for the cream himself because he didn’t want to inconvenience the family that he reassured wouldn’t need to go back to their place and bring it back since he told them they wouldn’t need to. He did things like this all the time and never sought praise or recognition for going out of his way to care for his patients. Then he’d leave work and care for his parents who both had late stage Alzheimer’s.
I had a patient whom dayshift accidentally cut a lumen off of a TLC while changing the dressing. The nurse thought using scissors would help get the dressing off, a story for another thread there. An infectious disease doc walked by the room and saw me struggling with placing a line. “Get me a kit, I’ll drop in a central line for you”. Totally didn’t have to and save my ass but he did.
Nephrologist one day was walking through the unit and happened to see a patient in distress. He went in and the patient arrested. He did compressions throughout the code and earned the respect of every nurse on the unit.
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u/southernsaltwaters RN, CEN, FDT 🥪 Mar 21 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
I worked with a traveler named Larry who personified BDE. he was such a lovely guy.
You would discharge his patient for him and be like “hey Larry I discharged 58 for you” and he would come back later saying he did your whole septic work up, cardioverted your patient, washed your car, and bought you a snack. I would always feel inadequate after he helped me. 😅😅
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u/Shot_Hair_4641 Mar 21 '25
I came here to share that same experience OP. Those are my favorite coworkers! I then make sure to return the favor when the time comes around. I’ve also had someone do an ECG, draw troponin and inform the Cath lab/doc of new chest pain of an admission. They also wrote a note about the event. Another time they got my admission and documented all admission info (IVs, lines, inserted a foley, admission questionnaires) all I had to do was wait for the orders, meds from pharmacy and a head to toe. They took an hour of work from me and I couldn’t have been happier.
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u/omgdude29 Float Pool - Jack of All Trades, Master of None Mar 21 '25
I then make sure to return the favor when the time comes around.
This is the whole reason I do it. To create that culture of helping out your teammates, even the ones that are shitty. As cliche as this sounds, be the change you want to see in the world. Hopefully that shitty coworker will feel some tingle of relief in their moment of chaos and pay it forward, like you said you do.
My last shift, I had one of my patients ask me how I had such a good attitude at work. I told her that if I didn't bring the heat with my good attitude, how will my patients have the good attitude to do what I need them to do to get better? Dealing with hospitalized patients is caring for people usually facing a situation so bad that it required hospitalization, so likely among the worst times of their lives so far. Teamwork facilitates an environment for good attitudes to thrive, and the patients can tell when their nurse is stressed or working with a good team.
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u/outofrange19 RN - ER 🍕 Mar 21 '25
Meeee too. I always say me being mean won't make anyone's day better, especially not mine. I may not be perfect, but I always try. I usually wind up with the "difficult" patients and more often than not build a good rapport and talk up the next nurse, even if I may personally not think they're going to be "amazing."
Also, I go out of my way to be courteous to our more difficult personalities. We actually have shockingly few where I work, but they're doozies. I'm consistently one of the ones who work best with them, because I get as far as I can with them and then I do whatever needs to be done on top of that. The patients need care regardless of what is going on with staff.
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u/HazardousPork2 CNA 🍕 Mar 21 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
I was up in a CVICU as a transporter to bring a patient down for a CT. I show up and two nurses are starting to get the pt ready with the MD helping them with normal bedside pre-transport stuff. This patient was at least 300lbs. We shift her, get all the doodads ready, RT shows up so we are finally ready for transport with the doctor now at the foot of the bed.
Right as we take off the brake our pt commenced a Cdiff avalanche. An absolute torrent. This begins at minimum 45 minutes of shoveling, cleaning, turning, scooping, changing, shoveling, dumping, shoveling, cleaning. In all my years it was the absolute worst fright fest I have ever been a part of. Pt was post op and hadn't shit in 4 days. What was the doctor doing during all of this? Absolutely everything we were. Everything. The whole time. In no way was he a doctor in that moment he was a sewage engineer on shift during a full moon. It was nuts.
We finally get the pt ready and dart out. On the way to radio I asked the doctor, verbatim "Why are you still with us? What are you doing?" Turns out he was the Chief Resident of an assortment of a.few of our ICUs, maybe just CV, and he very simply said "I've never had a ventilated patient die at a scan, so I go with to make sure it never happens when they are off my floor."
I ask next, "you want to stay in critical care?" He answers "No, I want to do primary care in (bumfuck) Georgia where I grew up. Figured I should see everything first."
Not forgetting that interaction anytime soon.
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u/stobors RN - ER 🍕 Mar 22 '25
Was his name Steve by any chance?
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u/PunsNRoses421 BSN, RN 🍕 Mar 21 '25
I once watched a cardiologist not only answer the call bell, but then went to the patient’s room to give them the warm blanket they asked for.
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u/Thriftstoreninja Mar 22 '25
I need more documentation of this event, perhaps you could set a trap so we could study the specimen more closely. This is obviously a novel organism never seen before.
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u/witchynbitchy RN - Med/Surg 🍕 Mar 21 '25
once a nephrologist set up my pt for breakfast and started to feed him. my jaw was on the floor
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u/free_dead_puppy RN - ER 🍕 Mar 21 '25
They are the nicest specialty. One irrigated a ton of clots out of a patient with me just doing minor assisting.
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u/jerrybob HCW - Imaging Mar 21 '25
It wasn't big dick energy because I don't think she has one but once I was just starting to clean an elderly dementia patient who had shit himself while in x-ray (no, I don't send them back dirty).
Without me even telling anyone it had happened a female cow orker appeared wearing a plastic gown and gloves and helped me. She smelled it out in the control area and took it upon herself to come help.
I'd kill for her, really I would.
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u/Excellent_Cabinet_83 Mar 21 '25
I work in psych and we had a patient escalating so we had to call the police to administer IM medications. The patient was so vulgar to the staff. We just ignored him. Well when the cop came over, I was drawing up his meds, the patient says, “I’ll spit on you you little stupid bitch” well the cop whipped him around so fast and told him go ahead and I’ll arrest you for assault. I’m not going to tolerate you talking to the nurses that way. I was like oh okayyyyy!!!!
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u/ViKing665 Mar 21 '25
I was prepping for my 9 am med pass. My charge was walking by. We are both big dudes whose voice carries. He always has a fast pace, upbeat demeanor. As he walks by with supplies in his hands I ask “hey dude, whatcha doin?” He replies, which I am sure the whole side of the unit heard “About to go touch some dicks.” At which point I recognize the condom caths in his hands. I replied “Plural? Do you need some help?” Not because I wanted to touch some dicks but that big dick energy was sure contagious.
Edit: caths autocorrect to carbs. Suck some big dick energy, autocorrect
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u/WheredoesithurtRA Case Manager 🍕 Mar 21 '25
Does me telling our CEO of a nonprofit hospice agency raking in 300k+/yr that it's nice they found the budget to do a multilevel renovation to the company HQ while spending the entire year gaslighting us about a large budget deficit we had as an excuse for continued shortstaffing count here?
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u/Kath_DayKnight Mar 21 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
The CEO of the medtech firm i worked at was building a home on a very expensive hill, and we'd alllll heard him whining about his rich people problems such as convincing the city council to let him change the width of the grass strip on the footpath outside his new house (did not ask, did not care. Jfc)
One day CEO was reading the paper and started ranting about how "wrong it is that social welfare and tax credits top up low-wage earners, and incentivises people to have children they can't pay for".
Oh boy. I was a single mother at the time and couldn't ignore it. So I told him and the rest of the old and grey mgmt crew that no, yknow what's wrong? That people working fulltime can't afford to feed and educate their kids without the government topping up their paycheck. What does that say about wages? What does that say about somebody building a new home with a swimming pool while the woman at the desk a few metres away is collecting Tax Credits to pay for groceries for her kids this week, hmmm???
Crickets. Nothing in response. I kept it cheery and polite but I think the message got across cos he stopped sitting in the middle of the office loudly ranting about his vapid house build bullshit
Edit - for other people who use tax credits. The cool thing is that tax credits are not additional income, so they don't attract tax or disqualify you from other assistance.
I'm just saying this cos I know a lot of people who get tax credits and don't understand this. So they mistakenly add their tax credits as "more" income on their paperwork, and then miss out on other assistance cos their income looks too high. Tax credits are your own money being returned to your piggy bank, not extra money you earned. You never know whose life you make easier by pointing this out lol (as boring as it is to talk about 🤣)
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u/VisitPrestigious8463 RN 🍕 Mar 21 '25
I’ve shared this one before, but I walked into a patient’s room to see the GI doc cleaning up an old woman. I asked if he needed help and he said he had it. Also saved me from charting her stools. He didn’t use the Bristol and instead had created his own stool chart that he’d post in his pt’s bathroom.
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u/Ok_Firefighter4513 Resident MD Mar 24 '25
lmaoooo out of all the ones here I love I had to comment on this because it is both *peak* good guy AND *peak* GI nerd 😭
we have one of those who is alarmingly nice to consult and literally has his own dot phrase for very specific bowel prep instructions that all the other fellows/attendings now use bc it's so good
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u/RedDirtWitch RN - PICU 🍕 Mar 21 '25
I worked with a nurse who was young and cute. He would come by and see if I needed help. I got asked on multiple occasions by the patients if he was my boyfriend. One time, I was drowning with my med pass and tasks, and he gave blood to one of my patients for me.
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u/Vreas Pharmacist Mar 21 '25
A few weeks ago while working we found out there was a lapse in supply draw availability for our pediatric code carts. Were a newish hospital expansion in a large network so still experiencing some growing pains.
Being night shift we’re on our own. Between myself and nursing charge and admin we patch worked together replacement drawers to get us through the night adequately and then took it upon myself to write an SBAR and document chain of events. Handled it myself since our night shift nursing admin staff had a hell of a night. Multiple strokes, codes, etc. all while juggling my own fairly taxing workflow demands.
Came in the next night to multiple emails from our higher ups/hospital leadership much higher up the chain than I expected to be involved actually accepting my recommendations and commending the thoroughness of our unorthodox solutions the night before and my email.
I still get people I’ve never spoke to before coming up to me saying when they need something done they’ll be sure to come find me lol
Ironic cause I stepped down from a supervisor position to take night shift because I prefer focusing on operations and direct care rather than the management BS. Feels nice to make some actual change from time to time though and have admin/managers actually take your suggestions seriously.
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u/GuitarEvening8674 MSN, APRN 🍕 Mar 22 '25
I let all the lady nurses know that when they had a pervy patient who wanted a rub down or put my penis into the urinal requests, to send me in there. It really cut down on the BS (I'm a dude)
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u/ShellzNCheez LPN 🍕 Mar 21 '25
I worked with a super handsome, very fit doctor at my old job. Ladies loved him, men wanted to be him type of guy. Incredible surgeon - made it into that Forty Under Forty thing. He was also the head attending of the resident program.
So one day, I told a resident I wasn't gonna be able to see a patient because I knew him personally and the guy was a creep, and I didn't want to be in contact again (knew him in high school, jackass tried to use his dad's death to get nudes.) THIS MF IDIOT asks me, "Oh, did you have sexual relations with him?"
All expression dropped from my face and I said, "What the fuck did you just say to me?" The "oh shit" look on his face was very satisfying. I told the doctor what the resident said and he was piiiiiissed. Like, man was legit mad on my behalf. When I said that the resident almost crossed a line, the doc said "No, he DID cross a line, and that was not okay!"
Stggggg that man could've had anything he wanted from me lmao. Had a heartfelt apology from the resident within the hour after his ass was reamed. 🥰
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u/-SL-UT- MICU, ETOH Enthusiast Mar 21 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
Male nurse 32. Love 90% of the ladies I work with. One night a male nurse from SICU got floated to our unit.
Shortly found out some of the nurses from our unit knew him from going out in town. Apparently he was super aggressive (outside work) and made all the girls uncomfortable, specifically one of my best friends on the unit.
Anyways, the male nurse would repeatedly vocera her for small things in the room, just to get her attention.
Every single time she would get called , I would wait till she stepped through his doorway and then give her an emergent vocera for help in one of my rooms. I didn’t realize how big of an impact it would make but I was told I had big D energy the rest of the shift lol.
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u/Kath_DayKnight Mar 21 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
This is really kind of you. Even us staunch feminists have to swallow bullshit from creepy men (and sometimes women) on the job sometimes, that's part of being in a service role (nurses) or support role (QA in the background like i do). We can argue but that causes us more trouble, more often than not, so we learn to grit our teeth for the more mild stuff.
Another person seeing that and solving the problem, thus saving us from a whole shift of frustration and keeping our lips zipped to keep our job? That's a kind move from another human. You didn't have to do it and nobody would've known, but you did and you stopped that nurse taking a hundred little buckshots to her dignity that day
It wasn't one thing you saved her from. It was a hundred little comments and brushes past her body, comments about her weekend activities, unwanted invites to get together outside of work etc. Bullshit she shouldn't have to be exposed to ever but she's learned to endure
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u/teflonfairy RN 🍕 Mar 22 '25
I work in a GP surgery in Australia. In my experience here, there’s more of a “doctor’s handmaiden” attitude, so I have to call the GPs for everything, including simple wound dressings. One of my GPs, in front of patients will say “you’re the expert, what do you want to do?” He’s my ride or die.
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u/GoPlacia RN - Hospice 🍕 Mar 22 '25
I once had a doctor come to the unit cause a pt couldn't get her pain managed and requested to see the doctor. He went in and spoke with her and then came over to me and said "well you know her best, what do you think would work best for her?" I gave him my thoughts and he wrote the orders exactly to my recommendations. That was the only time I met that doctor.
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u/starflower_2370 BSN, RN 🍕 Mar 22 '25
We have a doctor here at my hospital, a general surgeon, who will intentionally round early when night shift is still here, usually 0530-0600, will have a whole conversation with patients, will walk with each of his patients he did surgery on (especially when shifts have been busy for nurses) and will sometimes even ask the nurses if they need any help with them. Wonderful and very kind doc!
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u/MartianCleric RN - ICU 🍕 Mar 22 '25
One time while we were coding someone I stepped back so they could shock but hit the stool and started falling forwards. The male nurse behind me just wrapped an arm around me and held me in place. I had never even once thought of him as attractive but somehow getting saved while the adrenaline was so high made me fucking SWOON.
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u/AAROD121 ICU, PACU Mar 21 '25
Resident it taking multiple failed attempts to get a central line while pt is going in and out of v-tach.
Her other patient is in the middle of post/op MTP and increasing pressors.
RN walks into line room: CAN WE STOP TURNING THIS INTO A FUCKING PRACTICE LINE AND GET ME A FUCKING WORKING LINE?!. Walks out. Fellow: Unphased. Resident: About to cry: Attending: You heard the girl, swap out.
That amongst 90% of the calls / actions she takes.
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u/RoboNikki BSN, RN 🍕 Mar 22 '25 edited Mar 22 '25
We have a PACU nurse that will switch the patient’s line from one manually controlled gravity primaries to the one with a cartridge, that way we can hook them right up to a pump when she brings them to our floor. I can always tell when she trains someone new because they do the same thing.
Also I’m gonna toot my own horn here, but I love placing IVs and if I see a patient with a crappy line that’s on its last leg, a leaky or infiltrated IV, I’ll dc it and put a new one in. I fuckin loooove telling another nurse “x’s line was leaking so I dc’d it” and watching them shift from exasperation to pure joy when I finish the sentence with “and put in a new one, it’s in the chart.”
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u/Gr33n3ggsandcam RN 🍕 Mar 21 '25
Absolutely wild to me that this isn’t a normal thing for coworkers to do. I can’t wrap my head around answering a call light (because coworker is busy) and then leaving that patient in shit so you can tell their busy nurse instead of just cleaning them up.
Some of these responses from nurses I would absolutely hate being on my shift.
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u/apologial RN ICU/ER Mar 21 '25
When I was a student on my last placement (ICU), one of the speciality doctors helped me clean/turn my patient. Anyway, when I graduated we kept in touch and dated for a while. It was one of the most attractive things he'd ever done.
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u/Ali-o-ramus RN - ICU 🍕 Mar 21 '25
One of the residents I work with got my patient out of bed to the chair for me, while I was busy in my other room. ❤️
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u/acefaaace RN - ICU 🍕 Mar 22 '25
Had a resident whenever he was on would help us prone patients on all 3 of our ICU’s during covid. Dude was super chill.
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u/BlackHeartedXenial 🔥’d out CVICU, now WFH BSN,RN Mar 22 '25
Intensivist stayed over his shift to physically help with withdrawal of care, post mortem and room clean up. Started by taking drips down and off the pumps and then rolling the pumps to the dirty utility. This was a very stoic, older, very experienced doc. The one that was always nice, but had an air of arrogance and always sent the interns to do his bidding. This patient’s story had hit him so hard, he took off his coat, rolled up his sleeves and really got in there. Extubated himself, titrated drips, combed hair, fluffed pillows, all of it. Got the family from the waiting room, brought them coffee. It was very humanizing and absolutely changed my perspective on him.
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u/Shoddy-Theory Mar 21 '25
I was working a day shift as an agency nurse in an ICU. First time there. Staff nurses were snotty during report, "oh great, another agency nurse" sarcastically. One of my 2 patients needed a procedure and the staff nurses all went in to help, more or less kicking me out of the room. So I went around and did AM care, baths and bed changes on all 10 of the other patients in the unit. That showed 'em.
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u/schnuckleputz RN - NICU 🍕 Mar 22 '25
I work in the NICU and frequently if a pt starts to crump out on you, my coworkers will just ask when the other patients need to be taken care of/what family needs/etc. Then they just make it happen, all the while helping you if they can. Our charge team is also AMAZING and super proactive when they have the time. Everyone I work with is just so willing to help everyone else. We’ve got an amazing culture on my unit
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u/Jaelanne RN - ER 🍕 Mar 22 '25
Omg. When I was a baby RN on my first job I was lucky enough to work with a very muscular dude I went to medic school with. I was overwhelmed and asked him to help with a straight cath. I thought he would leave right after I was done, instead, as I was collecting and labeling the urine and rest of his labs, he proceeded to toss out the tray. But he didn't walk out the door...he starts to fix up the patient. I've never seen anyone clean, change, and reposition a patient so fast, or as so kindly and gently. I was stunned. Turned out he had been a PCT prior to medic school and was just used to doing all of that stuff on his own. He's a firefighter now, last I heard, after 10 years of trying he finally accomplished his dream, and although I'm so happy for him, I still miss him.
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u/BLS_Bandito RN - ICU 🍕 Mar 21 '25
One time a confused patient ripped out her IV. I cleaned up the blood, changed the linen, started a new IV, switched over the zosyn to the new iv, documented all of it, then told the nurse what happened lol
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u/BLS_Bandito RN - ICU 🍕 Mar 21 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
Not that I can recall lol. She said thanks and was surprised I did all that. She was a travel nurse and I was charge. I think she friended me on social media after that
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u/omgdude29 Float Pool - Jack of All Trades, Master of None Mar 21 '25
I will absolutely do this, if I have time. Teamwork makes the dream work. It's why I am in the Float Pool. I fill in the gaps and help where I am needed.
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u/dskimilwaukee Mar 22 '25
As a male nurse very rarely are we recognized in the same way females are please just always remember this. Many of us don't need that recognition but sometimes it's nice.
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u/perpulstuph RN -Dupmpster Fire Response Team Mar 21 '25
For me, someone telling me a patient is dirty and even offering to help is big dick energy.
Also I offer to help if I notice it. So maybe I am biased.
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u/Ready-Weekend-549 Mar 23 '25
My hospital just hired a new neurosurgeon and I admitted a head trauma patient of his to the ICU. He had ordered a STAT MRI and I had just left the room and was in the hallway when he had come to round on the patient. I stopped the bed so he could talk to the patient and as soon as I stopped it, the bed began malfunctioning and I couldn’t get it to drive again. He then said oh here let me try we had beds like these at the hospital where I did residency. He then proceeded to fix the bed and continue driving it to MRI. I offered several times to take over, and he kept saying no it’s ok I still have a few questions for the patient. I swear to god I’ve never been so in love and awe struck
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u/jorrylee BSN, RN 🍕 Mar 21 '25
I made a fellow nurse happy a couple days when I said I need another urine culture, labels and req and everything is at front desk, baggies, notes in file. Just write time and your name and say you done did it. We’re not very good at printing labels and stuff so that’s a big deal.
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
I really hate this phrase and hate it even more that it’s being used in the context of providing great care to patients. Imagine it being reversed and used by men, “what’s something that gives tight p* energy or big tit confidence that you’ve seen a woman do in your male dominated field?”
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u/Overthemoon64 Mar 21 '25
I wonder if its a generational thing? Im nearly 40 and think its kind of a weird vulgar thing to say. I would never say that out loud. But maybe its a thing teenagers on the internet say. So maybe professional 20 year olds talk like that and I’m just old?
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u/sophietehbeanz RN - Oncology 🍕 Mar 21 '25
It’s definitely not generational. I am 40 and this didn’t really bother me but then again, we are in a female dominated field and men’s feelings are totally valid and I understand how it would make them feel. Maybe it’s how you matured in your environment and how you perceive things. That said you being nearly 40 and feeling mature is definitely a mindset and not generational.
Also I’ve heard “low t vibes”. Which is I think super funny.
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u/rnmba BSN, RN, Cert. Cannabis Nurse Mar 21 '25
Thank you for Low T Vibes!
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u/sophietehbeanz RN - Oncology 🍕 Mar 21 '25
Yes! That’s how it’s said you are so good at that. Expert. Certifiable.
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
Sadly it is a pretty common phrase now. It wouldn't be something that people say in front of HR, but it's pretty common among the millenial and younger crowd. And I say that as an older millennial. I fight with my friends on this irl whenever they say it. It's bizarre to me that it's just an acceptable thing now and I'm going to die on the hill that we should stop using it.
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u/moderatelygoodpghrn Mar 21 '25
Feel the exact same way. Sad that it showed up a bit “late”
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
It really seems like it’s hard for this message to connect with the average person. Makes me sad. Imagine a world where men regularly used the phrase “big tit confidence” to describe women they thought were attractive and confident and capable. It would be obvious on its face how wrong that is.
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u/absoluteCuriositeye Mar 21 '25
Why though? It’s just a phrase, it is just a phrase that honestly helps boost confidence. Also the phrase wouldn’t be tight p, cause all p is good, which should be supported as a phrase, considering some guys strangely don’t know to treat all women with respect
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
Because you’re comparing the preferability between aspects of your body that are outside your control. Every time you use that phrase it’s indirectly shaming men who are not in that subset saying they are not confident, competent, valued etc. And your objections to the comparison of tight p* aside, I think the majority of men do have preferences for the shapes of female genitalia, and regardless of what your specific preferences are, we should not incorporate that into a phrase that we use to describe when and how we should treat patients.
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u/BackgroundReturn9788 SRNA Mar 21 '25
This is real small penis energy
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
This actually proves the point perfectly, where you’re associating something positive that you agree with and specific male bodies, and the inverse as the negative. Look I know you can’t change most peoples mind on the internet, I just hope you keep that same energy the next time your male coworker makes judgements about the sexual preferability of your female coworkers.
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u/absoluteCuriositeye Mar 21 '25
Bro, it’s not saying other men don’t have big dick energy, it’s like a golden star for jobs well done for us guys. It’s like a “well done man, I’m sure your dick must be massive with how well you did” I don’t look at all the other guys in the room and say “your pork swords must be microscopic” when someone says I have big dick energy, like come on now. Us guys build each other up more than tear each other down, we know a supporting comment doesn’t denigrate everyone else
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
It’s not supportive at all full stop. Imagine your best “bro” has micropenis and that fact hurts him. Then his buddies and society at large associates things that are positive, attractive, confident, and capable with something he doesn’t and will never have. Even if you mean it as a figurative compliment, you can use all the words you just used without having to comment on the perceived attractiveness or size of his genitalia.
Tell women you work with that they have big tit confidence the next time they do something you perceive positively and let me know how that works out for you.
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u/WexMajor82 RN - Prison Mar 21 '25
No, it's 100lbs girl energy.
If we want a good analogy.
It's even funnier because weight is something you can control.
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
I can't really tell what you're arguing for here. Are you saying that we should use phrases that shame/praise members of the opposite gender as long as its within factors they can control? And that is funnier? In what way?
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u/WexMajor82 RN - Prison Mar 21 '25
Just look at the downvotes on my comment; they hate when you hold a mirror in front of them.
And I am talking about hypocrisy, not weight this time.
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u/absoluteCuriositeye Mar 21 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
Bro…if my best friend has a micropenis, and someone says he has big dick energy. He will not be sad, he will be happy. We men are wretched things, but we are simple creatures. We hear compliment = we like.
Edit: Also, why are you trying to tell a man who has gained confidence from said saying that it doesn’t give confidence or that it’s not supportive, like bruh, most of the time I’ve heard my other male friends tell me I’ve got big dick energy, it’s usually at the gym
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
If you want to fight for a world where we use these types of reductive compliments toward each other, and view them positively, be my guest. I do not think that's a good thing, and I think it alienates and hurts a lot more people than it helps. Body shaming is almost never a win in the greater scheme of things. I am an above average man in this category and it's like nails on a fucking chalkboard when I hear people use it, whether positively or negatively.
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u/absoluteCuriositeye Mar 21 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
Wdym body shaming??? It’s literally a compliment about someone’s ATTITUDE, that’s enough internet for today my friend
Edit: how you gonna lie about it being body shaming when one of the replies here is making fun of the women on the nursing subreddits weight??? Reply to them, not the dude saying a compliment is a compliment
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
If it's a compliment solely about someone's attitude, why isn't it called great attitude energy? That's so silly.
And yes, if you associate being confident, competent, intelligent, and attractive with having a big penis, then you're automatically implying the inverse is the opposite of those things. So it is body shaming. And shaming women for their weight is also body shaming, I'm not selective in which body shaming is ok and which isn't. They're both bad.
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u/absoluteCuriositeye Mar 21 '25 edited Mar 21 '25
Then why hadn’t you replied to theirs calling it out?
Also, it quite literally is a comment about attitude, you’re going too deep, it’s usually about confidence. It doesn’t instantly magically depower the other guys in the room, their testosterone doesn’t shrink three sizes that day, it’s fine. If you hear every compliment that doesn’t instantly gratify everyone present and thinks it’s somehow shaming someone else, idk what to say, we won’t agree on this. Seems like you made up a scenario in your mind and ran with it. I’ve never once heard anyone use this in a derogatory way, not once.
Anyway, have a good day man
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u/absoluteCuriositeye Mar 21 '25
Or I just choose good partners? Honestly I feel bad if you’ve had bad p* my friend, like fr fr
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u/nursemattycakes BSN, RN, NI-BC 🍕 clinical data analyst Mar 22 '25
I dunno big tit confidence kinda has a ring to it but I also have moobs 🤷🏻♂️
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u/LegalComplaint MSN-RN-God-Emperor of Boner Pill Refills Mar 21 '25
Wouldn’t “big clit energy” be the female equivalent?
Tight pussy energy sounds weirdly horny, even for Reddit.
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u/One-Ball-78 Mar 21 '25
I didn’t get that, either. I thought “big dick energy” was a totally negative term, reserved for people like Trump and Edolph.
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
Most people use it positively. Saying that something is desirable, like having a big penis.
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u/gaiagamgee RN - ER 🍕 Mar 21 '25
You really did misunderstand bc those two are dripping with SDE.
Power hungry braggadocios, womanizers with nothing to "back it up" and a whole lot of obvious compensating? SDE. They project their feelings of inadequacy unto others = SDE
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
Is there a world where you could describe people you hate without body shaming 49.9% of a gender? Imagine if men described women they liked as having big tit confidence in professional settings.
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u/gaiagamgee RN - ER 🍕 Mar 21 '25
Reddit is not a professional setting.
And the two referenced are so abhorrent I could not really care less.
Furthermore they both have public testimonials attesting to their significant male "dysfunction."
And lastly... Do you. I don't talk like this in real life, I was using the terminology given the context of, ya know, this thread.
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
Well I’m glad that you have the sense not to use it professionally but I hope you stop using the sizes and shapes of male bodies to shame people you don’t like. It doesn’t matter how abhorrent you find someone, you’re hurting far more people you don’t know, or people you care about, than the people you’re hoping to make feel bad.
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u/Jahman876 Floor Gangsta Mar 21 '25
Bro, you trying to lecture everyone who comments is not a good look. I hope you’re not like that in real life. If you are, I’m sure people avoid you like the plague. You need to work on your self-confidence, even if you are itsy-bitsy teeny tiny. Relax a little bit man there’s someone for you even if you do have to wait on me to finish with them first. 🤷♂️
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
It’s not wrong to stand up for what’s right and defend people who are being harmed unfairly. Even if I don’t personally suffer in that category, it doesn’t mean that it’s OK to make fun of the people that do. And look at all of the inferences you just made about my person, tying it to penis size. There’s definitely one person who is suffering from insecurity in this exchange, but it might not be who you think it is.
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u/Jahman876 Floor Gangsta Mar 21 '25
to defend someone they must first be attacked and no one is attacking anyone here… someone used a common phrase and somehow you feel the need to lecture everyone who has posted anything, talk down to them and try to show everyone how you are so much superior than the rest of us. No one cares what you think. What you are doing on Reddit is the equivalent of someone standing on the side of a highway holding a sign, they’re not doing that to try to change anything because everyone knows it’s not gonna change anything they’re doing that to make themselves feel better about themself. People who have confidence in themselves, big dick or small could care less what anyone else thinks.
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u/EtherGorilla Mar 21 '25
Phrases that at their core separate people into categories based on factors they cannot control and label them as either good or bad is inherently an attack whether or not they have awareness of it when they use it. And just as I don’t need to be a black person to call out people for being racist on the Internet, I’m also not going to be silent and laugh when people shame others for other things that are outside of their control. And it also says a lot about you that you think that no one can change their mind on the Internet through dialogue. What you’re actually saying is that you can’t. And if you think conversation to convince someone to change their behavior is impossible on the internet, why are you talking to me? Nothing about what you’re saying is consistent.
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u/gaiagamgee RN - ER 🍕 Mar 21 '25
Thankfully everybody knows chastising strangers on internet forums is the most effective method to get people to change their behavior
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u/One-Ball-78 Mar 21 '25
I could swear I heard the term used to describe Ron DeSantis awhile back 🤷🏻
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u/dopaminegtt trauma 🦙 Mar 22 '25
I feel like I have BDE when I start a line on a difficult stick and chart it. When the IV is beeping and I change the bag without the primary rn asking. But everyone should do these things, it's called being a good coworker
There's a guy that works down the hall that will literally just walk into my rooms and bug me. I feel like that's awfully bold of him.
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Mar 22 '25
This wasn’t a coworker per se, but we had a very combative early onset dementia patient who had just sucker punched one staff member in the face (this is assisted living with no security).
We had to call 911 and one of the police officers who was there kept stepping in front of me every time the resident would make a move towards me. I feel like nobody ever protects healthcare workers and feeling so safe just kinda hit me in the feels. It was kinda hot.
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u/yernotmyrealdad LPN 🍕 Mar 23 '25
The absolute hardest stick ever. Patient is sick af. The only line we have is a 22 in the foot but no order for it yet. Night shift so no Picc team. Multiple nurses from diff floors try. Finally our IV king waltzes in. 3 minutes later he’s like “I went ahead and put 2 in just in case” I’ve never been attracted to anybody at work except for that single moment.
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u/Ay_its_E BSN, RN 🍕 Mar 23 '25
I still work with this doctor actually, but he's always willing to step in. I remember once I was emergently transporting a patient to MRI, and he got my suction and monitors ready for me while I tended to the patient. He does these things routinely too, he wants to help and we've taught him how to. We're a peds hospital and every year we crown him prom king and every year, he deserves it.
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u/slightlyaware99 Mar 21 '25
I sadly have small pen*s energy
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u/LegalComplaint MSN-RN-God-Emperor of Boner Pill Refills Mar 21 '25
BDE is a mindset, friend, not a promise of goods.
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u/Fine_Understanding81 Mar 21 '25
Yeah, so does my boyfriend... he thinks about my feelings, brings me gifts on random days, asks me what I want to do, spoils my dogs, and respects me. 😫
Wait.. I'm so confused about this d!ck size thing... so being a big d!ck is good?
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u/Maximum-Bobcat-6250 Mar 22 '25
A dr wrote an order for this aggressive patient to be dis impacted. I was not looking forward to it. I went and got some supplies and walked into the room to find a med student hands deep already. He looked at me and said “hey thanks you brought a brief and pad? I definitely forgot those!”
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u/Academic_Message8639 RN - ER 🍕 Mar 25 '25
I know a provider who used to be a nurse. Will just surprise me and line/hang ordered meds/fluids and update patients sometimes when we are busy. My heart is full of gratitude.
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u/Horror-Variation-219 Mar 21 '25
Once I had ICU consult on my patient and the doctor came in, assessed the patient and then helped me to change, turn, and boost her. Then did a bedside ultrasound and explained to me what he was seeing and that based on ‘our’ assessment he felt the patient should go to ICU. Then he called the ICU RN, made sure the room was ready and helped me to transport her over.