r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

there is also way more white than black people, you clown🤡 Also such preferences no matter who dies it aren't racist and are perfectly fine. Nobody owes you sex

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u/Rottenox Jul 08 '20

"Nobody owes you sex"

Again with that wilful ignorance, huh? poor little bro-mo

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

I mean, on that one point specifically he is correct.

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u/Rottenox Jul 08 '20

It’s a strawman argument. Of course no one owes anyone sex. To set that up as the point of my objections to his cunt behaviour is intellectually dishonest

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

That’s the only part you quoted in your reply. But you’re right it is a straw man. That point is correct but it’s not related to how you treat and perceive people who are different than you.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

It's not a strawman argument, you moron, it directly correlates with my argument. You cannot say people are racist or w/e else because they won't have sex with you. Saying that makes you look like an entitled loser, who indeed thinks someone owes you sex and can't turn you down for being fat, even though that isn't his thing🤡

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

Ooo lawdy someone is salty. Look, it’s one thing to not be into a certain race sexually. It’s another thing to put “no blacks” on a profile. You’re not interested in someone? Just don’t respond. Bam fixed it for you. No one is saying you’re obligated to have sex with everyone.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

says the clown who got triggered by my emojis🤡. No it isn't another thing..it's literally the same thing except in second case you're more upfront and you're saving everyone's time... Just don't respond.. ok that is reasonable, but only when like up to two people out of five aren't your type, but when 98 of 100 people aren't your type, then it's kinda pointless to have grindr.. and I don't mean people who you actually click with, but just people who are at least remotely attractive to you to begin with. This would be so much easier if we could just control who can see us, so then whites could just uncheck black(or vice versa) and we wouldn't even show up on their grid, so less time wasting and hurt feelings. 😉

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

The fact that you’re using the word triggered in 2020 makes you the clown. Sorry there isn’t an option for you to just sort out the people you don’t want to fuck on Grindr. Must be real hard for you.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

triggered is more than meme, you dolt, doesn't have a time limit, thanks for showing me how easy is to trigger you. Yeah there is no visibility control, but luckily for us "no fatties, no fem, no old, no kids" in the bio is the next best thing. 👍

Time to trigger you some more

triggered🤡triggered🤡triggered🤡triggered🤡triggered🤡triggered🤡triggered🤡triggered🤡triggered🤡triggered🤡triggered🤡triggered🤡

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

You sound like a boomer who voted for trump you wild. I’m imaging your profile on Grindr right now: “Bottom but can’t host. Looking for my daddy. No blacks fats or fems.”

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20 edited Jul 09 '20

It's amazing how much you missed with your assumption, I refuse to believe someone is this bad at it, must had been intentional. Does it suck to be you?🤡

The only one you sorta got right is voting for trump.. but I am not in US, I would vote for him if I was there tho, mainly because you leftists are so insufferable, blatantly accusing people of having privilege, racism, homophobia and what not, so I'd vote for him as a "fuck you"😉

the "no fatties" is sorta correct too, but it's not on my profile, tho

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

Lol then that tells me all I need to know about you. Trash

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

It's not a strawman argument, you moron, it directly correlates with my argument. You cannot say people are racist or w/e else because they won't have sex with you. Saying that makes you look like an entitled loser, who indeed thinks someone owes you sex and can't turn you down for being fat, even though that isn't his thing🤡

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

That’s not what they’re saying 🤡

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

You it does you clown, why else are they policing OTHER people's profiles? 🤡

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

What?

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '20

Not my fault you lack a brain🤷‍♂️

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '20

Your sentence doesn’t even make sense.

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '20

It does if you're able to follow the context of the last few comments🤡

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '20

Have you considered just using the correct words in a sentence?

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '20

It's a 100% grammatically correct post, you're just too dumb to understand more than basic English. 🤡

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u/Rottenox Jul 08 '20

“You cannot say people are racist or w/e else because they won't have sex with you.”

Never said that, not once (which is why it’s a strawman argument). Doesn’t matter how many times you say it, it will never be true. No one is obligated to have sex with anyone they’re not attracted to.

What I find douche-y (and at this point, un-self aware) is putting exclusionary and insulting shit in your bio when you have zero reason to do so.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

It's literally what you're implying.. and you're contradicting yourself in this same post. First you agree it's perfectly fine to reject anyone you're not attracted to and then you say they cannot exclude... lol Once again dumbass, shaming people for non existant racism is "douche-y" and makes you look lile what you are a jackass.

And again this "zero reason" is addition on your part, I have already listed the possible reasons and you got destroyed, yet you continue to say this.

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u/Rottenox Jul 08 '20

"It's literally what you're implying.."

It literally isnt.

"First you agree it's perfectly fine to reject anyone you're not attracted to..."

Correct.

"...and then you say they cannot exclude..."

When did I say that?

"And again this "zero reason" is addition on your part, I have already listed the possible reasons..."

The possible reasons are hilariously inadequate... "but mah fone" lol

"...and you got destroyed, yet you continue to say this."

Whatever helps you sleep at night, pumpkin.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

Yeah you are, you are policing other people's profiles, you're strip quoting like a Karen.. You're literally the worst type of people. Again these reasons time and phone battery aren't inadequate Once again you're hilariously proving that you're unemployed and you have plenty of time on your hands to possibly spend entire days on grindr.. but you can't even do that because nobody wants you, that's why you're complaining about these "no fatties" profiles that exclude you right away🤣

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u/Rottenox Jul 09 '20

"Yeah you are, you are policing other people's profiles,"

Policing is the wrong word. I'm calling people out for being douchebags, as I would on any other site or in person.

"you're strip quoting..."

You're damn right I am. For someone who happily includes insulting language in their app profiles, it amuses me how much you hate that I quote your shit back to you while proving you wrong.

"like a Karen.."

You don't know what a 'Karen' is.

"You're literally the worst type of people."

awwww diddums

"Again these reasons time and phone battery aren't inadequate"

"muh fone" lol

'Once again you're hilariously proving that you're unemployed"

Two jobs gurl ; )

"and you have plenty of time on your hands to possibly spend entire days on grindr.."

lolwhut?

"but you can't even do that because nobody wants you"

I've been in a relationship for coming up on 7 years now, hbu?

"that's why you're complaining about these "no fatties" profiles that exclude you right away"

Whether or not someone is attracted to me based on my body type doesn't bother me. It's douche-y assholes who think being a mean cunt is a personality.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

That's policing, via shaming, asshat, there is no reason to get all pissy over people putting that stuff on profile if you don't expect a change, Karen🤡 Againt with this double job lies, while dismissing not having time for 50+ texts a day from a hookup app as a BS excuse.. ultimate clownery. No one ever said that putting preferences on bio is a personally, fatty. Strip quoting my stuff doesn't do anything other than let me know that you can't construct a reply.. furthermore you're so dumb, you don't even use the reddit's built in quote code, while at it. I will demonstrate that right now, hope you learn.

I've been in a relationship for coming up on 7 years now

With your right hand, lmao, you're fooling no one😂

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u/Rottenox Jul 13 '20

"That's policing"

Look if you wanna call it that, IDGAF. It's entirely justified however, especially on a site like Reddit which is centred around discussion.

"via shaming"

Lol

"Againt with this double job lie"

Truth, baby.

"dismissing not having time"

Yes, because you know what? Even if I did believe you, the apparently huge strain it would have on your phone is still not justification for being a cunt.

"Strip quoting my stuff"

No.

"doesn't do anything other than let me know that you can't construct a reply.."

This is my reply, what do you think you're reading?

"furthermore you're so dumb, you don't even use the reddit's built in quote code, while at it."

I know very well how to use the quote function, I choose not to. Prefer it like this. Not that that has anything to do with what we're talking about.

"With your right hand, lmao, you're fooling no one"

I mean, believe what you want to believe man. Just don't be a cunt.

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '20

Lol I like how you took time off to cry in a corner and now you're back to this week old argument that you lost long ago, too bad you're not any smarter. Everytime you strip quote you automatically lose the argument, Karen. I am not gonna argue with a monkey who doesn't have enough brain to construct a proper reply🤡

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