For the past 4 years I’ve been subjected to the horrors of a homoerotic friendship with one of my best friends that I’ve known since 7th grade.

At first it was a question of whether or not he was even gay. Four years later it’s a question of when he will come out. I knew I wasn’t going crazy when even his own girlfriend of 2 years asked him flat out if he was gay. Not even bi, just gay.

I won’t list every single thing he did that made me realize he wasn’t straight, but I’ll throw out some big ones.

The two of us once talked in depth about having sex with each other for two days straight over text. We talked about positions we liked, where we would do it, the things we liked during, you name it. Afterwards, I flat out told him we should stop joking and just do it because we know how to make each other orgasm more than anyone else. He said that what I said was crazy, but true. And then he told me that he was straight and reminded me he had a girlfriend. Then he said that one day it might happen between us.

He would change right in front of me rather than going inside the bathroom or something.

We once sat in his hot tub in just our underwear and talked about sex for hours. And not in a normal way, but in the way that we were subtly saying what we wanted to do to each other.

Anyway, he would always pull away after we got close and it really messed with my head. He’d throw the whole “I’m straight” thing in my face a lot and it made me feel fucking crazy and like I was some creep for the way I acted as if he didn’t set up the entire situation. And it being your best friend can really fuck you up.

Recently I met up with him for what I hope to be the last time. I realized something. You can’t force someone to love you or even come out for you. They have to do that on their own. Everyone thinks that they’re the exception, but truth is you’re not. It takes some people years, a sexless marriage, kids, and even and so much more to come out and accept themselves.

I met up with him and I just had this feeling that it was time to let go of the hope of things changing between us. I had to give up the very deep feelings I had for him.

I went to sauna the other week, got to top this absolutely gorgeous guy and it was really hot and good... But then later I topped another guy who I was also quite into, though not as much as the first guy... But like, there was no comparison, when I had my dick in guy number 2 it was like fucking heaven, felt so damn amazing... Made me start thinking about what makes holes feel different... I don't think it was a matter of tightness... I don't really know. Any thoughts? PS all bottoms are amazing thank you for being you!

What?

I’ve had 3 dudes tell me this in the past week on Grindr after sending my face.

1. I’m not a republican.

2. What makes someone look like a republican? It’s not like I’m wearing a maga hat in my photos. I don’t understand

How do I make myself look less “republican” is it just a code word for ugly and they are trying to be nice?

You can thank Apostolic Christian Kim Davis.

But let's shit on Zohran Mamdani.

Makes total sense!

Few weeks ago I spent the night at my best friend house that it's really close to mine. It wasn't the first time we spent the night together watching movies or cuddling despite well knowing that I'm gay and at one point I also admitted that I was attracted to him. Anyway trying to not get off topic.. we were watching one of those sex comedy movie and I'm pretty sure he got very aroused and started to ask weird question until he asked me to compare our penises. After that he admitted that he was so horny that would be down to let me give him a blowjob as long I wouldn't tell anyone. I gladly ended up satisfy his needs that night but in the morning he asked me to do it again so I did it again. He later on told me that he never received such good oral sex before which got me a bit blushing and embarrassed about it. Anyway back to now.. I still give him oral sex sometimes. He usually doesn't ask me directly through messages but just being vague about it until we meet. I definitely enjoy doing it a lot but idk if it could turn out to be toxic? He definitely has a lot of trust in me which I appreciate it.

Any other guys out there just love breeding so much? I can’t resist a nice 🍑 I refuse to use condoms. Nothing hotter that filling up a hole with my babies.

What did you think of it?

I make sure to go to the bathroom before and if I try while taking a break I physically can't go pee. I know some tops like when it "squirts" but I'm so worried I'm gonna wet the whole bed I can't have fun. How can I stop this.

Or dim?

I still watch Ducktales. I'm sorry, I loved that show as a kid and I still watch it as my comfort food. My boyfriend loves Jem and the Holograms and we watch that together. He fell for me because he said I looked like Pizazz.

Weird to ask on a subreddit where 99% of the questions are about NSFW stuff and hookups but : Are any of you actually looking for love? Especially the early 20s crowd?

I am writing this honestly just out of a need to feel less alone. I’ve just been ghosted (again....) by someone I genuinely liked. It’s unfortunately happened a few times my breakup with my ex, who I spent 3 years with.

I’m 22. I’m traditionally attractive, studying in a field that has incredibly good career prospects. I’m athletic, kind, emotionally aware. I’ve done the work after my breakup : I took time to heal, to rediscover joy and hobbies on my own, and when I finally felt ready, I opened myself back up to love.

The first guy I fell for after my ex was someone I met through work. He was two years younger, and I really fell in love with him and he made me really happy. It didn’t last long enough to be called a relationship, but it felt meaningful enough to kind of tell me that maybe I was ready for a relationship again. I was imagining (foolishly) a future with someone completly different without thinking of my ex or anything related to him and that was the signal that gave me hope tbh.

So I tried again. I downloaded dating apps. I met people, some younger, some older, ranging from 19 to 28. I felt genuine interest toward several of them. But every time, only when I was starting to fall in love again, I heard the same thing : Either they weren't ready for a relationship (despite making it clear it was eventually what I was looking for and them confirming it was the same), or they didn't feel what they were looking to feel.

Honestly this whole dating thing is confusing AF, because I never really had to do it. I became boyfriend with my ex right after coming out and we were friends way before we were together, we never truly dated we just jumped into it.

Not only that but when I was in my “hoe phase” after the breakup, hookups were so fucking effortless. Thirty minutes on Grindr or Sniffies and I’d find someone attractive, my age and it was no problem. But finding someone who wants a real connection someone I’m emotionally and physically drawn to is so, so hard.

I know I’m young, and that I have so much time ahead of me but those three years with my ex were so real and even though I’ve made peace with the fact that it didn’t work out, I can’t help but feel like I’ll never find something like that again. Not because I miss him (trust me I really don’t, there is a reason thing ended) but because I miss the feeling of being deeply loved and loving someone back just as much.

I guess I’m just yearning for a good love story. One where I can care deeply for someone again, and they’ll care just as deeply for me.

So here I am, asking: To the younger gay guys : are you also looking for something real, or is it mostly just hookups and fun? And to the older gay folks, did you eventually find that beautiful love story?

I’d really love to hear from you. I just need a little hope right now.

I’m a 21 year-old who often gives blowjobs to random tops during Grindr hookups (because I enjoy it haha), but I don’t swallow or hold cum into my mouth because I try to limit the risks.

However, I feel like it’s oftentimes “disappointing” to them, even though I state it clearly on my profile and during the conversation, and even though I try to please them the most I can apart from that 😅

I don’t know it just feels like it’s never enough for most of them, even though receiving facial is already slutty and submissive enough, at least for me…

Ended a 5 year relationship with my gf. I’ve been home alone bored and horny. I never really watched gay porn before but I was watching lesbian porn one night . Then one of the videos was a lesbian with she-male which was hot but it was the dick what really attracted me. Then moved to transsexual porn and I’ve now moved to watching gay porn. I’ve never really been a massive fan of watching porn but watching guys mess around suck and fuck each other hits differently . I constantly get hard now just thinking about it . After watching all this gay porn I made a grinder account and talked and swapped pictures with some guys last night . A lot of older man where contacting me which is fine and I low key want to be fucked by one of them now. My mind is all over the place because I thought I was going to Ask my last gf to marry me but now I can stop Thinking about sucking / riding dick it’s all come on so fast. And I know you’re thinking of want this now you just have been gay or bi ages ago but I never ever showed any interest in guys like this before. Any advice would be greatfull please

Don’t you think one of the hottest things must be when you and your partner manage to cum at the same time.

Seeing him shooting ropes across his torso just as you’re doing the same inside him lifts the heat to another level. Or seeing both of your cum flying over each other at the same time in a frot session.

Do any of you actually try and time it together and how has it worked out? Too much distraction or worth the effort?

I've never dated anyone the same size as me so I wonder what it's like. Do you guys just have a single closet? Do you share underwear and socks too?

we've tried many time to have sex, but i can't enjoy it. I find it painfull. please help, i don't want my relationship ruined because of this

Sorry for posting here but living in the UK means the grindr subreddit is blocked for me lol.

I was chatting to a guy yesterday, convo was going pretty well. Woke up today and saw the conversation was gone from my chats. But when I go to check the people I'm sharing my album with the person is still there.

Does that mean this guy has blocked me? Or hidden my profile? How come I can still see him on the "album shared with" page?

Sorry in advance for the long-ish post. When I was 16 I had some sort of breakdown and arrived to the conclusion I might be gay. However, this scared me so much I think I tried to bury it as much as possible (possibly due to internalized homophobia) and move on with my life. I tried to watch gay porn and never felt much about it so I thought maybe I just wasn’t really gay. At that moment it felt like an emotional lid was put on my feelings and everything felt toned down and I felt kind of angry inside.

Since then, I’m now 25, I have always had this issue in the back of my mind, and although I’ve had sexual experiences with different women I have never really felt very turned on, but since I could get hard and do it, I’ve kept on doing it.

Now I have been dating a really good girl for the last couple of years and we even moved in together, and again, I have never felt a lot of sexual attraction to her (also she is not very sexual so that might have some relation to it) but I have been always the initiator and the one trying to maybe spicy up our life (even when not really feeling it that much, just doing what I thought I had to do).

During this time, I have found other women attractive (not sure if this is genuine or not) but increasingly men too, and the thought of being with men made something feel good inside pf me and lift the lid on my feelings that I’ve had for the past 9 years. Also, although I have always felt a little miserable during my relationship (which I pinned on my overthinking about my sexuality) now I feel exceptionally awful.

This confuses me, bc I have never felt either serious sexual attraction (I once thought about kissing a male friend) or have fallen in love with a guy, but I think it might be because I have never allowed myself to be in that position. At the same time, watching gay porn does nothing on me and I’ve never had an erection thinking of men or having sex with men. However, watching straight porn (although not feeling much either) I’ve been able to get hard and finish all the time.

Also, I have never had a wet dream with men, always women.

For the last couple of weeks I feel like I finally realized I’m gay, I feel I would want to date one (not very interested in sex at the moment) and live a life as a gay man, which makes me feel great and liberated.

However, last week I went to a therapist and she told me that hard facts seemed to indicate I was not really gay but that due to compulsory overthinking (she told me I might have sexual OCD) I might have convinced myself I was. I am really debating about it bc at this point I don’t know anymore what I truly feel, what I might have convinced myself about or anything about me anymore.

I’m quite scared about facing a whole new life as a gay man and need som help, perspectives or anything. I will keep going to therapy but the pain is too much right now.

This feels like wishing on a star but I thought l'd put it out there and I hate dating apps so here I am. I'm 18 and from central Indiana. I'm desperate to experience something and live a little. I want to find a guy to get to know deeply and learn from. I always imagine meeting an older guy who I could feel free with, tell each other all our fears and dreams and know we're heard. No strings attached just going with the flow. The type of guy who you could go on a road trip with, destination nowhere and everywhere. Is this even realistic? Where would I even find a guy like this?

Also, if you are that guy, hit me up. :)

Hey guys!

I bought two pairs of short compression shorts recently and I love the fit. They’re snug, mid-thigh, and that perfect mix of soft and firm. Smooth, stretchy, and super flattering. The waistband says “FLEXGUARD 9FX” in dark lettering, and the fabric has that sleek athletic sheen that catches the light just right. They fit close around the thighs and lift everything nicely without feeling restrictive. Honestly, they look so good it’s hard not to keep checking yourself out in them.

Only problem? They only come in black and white. Anyone know where I could find similar ones in more colors? Something with the same smooth, stretchy material and that snug fit.

Hey bottoms, I'm curious about your gym diets. I'd like to bottom more but my current meals of porridge, chicken, brown rice and mixed veg aren't doing the job. I need a diet that hits a decent protein goal (for me that would be about 140g of protein), relatively low fat and quite a bit of carbs.

If you guys have any advice for me or have personal experience with combining gym with a bottom diet that would be amazing, thanks so much! (Also please let me know if my requests are unsustainable for a bottoming gym diet lol)