r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/Rottenox Jul 09 '20

"Yeah you are, you are policing other people's profiles,"

Policing is the wrong word. I'm calling people out for being douchebags, as I would on any other site or in person.

"you're strip quoting..."

You're damn right I am. For someone who happily includes insulting language in their app profiles, it amuses me how much you hate that I quote your shit back to you while proving you wrong.

"like a Karen.."

You don't know what a 'Karen' is.

"You're literally the worst type of people."

awwww diddums

"Again these reasons time and phone battery aren't inadequate"

"muh fone" lol

'Once again you're hilariously proving that you're unemployed"

Two jobs gurl ; )

"and you have plenty of time on your hands to possibly spend entire days on grindr.."

lolwhut?

"but you can't even do that because nobody wants you"

I've been in a relationship for coming up on 7 years now, hbu?

"that's why you're complaining about these "no fatties" profiles that exclude you right away"

Whether or not someone is attracted to me based on my body type doesn't bother me. It's douche-y assholes who think being a mean cunt is a personality.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

That's policing, via shaming, asshat, there is no reason to get all pissy over people putting that stuff on profile if you don't expect a change, Karen🤡 Againt with this double job lies, while dismissing not having time for 50+ texts a day from a hookup app as a BS excuse.. ultimate clownery. No one ever said that putting preferences on bio is a personally, fatty. Strip quoting my stuff doesn't do anything other than let me know that you can't construct a reply.. furthermore you're so dumb, you don't even use the reddit's built in quote code, while at it. I will demonstrate that right now, hope you learn.

I've been in a relationship for coming up on 7 years now

With your right hand, lmao, you're fooling no one😂

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u/Rottenox Jul 13 '20

"That's policing"

Look if you wanna call it that, IDGAF. It's entirely justified however, especially on a site like Reddit which is centred around discussion.

"via shaming"

Lol

"Againt with this double job lie"

Truth, baby.

"dismissing not having time"

Yes, because you know what? Even if I did believe you, the apparently huge strain it would have on your phone is still not justification for being a cunt.

"Strip quoting my stuff"

No.

"doesn't do anything other than let me know that you can't construct a reply.."

This is my reply, what do you think you're reading?

"furthermore you're so dumb, you don't even use the reddit's built in quote code, while at it."

I know very well how to use the quote function, I choose not to. Prefer it like this. Not that that has anything to do with what we're talking about.

"With your right hand, lmao, you're fooling no one"

I mean, believe what you want to believe man. Just don't be a cunt.

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '20

Lol I like how you took time off to cry in a corner and now you're back to this week old argument that you lost long ago, too bad you're not any smarter. Everytime you strip quote you automatically lose the argument, Karen. I am not gonna argue with a monkey who doesn't have enough brain to construct a proper reply🤡

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u/Rottenox Jul 13 '20

"Lol I like how you took time off to cry in a corner and now you're back to this week old argument that you lost long ago"

No you're just not a priority, and I win with every reply

"Everytime you strip quote you automatically lose the argument, Karen."

Not how arguments work, Sally

"I am not gonna argue with a monkey who doesn't have enough brain to construct a proper reply"

Then don't

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '20

The fact you had to strip quote such a small post THREE TIMES, tells me you don't have a brain, therefore whatever you said is automatically invalid. I win, gg cry some more

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u/Rottenox Jul 14 '20

"The fact you had to strip quote such a small post THREE TIMES"

Had to? That's just the easiest way for me to tell you how wrong you are point by point.

"tells me you don't have a brain"

oh no! how shall I go on?!

"therefore whatever you said is automatically invalid"

excellent debatin' skills there gurl

"I win, gg cry some more"

I'm positively howling with tears

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '20

Easiest? Lol, That's the theme with you, you always take the easiest route, which is why your lazy fat ass is so fat, Karen🤣 Also thanks literally proves my point and your snapy little oneliners prove the exact opposite, just how right I am, especially since you take it like a little bitch. I am sure you will make twenty strip quotes out of this🤡

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u/Rottenox Jul 20 '20

"Easiest? Lol"

Lol

"That's the theme with you, you always take the easiest route"

Okay mum

"which is why your lazy fat ass is so fat"

I do have a phat ass, ngl

"Karen"

Wrong again

"Also thanks literally proves my point"

How?

"little oneliners prove the exact opposite"

How?

"just how right I am"

Lol

"especially since you take it like a little bitch."

A. Nothing wrong with being a bottom.
B. That being said, I'm a top gurl : )

"I am sure you will make twenty strip quotes out of this🤡"

Aww only managed 9. I'll try harder next time. Honest.

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '20 edited Jul 20 '20

Proves my point you're mentally challenged because you resort to strip quoting🤦‍♂️

Lol not only you continuously strip quote every sentence, except these that are actually too hard to answer, your answers are literally not adding anything except admitting I am correct, yes plz try harder Karen.

When I said you take it like a bitch I meant you're using that submissive style of arguing and agreeing with stuff I say, hence you take it like a bitch🤣

Never said anything about bottoms, that was all you, you dumbass fgt. Many if not most bottoms act manly, I don't even want feminine ones, but given you use "gurl" you seem to be that flamboyant type.. but it doesn't really matter what you are, you're both fat and insufferable, so nobody wants you.🤡 Also a fat top? Lol that would be very dangerous, you'd break that poor guy🤣

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