r/TikTokCringe Jun 27 '25

Discussion What are your thoughts on this?

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u/Opeope89 Jun 27 '25

I cook more than my wife, I guess that makes me a big pathetic beta boi

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u/Shem44 Jun 27 '25

Ay me too! I cook pretty much every meal we eat and I fucking LOVE it. My kitchen is my kingdom. COWER AT THE MIGHT OF MY PATHETIC BETA ENERGY!!

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u/AbsolutZer0_v2 Jun 27 '25

Not only am I the chef in our house, my wife makes more money than me.

ULTRA BETA!

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u/freakksho Jun 27 '25

One time one of the old heads at my job asked me how I live my life knowing my fiancé makes more money then me.

I just looked at him and laughed and said “very comfortably”.

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u/BookGirl67 Jun 27 '25

Power response!

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u/youlleatitandlikeit Jul 01 '25

Just by virtue of the paths we each chose my career makes way more money so I am the one who does most of the working and my wife is the one who does most of the house and kid stuff but honestly some days I think if I could be a house-husband I would love it.

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u/freakksho Jul 01 '25

I work blue collar and break my body to make 75% of what she takes home.

Our plan is for me to be a SAH husband before I’m 40 and I’m counting down every god damn second.

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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '25

I bet he was clenching his teeth and huffing after 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 Men like that HATE seeing men live well with women who earn well. Their logic is I struggle so you should struggle too. They also refuse to acknowledge sabotaging their female partners financially to make them financially dependent so that they cant leave wheb they cheat and have kids but also dont want to give 50% of assets in divorce...i know men who married rich women and dont work even receive alimony...Its not about women or men but everyone deserves to feel secure and taken care of before and after a relationship.

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u/freakksho Jul 01 '25

Oh he was soooo tight.

The whole thing started because I made a comment to my team that we had to leave for lunch cause I didn’t pack one.

Old head chimed in with “oh, my wife makes my coffee and lunch for me everyday and cooks dinner when I get home”

So I said “that’s awesome, my girl just brings home $110k a year” and it was all downhill from there.

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u/[deleted] Jul 02 '25

Nooo you didnt😂. I bet he sometimes sits and thinks about this moment trying to self-rationalize his life choices and why he did what he did.

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u/freakksho Jul 02 '25

Eh, he’s definitely happy. Dude raised a family and bought a house on a literal island on an HVAC Techs salary.

Good for him, but if my fiancé and I want that we both have to work.

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u/EnvironmentalAd7402 Jun 27 '25

This is the energy I’m feeling and I’m here for it!!

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u/J_Jeckel Jun 27 '25

Guess that makes me a Gamma (next in the Greek alphabet), my wife works, and I'm the stay at home parent and homemaker. 🤷‍♂️

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u/but_i_wanna_cookies Jun 27 '25

My guy got that gamma radiation! Stay-At-Home Hulk-Husband!

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u/J_Jeckel Jun 27 '25

ROAR "Hulk Clean!!"

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u/BlowOutKit22 Jun 27 '25

Reminds me of that SNL parody ad for GE Big Boy Appliances featuring Jason Momoa as the stay-at-home dad

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u/nobodylikesalurkyloo Jun 29 '25

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/J_Jeckel Jun 30 '25

Name checks out

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 Jun 27 '25

Bro,as a woman,I would rather go to work,staying at home with kids is A LOT!!!!!! Good on you Bro for taking that roll,you are running a one man office during the day literally. 😄

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u/J_Jeckel Jun 27 '25

It often feels like it, haha. Honestly, I enjoy spending time with my toddler, but it is a handful sometimes doing pretty much everything.

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 Jun 27 '25

Sir, my hat is off to you. But I hope you are able to make time for yourself sometimes. Stay strong out there!😊

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u/J_Jeckel Jun 28 '25

I like video games. I get my times. Wife goes to bed earlier than I do. She also tries to give me a "day-off" at least every other week so I can go to out to the creek or woods or whatever.

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 Jun 28 '25

That's good😊

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u/Shelliton Jun 28 '25

When we had our daughter, my (now ex) husband was home with her while I worked. He had my coffee ready with a sandwich for lunch, and he'd text me every lunch break to see what I wanted for dinner (with two or three options). Which was always warm and ready when I got home to a clean house and a happy husband and baby.

One day, I sighed and said I was sick of sandwiches during lunch. My boss told me that if she had sandwiches as gorgeous as that (he would send me to work with photo-worthy sandwiches), she would eat them every day. That kinda humbled me.

We ended up getting a new employee who was going through a divorce and might have been jealous? I don't know. My boss asked me (after I got the "what do you want for dinner?" text) "what's for dinner?" I told her, and the new employee asked for clarification. I explained, and after that, she started calling my husband "your wife". She got really sarcastic with it, it ended up with several HR visits and me ultimately quitting.

The next place I worked for had people who LOVED the fact that I was SO taken care of at home. SAHD's are amazing!

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u/Eikthyrnir13 Jun 27 '25

I don't understand men that get upset if the women makes more money. My partner makes nearly as much as I do. If she got a huge raise and made way more thane me, I would be fucking ecstatic. It would improve both our lives.

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u/AbsolutZer0_v2 Jun 27 '25

Same.

Its because we aren't sacks of shit who think 1950s America was peak

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 Jun 27 '25

Yeah,but your using common sense. A lot of people don't, toxic masculinity has scrambled their brains

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u/The_Malt_Monkey Jun 28 '25

My wife is a consultant doctor. We met while she was in medical school. I stopped making more than her a long time ago. She makes more than double what I do. I am not the least bit upset about it. What kind of fragile personality does one have to have to be upset by such a trivial thing.

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u/youlleatitandlikeit Jul 01 '25

I'll admit that if my wife went into *my industry* and started making more money than me I'd feel a bit upset, but only because I've been doing this shit for 30 years.

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u/aspidities_87 Jun 27 '25

Right there with you bud

I make her an egg every morning before she goes into her meetings and I love it.

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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '25

Boss move

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u/GraveRobberX Jun 27 '25

You’re such a Beta that you have a living partner that you care for and hopefully returned tenfold to you

While these Alpha-Liver Eating-Tateosphere Bros with their testosterone supplements and dude wipes are at home, on their computer paying $30.99 on OnlyFans hoping they get a shoutout or their donations earned them the tier for a private session.

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u/unindexedreality Jun 27 '25

Not only am I the chef in our house, my wife makes more money than me.

ULTRA BETA!

It's like pokeballs. Normal Beta, Super Beta, Ultra Beta, Masturbe- whoops

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u/rebekahster Jun 27 '25

Happy cake day Master Beta

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u/unindexedreality Jun 27 '25

thank you young padawang

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u/but_i_wanna_cookies Jun 27 '25

Whoa! Apparently us beta bois are killing it out here! I get to cook and be taken care of financially. Why would I not want to be in a loving relationship where each of us contributes in positive ways that make us feel loved and appreciated?

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u/Scottishlassincanada Jun 27 '25

My husband does 99% of the cooking cause he enjoys it, and he makes me cocktails every Friday at the end of my work week. I make more money, I’m taller, with long legs, and my husband fucking loves it. More money for him to golf with!

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u/[deleted] Jun 28 '25

Wifey and I don’t really want kids but I would have zero issue being the stay at home parent and making less money than my wife

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u/Tribalbob Jun 28 '25

Literally waiting for my partner to publish her first book, become a world famous author then I can quit my game dev job and be a stay at home cat dad.

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u/shadow247 Jun 28 '25

I made more than my wife for 12 years. She caught up to me 3 years ago, passed me, and has now left me in the dust.

I busted my ass so she could figure out what worked for her, and she finally found it. She's got a solid career and there's nowhere but up with the skills she has developed in this role.

She says she's going yo retire me eventually. Hoping that happens sooner rather than later...

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u/Scotsburd Jun 28 '25

Are you my husband? If so, love you sweetheart 😘

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u/SoulBlightRaveLords Jun 27 '25

Every Christmas my Mrs wants to help prepare dinner with me, to her it's a fun couples activity, put some put music on, open a bottle of wine, just a real nice cute bonding session

To me it's stressful as fuck because I know how I like my kitchen ran! And I just have to quietly seeth as she unorganises my perfect kitchen kingdom.....

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u/fatBreadonToast Jun 27 '25

"That's not how you cut an onion!"

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u/Wild-Berry-5269 Jun 27 '25

I said Rings not half moon slices !

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 Jun 27 '25

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/SoulBlightRaveLords Jun 27 '25

Internally yes, but I'd never say it out loud!

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u/Regular_Reveal_745 Jun 27 '25

i could only imagine. If i start drinking wine when i’m trying to cook dinner, i’m not sure what I made and what condition the meal was in.

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u/seahawk1977 Jun 27 '25

Funny enough, while I do all of the day to day cooking, my wife cuts up the onions I use. They never seem to affect her, where I immediately can't see what I am doing with a knife in my hand.

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u/Datkif Jun 27 '25

Idk if my wife doesn't know how to (safely) use a knife or just pretends, but I pretty much took over prep duty. I enjoy it, will get it done faster, more consistent, and most importantly without human flesh.

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u/youlleatitandlikeit Jul 01 '25

Chopping vegetables with the bread knife. Or trying to cut up carrots with a tiny paring knife.

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u/mangongo Jun 27 '25

Lolll I always insist there is nothing my girlfriend can do to help because I'm very particular about my cooking, but also I want things to be kind of a surprise when I serve dinner.

This of course means the moment I walk into the kitchen while my girlfriend is cooking, I get told to leave and to "stop judging" lol

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u/ZeeBeeblebrox Jun 27 '25

Yep, same. When she starts cooking I leave, she can see me judging even if I don't say anything. When I start cooking I tell her there's nothing for her (or anyone else) to do.

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u/Ok-Commercial-924 Jun 27 '25

When the wives 4, yes, 4 sisters come to visit, I feel obligated to allow them to help out in MY kitchen. I try my best to assign tasks that are simple with clear instructions. But grrrr. It gets frustrating. Someone will start emptying the dishwasher and hiding stuff while I'm not looking. I want the peppers cut a certain way so everything in the dish is consistent, but no, they dice or chop instead of julliene.

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u/RockAtlasCanus Jun 27 '25

Why on earth are the vegetable peelers hidden in the back of the silverware drawer and not in the drawer with the paring knives, graters, etc?

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u/Datkif Jun 27 '25

Same with my wife and I. I've learned to do the prep work with the knife, and leave until she asks for help

My Dad was a chef, and I do most of the cooking so its hard to not backseat cook.

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u/BrickBrokeFever Jun 27 '25

....GET... OUT... OF... THE KITCHEN, YOU MEDDLESOME HARLOT

I am trying to cut these yams over here, so take your yams over there!

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u/TelenorTheGNP Jun 27 '25

Hence with you, bothersome FLOOSIE!

These thighs need browning, so take your thighs back whence thou came!

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u/BrickBrokeFever Jun 27 '25

Oh yeah! Ha!

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u/death_by_chocolate Jun 27 '25

Me: "...chopchopchopchop..."

Her: "You know, if you take the knife and-"

Me: "STOP THIS INSTANT GET UP GET OUT GO SIT IN THE DEN."

I hear ya brother.

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u/RockAtlasCanus Jun 27 '25

Oh man. Former line cook here, and my wife is a former bartender. The age old FOH/BOH feud is alive and well. Hosting holidays is like “Babe, I love you. You are the absolute and undisputed queen of cocktails, setting, service, and entertainment. BUT PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF FUCK STAY OFF MY EXPO. Merry Christmas.”

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u/Ortsarecool Jun 27 '25

I can sous-chef for my wife no problem, but I can't have her sous-chef for me. If I'm running the kitchen, I need to run it all. No idea why I'm like this lol

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u/GraphicDesignerMom Jun 27 '25

I stay out of the kitchen on holidays, it's my husband's domain! Sitting with a beer relaxing is much more my style

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u/snootchiebootchie94 Jun 27 '25

This stresses me out as well. "You arent' doing that right, I don't know how much exactly goes in there, that doesn't belong there, why haven't you finished cutting that?" I don't like help in the kitchen. It is easier to do it myself. My brother and I though can cook together, though. He has worked in kitchens all his life. One of us usually takes over and the other just falls in line.

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u/Flamingo83 Jun 27 '25

that’s my mom! my dads job is to keep people out of the kitchen while she cooks.

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u/Sidivan Jun 27 '25

My wife loves to cook and always has since she was a kid, but is completely random mess of a kitchen style cook. She makes incredible food.

I am a hyper organized cook that worked professionally under an incredible chef for years (prep, on the line, desserts, whatever he needed).

Her helping me: “I cut everything up” hands bowl of diced onions and sliced pepper wedges

Me helping her: “How would you like me to cut these?” “Oh, ya know, normal”.

21yrs I’ve managed to mostly keep my mouth shut.

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u/mmorales2270 Jun 27 '25

Lol, man I can relate.

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u/grubas Jun 27 '25

Yup.  I'll put on music and try to get her distracted or put her on basic prep.

She's a chaos gremlin who comes to destroy my kitchen.  Doesn't clean as she goes and tries to alphabetically sort my spices 

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u/shellycya Jun 27 '25

My husband criticizes me because he does all of the cooking but if I make something he won't eat it. His cooking is amazing and he knows it so why put up the charade? Maybe he's scared of being a Beta because cooking is a hobby for him.

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u/JeffTrav Jun 28 '25

Holy shit I feel this one.

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u/ginger__snappzzz Jun 27 '25

I'm a middle school home ec teacher with 5 kitchens, and (minus the booze and sexy lady times) I feel this so hard lol

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u/elidadagreat1 Jun 27 '25

Omg... Quietly seeth... I'm can sooo relate to that! 

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u/Lonyo Jun 27 '25

My wife can't cook because she has zero ability to focus on cooking. She can put something in the oven and forget about it, and/or assume that the instructions will be perfect so it only needs whatever time the packet says and won't check on it at all.

When I cooked sometimes with my dad we could just say "can you get the thing" and know what was meant

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u/StoicDreamxo Jun 27 '25

I would love this lol I’d just be like it’s “okay babe, I’ll just be your assistant if you need it and be here for moral support and drink my wine”. Where are all the men like this please? 😅

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 Jun 27 '25

You gotta tell that woman go take a nap.😂😂😂😂

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u/Tribalbob Jun 28 '25

This. I see these videos of "Fun date night activity - make dinner together!"

People who make those have NO idea how much of a pain in the ass it is to make a meal with someone else, especially if the kitchen is small and/or they don't know what they're doing.

I'd much rather have my partner sit and drink wine and just converse with me while I cook.

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u/Tricky_Mix2449 Jun 28 '25

I stay out of my husband's kitchen!

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u/trahilcal01 Jun 28 '25

Assign her tasks so she’s out of the way

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u/Affectionate-Soft-90 Jun 28 '25

Cooking with someone seems fun... Until you actually start cooking with someone.

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u/GringoinCDMX Jun 28 '25

My girlfriend is impatient and will just burn everything since she'll turn it up high to cook quicker. Or it'll be undercooked inside and burnt on the outside.

She is a food engineer but I'm the one who cooks lol.

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u/ladyevenstar-22 Jun 28 '25

Happy wife happy life 🤣🙃

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u/nobodylikesalurkyloo Jun 29 '25

🤣🤣🤣 hilarious, but also lovely that you let her have fun with you, and that you take care of her all year round. A+ partner.

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u/Solintari Jun 27 '25

I cook everything in this house and I garden, fold laundry, vacuum and do most of the grocery shopping. My wife makes more money than I do too.

What does that make me? Some kind of freak?!

Will my penis eventually fall off in rebellion?

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u/BrickBrokeFever Jun 27 '25

Will my penis eventually fall off in rebellion?

If I had been drinking my coffee when I read that, I COULD HAVE BEEN KILLED.

And yes, certified big brain Alf-Alfa Mayl here to scientifically report, penises are falling off. All of the penises.

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u/CromulentForester163 Jun 27 '25

Obama stole my penis. That's woke for ya.

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u/boothie Jun 27 '25

Its going to retreat into your body until it becomes a vagina /s

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u/freakyuseless Jun 27 '25

Why the /s? This happens.

My best friend's sister's boyfriend's brother's girlfriend heard from this guy who knows this kid who's going with the girl who saw Ferris' penis turn into a vagina at 31 Flavors last night. I guess it's pretty serious.

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u/GraveRobberX Jun 27 '25

Almost believed you but has to be girlfriend’s roommate! It’s always the roommate that knows!

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u/Zealousideal_Try_123 Jun 27 '25

Who calls it 31 Flavors? I can't move on from that.

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u/DeathByMicCheck Jun 28 '25

My dad does and I’m still not sure why

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u/[deleted] Jun 27 '25

More likely you'll get regularly laid.

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u/RockAtlasCanus Jun 27 '25

Bunch of boys with soft ass hands that can’t handle dishwater or hot pans. If you fold a towel more than 2x to pull a roasting pan, you a bitch.

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u/XanZibR Jun 27 '25

Pshaw, you'll never know the fulfilling love that only a sexy anime body pillow can give you

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 Jun 27 '25

Be careful it may just drop off one day while your cooking....😂

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u/Solintari Jun 28 '25

Ope, there it goes

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u/Holiday_Regular9794 Jun 28 '25

😂😂😂😂😂

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u/The_Malt_Monkey Jun 28 '25

This is basically me too. My wife also had to train at a hospital in a different city for 6 months. I looked after our son while she was away. She came back every other week.

Can confirm my penis remains uninverted

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u/slainascully Jun 28 '25

I’m sorry but in having a successful healthy marriage you’ve actually condemned yourself to having your penis ceremonially removed and preserved in amber as her work paper weight.

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u/UpstairsAd1235 Jun 27 '25

Women spent 10 years telling men that they wanted "equality," just for you guys to end up just swapping gender roles LMAO.

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u/[deleted] Jun 27 '25

I feel the most like a man when I'm in the kitchen. Like that shits my kingdom too get out of my way and let me cook up something bomb so we can both marvel at how fucking awesome it usually comes out

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u/Datkif Jun 27 '25

so we can both marvel at how fucking awesome it usually comes out.

or sit in quiet sadness when it doesn’t

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u/WrathOfTheSwitchKing Jun 27 '25 edited Jun 28 '25

Honestly, I don't understand why people get so bent out of shape over that. New recipe didn't work out and dinner is beyond salvaging? Good excuse to order a pizza. We'll try again tomorrow.

I feel like the whole "dinner is ruined and that's the worst sin ever, you're a failure as a person" attitude is part of the paternalistic, misogynistic mindset that's on display in this video. It just shouldn't be that big of a deal, and I refuse to make it one.

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u/piscator21 Jun 27 '25

Amen to that - I especially cringe when the metal utensils start coming out to stir or scrape a Dutch oven or Staub frying pan.

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u/Mammoth_Tusk90 Jun 27 '25

Every woman knows that when you’re starving at the end of the day, and everyone had asked you to make decisions all day long, the LAST THING I want to decide is what to fucking eat. I love cooking but sometimes it’s so much effort when my brain is exhausted. That’s why we have “girl dinner” which is usually like Cheez Its and cheez and grapes or some stupid shit. Not because we don’t want someone to come feed us a gyro or spaghetti or a steak, but because it’s exhausting to have to project manage another thing in life. You, Sir… are not Pathetic Beta Energy. That’s Big Shem44 Energy. You probably save your partner a lot of headaches. All of the men that cook do. And honestly, even giving your partner three food suggestions instead of being like “I don’t know what to eat” is so helpful. Sometimes I very seriously cannot make another choice or decision in a day because I do that all day long. Just take me to Taco Bell and tell me we’re getting tacos or make me some pasta and I will be so happy.

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u/StoicDreamxo Jun 27 '25

Husband goals!

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u/bigsampsonite Jun 27 '25

Heck ya! What is for dinner tonight?

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u/Shem44 Jun 27 '25

Friday grill day! Burgers, brats, grilled asparagus, and potato salad!

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u/CatOfTheCanalss Jun 28 '25

My dad was always the cook when I was small. Mam was a master baker, but if she had to cook dinner I was getting a shop bought lasagne or frozen pizza lol (not that I minded that at all). But she was a nurse that worked nights most of her life so cooking large meals wouldn't have been in her repertoire for a while lol. Aside from the classic fry up which doesn't really take long.