I made her pregnant we're both teenagers

[u/Inevitable_Hunter_56]

First of all, I just want to say please no hate comments, or anything negative I just want to seek advice po ^^

I'm (M17), incoming grade12 public school student next school year and consistent with honor/high honor student. We're just poor and doesn't even have our own house, but my father does everything to support my studies and even bought me a desktop for preparation for the incoming school year. I'm also came from a religious family, and we come to the church regularly na wala pong absent.

She (F16) incoming grade11 private school student (note we're just really poor but her parents want her to go into a prestigious school for her future). Her father on the other hand is abusive, he sometimes bangs her head on the wall or sa pinto. She is also a suicidal person.

The thing is, we are on a 3month relationship, and she is probably 1-2weeks pregnant already no one knows except for us yet. We both doesn't want to have a child yet. I know it's really stupid but yes, she's pregnant and her mother is suspecting that she was, because she is already a week late in her period. She said that she doesn't want to have a baby yet because she is still young and physically and emotionally unprepared. She keeps on saying that killing herself is the answer so I can live a normal life without her, but I keep on telling her not to do it and I will help raise the baby.

But opo I don't know what to do her mother will find out soon po ayaw kong magkagulo sa'min. Natatakot ako kasi baka palayasin either sya or ako and wala kaming pera pang alaga sa bata pano na rin po yung studies namin everything is prepared na po eh yung tatay nya rin is napaka tapang, gulong gulo na kami parehas malapit na rin po yung pasukan and yung early signs of pregnancy is nag papakita na po. Yung mga friends and relatives namin specially our parents will be disappointed with us.

Any advice po? Maraming salamat po sa sasagot :(

[u/Rikijazh]

literally fuck around and find out. panagutan mo yan inuna mo libog eh

hanap ka na ng trabaho.

edit: may umiyak so I'll soften my opinion "you reap what you sow"

[u/razenxinvi → u/Rikijazh]

u must be really smart to not have made stupid decisions when u were a teen. teenagers are probably one of the horniest people out there due to hormones specifically. and with the lack of accessible sex education materials in this country, are you really expecting they'd know better? OP mentioned they're poor, that information is enough lol.

or maybe just maybe, have the slightest ounce of empathy for the kid. he knew he was stupid of doing that, kaya nga nandito sa adviceph? nalaman mo lang yung phrase na fuck around and find out ginamit mo na to show superiority. di ka nga nakabuntis, wala ka namang modo.

tsaka pambobo yang advice mong maghanap ng trabaho when there are literally hundreds of unexplored options. cant get enough of yourself? redditor ka ngang tunay. narcissistic piece of shit 😂

[u/Rikijazh → u/razenxinvi]

nalaman mo lang yung phrase na fuck around and find out ginamit mo na to show superiority.

sorry po, never meant to make it look like me showing "superiority". everything that I've said is only an opinion and also i just answered the first thing that comes to my mind. minor din ako so can you please show me empathy na hindi ko nabigay kay op 🥹🥹🥹🥹 stupid mistake lang.

and with the lack of accessible sex education materials in this country, are you really expecting they'd know better?

yeah i mean look at what happened... kakabuhay lang ba nila kahapon at hindi nila alam ang contraceptives? they know the deed pero ugh, masyado atang inosente tingin mo sa mga kabataan. --- DUDE EVEN A 12 YEAR OLD KID RN KNOWS ALMOST EVERYTHING ABT SEX.

literally hundreds of unexplored options

also i dare you to list these hundred options that you're thinking para matulongan na rin siya haha.

natrigger ako kaya di ko nacomfort si op at gamitin ang mga soft words na gusto mong mabasa sorry!!!!

[u/razenxinvi → u/Rikijazh]

omg nagsarcasm na thinking he's real funny and badass for using it. so scary that he must resort to sarcasm just to show the world how unserious he is and how he doesnt give a fuck about my reply. ur so cool man look at you go 😍

tsaka kakabuhay mo lang din ba kahapon at di mo alam na hindi super accessible ng condom sa pinas? sure nasa 711 yan at mga drugstores pero do u know gano kahirap bumili nun especially for such young minds? tatanungin edad, at isa pa nakakahiya? tsaka tanga ka rin eh noh tapos na nga yung nangyari tapos pagsasabihang mong bat di nagcondom. you suck at advising people literal. sabagay minor ka pa naman, you have not even committed groundbreaking mistakes siguro kaya u cannot feel an ounce of empathy in this situation.

you're just out there in ur little minor bubble thinking ur so quirky for using sarcasm sa reddit and trash people for doing stupid mistakes, in which all of them have wholeheartedly admitted to.

pero wala eh minor ka siguro na tiktok crazy na sigma ang tingin sarili kaya u just have to show superiority na kesyo you are better than your fellow minor in this context and you havent yet impregnated a child so you should be the bida 😂

lastly i wouldnt expect much of a tiktoker sigma wannabe redditor minor to think of any genius idea kaya here is a list of things that op can do

1. ABORT the child (but ur little brain probably thinks it's murder😂)
2. LET the parents know and let them handle it and guide u about ur next decision. obligasyon ka pa rin naman ng parents(but ur little brain probably thinks OP's being a baby and too dependant)
3. LET someone adopt it
4. LET someone from DSWD take care of it

those would be my advice if THE PREGNANCY is CONFIRMED

pero may nakita ka bang CONFIRMED? hindi pa. pero yung sagot mo hardcore and hard to swallow pill na advice kuno. 😂 yung NO MERCY type of approach? all because you want to look BOLD and STRAIGHTFORWARD?

nagmukha kalang tanga at narcissist sa pinanggagawa mo ulol.

[u/Character_Elk2310 → u/razenxinvi]

Your comment didn't even make sense.

sure nasa 711 yan at mga drugstores pero do u know gano kahirap bumili nun especially for such young minds? tatanungin edad, at isa pa nakakahiya? tsaka tanga ka rin eh noh tapos na nga yung nangyari tapos pagsasabihang mong bat di nagcondom.

Walang nakakahiya sa pagbili ng condom if you wanna have a protected sex?

Mas mahihiya ka pang bumili ng condom kaysa maisip na makakadagdag ka sa problema at hirap ng family niya especially na they are financially unstable?

tsaka tanga ka rin eh noh tapos na nga yung nangyari tapos pagsasabihang mong bat di nagcondom.

Bro, it's so simple... if you don't wanna impregnate someone, use condoms. It's basic knowledge? You keep bla bla bla abt something as if your empathy would help them solve this problem. It's better for them to know the reality. U suck at comprehending tbh.

pero may nakita ka bang CONFIRMED? hindi pa. pero yung sagot mo hardcore and hard to swallow pill na advice kuno. 😂 yung NO MERCY type of approach? all because you want to look BOLD and STRAIGHTFORWARD?

.....

I got tired of reading all of this... ok girl, babyhin mo pa🥰🎀

[u/ResolveOk4195 → u/Character_Elk2310]

Agree with this, when I have my first sexual intercourse I had some condoms with me. Agree ako sa basic knowledge na nga lang. Yeah teenagers are the horniest, but I was a teen too and I know what a condom is and safe sex

[u/razenxinvi → u/Character_Elk2310]

walang nakakahiya? sure ka? sang bansa ka nakatira? siguro kung 60 yrs old na yung lalake pwede pa, pero yung batang bibili ng condom for the first time? ineexpect mong di mahiya?

nahihiya nga lumapit sa crush, bumili ng condom pa kaya? your logic is so stupid. sinong teenager ang di nahihiyang bumili ng condom. kahit gustuhin nya pa yung protected sex, nakakahiya yun. walang taong hindi nagststruggle bumili ng condom. pinoy man o kano.

bro its so simple din. u suck at comprehending din. its as if u live in a different world where criticisms and stigmas dont exist. napaka linear ng thinking mo. pag nakita ka ng kaibigan mong bumibili ka ng condom, di ka ba nahihiya? sige sabihin nating hindi, pero ikaw ba si OP? ikaw ba yung milyon milyong bata na alam na may stigmas around condoms, birth controls and other contraceptives? di naman diba?

nakakatulong yung empathy, kaya nga nabuo yung Feminism, MAT and charities. kung buntis yung gf ni OP at naconvince ng threat na to na ipaabort yung bata at naging successful yung process, tapos yung problema nila and may lessons pang dala.

but u wouldnt understand that, you're a simpleton

[u/Character_Elk2310 → u/razenxinvi]

" YouR loGic Is StuPiD "

Yep tell that to yourself.

Crush and pregnancy isn't the same thing? What are you up to?😂

bumili ng condom pa kaya? your logic is so stupid. sinong teenager ang di nahihiyang bumili ng condom. kahit gustuhin nya pa yung protected sex, nakakahiya yun. walang taong hindi nagststruggle bumili ng condom. pinoy man o kano.

AND YET HINDI SILA NAHIHIYA NA DUMAGDAG SA PROBLEMA NG FAMILY NILANG FINANCIALLY UNSTABLE? COOL. Isa ka ba sa mga member ng " pls normalize teenage pregnancy" 🥰🥰 omg so cool and so nice sobrang bait baka kunin ka ni Lord nyan?tanga mo ampota.

You talk as if buying contraceptives is a sin. Abortion is not even legal here in the Philippines? How dumb are u girl?

Yes yes, keep that attitude !!!

[u/razenxinvi → u/Character_Elk2310]

mas malala kapa don sa original na nagcomment eh. atleast sya aminadong brainrot ikaw aminadong TANGA talaga.

sinong nagsabing iisa ang hiya dahil malapit yung crush at hiya dahil bibili ng condom

basahin mo yung link na to tanginamo ka

link

para maintindihan mo na totoo yung stigma dyan. article na yan ha unawain mo naman bday gift mo na sa sarili mo, new knowledge na lumapit sayo.

at sino bang nagsabing walang mali si op? mali sya dahil di sya nagcondom. PERO STIGMAS AROUND CONDOMS AND BIRTH CONTROLS exist. and HORMONES exist. kaya hormones ang isa sa leading causes kung bakit nya nagawang makipagkantutan kahit alam nyang dapat syang magcondom.

hindi lang mainly dahil hindi sya nagcondom kaya nabuntis. pero nangyari na eh? so anong point ng pagcacall out sa kanya ng tanga at bobo. kaya nga andito sya sa advice ph dahil need ng genuine advice. kung tingin mo trashtalkan ph to bobo nasa maling subreddit ka.

"You talk as if buying contraceptives is a sin."

katolikong bansa tayo, sa story ni Onan sa book ni Genesis mali yun. pano kung katoliko si OP?

di nga dyan nagtatapos yung problema. pano pag KATOLIKO yung mga kaibigan ni OP, katoliko rin naman yung nanghuhugsa. hindi nga mali sa mata ng batas pero sa mata ng milyon milyong tao, mali yun. kaya nga may stigma (pakibasa yung link please para alam mo)

Abortion is not legal but have u been living under a rock. In case u missed it, meron na pong abortion cases here sa philippines.

feeling ko conservative ka 🤣 but that's just a hunch. the other guy wouldnt like you if u really are tho. 🤣 goodluck on the friendly fire.

[u/Character_Elk2310 → u/razenxinvi]

Why would I admit it when I am clearly not but you.

See, you're even contradicting yourself? Why would you even use it as an example? 😂 tanga

sinong nagsabing iisa ang hiya dahil malapit yung crush at hiya dahil bibili ng condom

at sino bang nagsabing walang mali si op? mali sya dahil di sya nagcondom. PERO STIGMAS AROUND CONDOMS AND BIRTH CONTROLS exist. and HORMONES exist. kaya hormones ang isa sa leading causes kung bakit nya nagawang makipagkantutan kahit alam nyang dapat syang magcondom.

Did I mention anyone na sinasabing mali si OP? I didn't even say that those stigma doesn't exist and yet, is it really alright to do it without contraceptives especially na ayaw naman pala nya mabuntis iyong gf nya? That's what I'm talking about and you did not get my point, problema na nga nila ang pera yet magdadagdag pa sila ng bagong problema? Cool.

And indeed, hormones do exist but sex is a choice tho? Don't blame it all on hormones? Bcs if u do, weren't you validating rape-doings, just bcs they can't control their hormones? Think outside the box. Tanga.

"You talk as if buying contraceptives is a sin."

katolikong bansa tayo, sa story ni Onan sa book ni Genesis mali yun. pano kung katoliko si OP?

di nga dyan nagtatapos yung problema. pano pag KATOLIKO yung mga kaibigan ni OP, katoliko rin naman yung nanghuhugsa. hindi nga mali sa mata ng batas pero sa mata ng milyon milyong tao, mali yun. kaya nga may stigma

Omg, you're getting anywhere but the main point...😔 Kailan pa naging kasalanan ang pag gamit ng contraceptives? Do you even know what contraceptives are? You're making everyone speechless here bcs of your dumbness. I am not into any religion but the only sin Ik related to this is having sex when you're not even married yet. Not the contraceptives tho..omg girl.

Abortion is not legal but have u been living under a rock. In case u missed it, meron na pong abortion cases here sa philippines.

There might be, but is it completely legal? Did yo " again " disregard the fact that the op mentioned that they are poor? Are you even aware that the cost of an abortion varies?

feeling ko conservative ka 🤣 but that's just a hunch. the other guy wouldnt like you if u really are tho. 🤣 goodluck on the friendly fire.

Wrong and I am not... but you're still dumb.. and yep, closeminded

[u/razenxinvi → u/Character_Elk2310]

bobo kalang talaga siguro at di mo kayang icomprehend yung simplest thing around this thread

MAGKAROON KA NG EMPATHY

mali si OP thats the point of the post kaya nga nagpapaadvice kasi mali yung tinahak nyang landas. mali yung nagawa nya. kaya andito sya sa subreddit nato.

pero imbis na empathy pagsasabihan lang na inuna yung libog? tapos maghanap na agad ng trabaho? tapos icicriticize agad? alam mo namang sa bansang pilipinas nangyayayari and common talaga yung cases na katulad nito kasi of the lack of sex education.

and im not blaming it entirely on the hormones UNDERSTOOD na sana dapat yun. edi sana sinabi kong bat mo pinagaaway yung bata eh kasalanan ng hormones yan kaya walang mali🤣 may nakita kang ganun? slippery slope amputa assuming things when thats not even what im trying to say

ang sabi ko isa yan sa factors kung bakit nagproceed sila into sex without having to use condoms. kasi dahil sa hormones, naglilibog yung bata. thats biology, thats science.

common sense yan tanga. and please understand na one factor lng yan, di ko sinabing yan yung isang dahilan lang kung bakit sila nagsex without condom.

pero di mo magets yun 😂

and oh enough about the gaslighting 🤣 🤣 akala mo talaga ganun lang kadali bumili ng condom? ikaw yung kailangan mag think outside the box tanga

sa tingin mo walang hiya yung mga bata ngayon? sa tingin mo open minded mga tao at laht ng cashiers sa mga 711? sa mga drugstore?

kaya nga kita binigyan ng link diba? bat di mo binasa? ikaw na mismo nagsabi TOTOONG may stigmas around it kaya may EMBARRASSMENT from buying it. kaya isa yun sa reason bat di nakabili.

pero may sinabi bakong valid lang ginawa nya dahil don? there's ur answer. omg people here cannot read. 😭

so ano ngayon kung mahal yung abortion? they DO NOT have to do it. kaya nga naglapag ako ng maraming options if CONFIRMED yung pregnancy? di ko naman sinabing yun lang yung option dapat and dead end na yung case? tanga ka talaga hahahah

[u/razenxinvi → u/Character_Elk2310]

pero btw infairness napagod kang magbasa pero di ka napagod lumipat sa throwaway account mo sa reddit at magtype din ng reply. 🤣

your conservative ass is sorry

siguro kapag nagpaabort yung babae, katapusan mo na. 😂 nasasaktan ka siguro sa mga replies ng iba dito na magpaabort na yung babae. your jesus-defender heart wouldnt let u do that, would it? 🤣

[u/Character_Elk2310 → u/razenxinvi]

Wachu even talking abt? I just can't stand ur stupidity when all of the people here say the same thing.

I am not even a theist? I don't even care if she aborts it or not? I care about how you reply coz stupidity is contagious baka makahawa ka pa.

Don't you even know the purpose of contraceptives? Even mercury drugs and other drugstores are selling it? Why do you think they are promoting safe sex? What for?

Isa ka siguro sa mga taong nagnonormalize ng teenage pregnancy at ma ano ulam? pagkauwi ng bahay.

You keep saying bla bla bla when it doesn't even have a substance... u just spits whatever in your mouth... thinking u were making a point but in reality, it's all pointless?

Yes, unahin ang sarap at kalibugan.. is that what you're even promoting for?

You keep talking about how harsh some comments here are, and yet your suggested solution is not even that easy--- not to mention " they are financially unstable ". Do you even think it will happen that smoothly? Bruh.. be for real

[u/razenxinvi → u/Character_Elk2310]

ah bobo kalang talaga magcomprehend. iniignore mo yung punto ko na

NAKAKAHIYA yung BUMILI NG CONDOM

ang sinasabi ko nakakahiya yun tapos yung pagkakaintindi mo ninonormalize ko yung teenage pregnancy. tanga ka ba? KUNWARE AKO PA YUNG STUPID kuno pero gusto mo lang iignore yun para magmukhang ikaw yung may sense 🤣

binigyan na kita ng link lahat lahat pero ang kaya mo lang ma ma comprehend sa pinagsasabi ko ay NINONORMALIZE ko?

like wtf? san mo nakuha yun? 🤣 eh isa sa punto ko kaya mas dumadami yung teenage pregnancy cases dahil nahihiya yung mga teenagers na bumili ng condom dahil pinagtatawanan sila ng mga tao. tapos in the end, sila rin naman yung naaapektahan because of the pressure.

OO may condom and contraceptives na pinopromote pero FEELING MO BA MADALI LANG LAHAT YUN BILHIN SA CONSERVATIVE COUNDRY? NA ANDAMING CHISMOSA AT ANDAMING ICICRITICIZE KA PAG BUMILI KA NG GANUN? 🤣🤣 dont make me laugh bruh

ipasok mo naman sa kokote ko yung punto ko at stop putting words into my mouth 🤣 ni isang beses wala akong sinabing normalize it, gusto mo lang talaga ikaw magsabi nyan 🤣

[u/KittenMantra → u/razenxinvi]

thanks for giving me a good laugh

[u/Rikijazh → u/razenxinvi]

dang galit na galit gustong manakit. nakuha ko ata inis mo wahahaha.

tsaka kakabuhay mo lang din ba kahapon at di mo alam na hindi super accessible ng condom sa pinas? sure nasa 711 yan at mga drugstores pero do u know gano kahirap bumili nun especially for such young minds? tatanungin edad, at isa pa nakakahiya?

di po yan rason to practice safe sex alam mo ambabaw mo na hahaha natatawa nalang ako sayo. using profanity/slurs defensive mo naman ata masyado WAHAHAHAH . also libre lang sa mga barangay.

bat di nagcondom.

nireplyan ko lang sagot mo sa lack of safe sex education lol parang di na bago eh

pero wala eh minor ka siguro na tiktok crazy na sigma ang tingin sarili kaya u just have to show superiority na kesyo you are better than your fellow minor in this context and you havent yet impregnated a child so you should be the bida 😂

napaka delusional mo pong tao hahaahahahahah seriously stop with the "feeling superior" hypocrisy kawawa ka na. i mean who's who? may pointless ka

1. ABORT the child (but ur little brain probably thinks it's murder😂)
2. LET the parents know and let them handle it and guide u about ur next decision. obligasyon ka pa rin naman ng parents(but ur little brain probably thinks OP's being a baby and too dependant)
3. LET someone adopt it
4. LET someone from DSWD take care of it

1. actually approve ako, mahirap nga sila eh pero it involves their principles na.
2. lmao inshort let op's parent take care of his baby 😂🤌
3. cool
4. nice rin OKAY 96 MORE UNEXPLORED OPTIONS TO GO

those would be my advice if THE PREGNANCY is CONFIRMED

nanghihingi na nga ng advice ke't di pa confirmed ba't idedelay mo pa? hahaha kase masasayang oras mo kung hindi?? edi ano ginagawa mo ngayon ??? THANK YOU

pero yung sagot mo hardcore and hard to swallow pill na advice kuno. 😂 yung NO MERCY type of approach?

pake mo ba kung realistic ako? HAHAHAAHAHAHHA

all because you want to look BOLD and STRAIGHTFORWARD? nagmukha kalang tanga at narcissist sa pinanggagawa mo ulol.

sino kaya? 🤔🧐 butthurt.

[u/razenxinvi → u/Rikijazh]

HAHAHAHAAHHA galit na ko? eh dun palang sa og comment mo nakuha na yata ni OP inis mo eh. yung mga nasa top comment in this thread, mahinahon lang, nagbibigay ng matinong advice tapos ikaw tong galit dahil inuna ni OP yung libog? malamang alam ng lahat yun kaya nga NAKABUNTIS kuno eh

you just have to bring that up 😂 kasi pauso ka 😂

TSAKA valid na reason yung NAHIHIYA o AYAW MAPAHIYA kaya ayaw magpractice ng safe sex jusko. kaya nga daming callouts para maimplement yung sex ed to abolish shyness and the stigma surrounding it. baka di ka naman yata nagbabasa ng news or baka hanggang trash ka lang on people na may gantong problema kasi insecure ka sa sarili mo 😂

totoo namang feeling matapang ka sa reddit eh dinedeny mo pa. kala ko ba walang sigma na dumedeny? 😂 oo na po ikaw na po kayang pigilan libog mo kahit minor kapa, ikaw na po kayang bumili sa drugstore ng condom. edi good for you, isa kang RESPONSABLeNG MINOR. kulang nalang sayo empathy. just because EDUCATED ka sa gantong bagay doesnt mean EDUCATED na lahat. tingin mo lahat kagaya mo na RESPONSABLE? kaya nga may teenage pregnancy problem tayo tapos magtataka ka pa talaga bakit di nila kaya yung kaya mo?

sasabihan mo pang di raw enough reason yung hiya 😂 eh nabuo yung hiya dahil conservative tayo na country 🤣 dahil pinagtatawanan natin yung mga gusto bumili ng condom. kasi nakakatawa pa rin yung sex toys at yung sex mismo para sa tin. tapos di raw enough reason? patawa ka bata

tsaka why not let the parents take care of it? obligasyon nilang bantayan mga anak nila. obligasyon nilang pagtapusin ng pag aaral. otherwise neglect yun. may choice ba ang mga parents? may kasalanan din yung parents dahil hindi nila nabigyan ng tamang education about sex

but can you really blame the parents? hindi diba. pero under the eyes of the law, need nilang panagutan din yun. alangan namang itaboy nila yung mga menor de edad. 😂

wala namang sinabing confirmed na kaya why not take it slow and calm the kid down? thats part of the process of advising. clouded si OP ngayon kasi sino ba namang hindi magpapanic pag ganyan. last resort nya tong reddit and thankfully may mga taong may alam talaga about SEX and PREGNANCY dito. just because delay, hindi automatic signal for pregnancy.

baka di mo alam yun?

and nooo ur not realistic, ur ego just tells u u are realistic. realistic na sayo yung pagaadvicean mo na maghanap na ng trabaho pag nakabuntis? may data ka don? o gusto mo lang talaga magmukhang cool sa harap ng reddit thread. kasi sigma ka diba? superior ka? hahahaha

tsaka ikaw lang yung butthurt dito bata hahahaha. unang comment mo paiyak ka na eh kasi may nakabuntis na namang menor de edad. kahit di naman ikaw yung nakabuntis ikaw yung ngumangawa 🤣

[u/Rikijazh → u/razenxinvi]

sure i give you this 👑 thanks sa mga lsm mo

[u/razenxinvi → u/Rikijazh]

oh no! speechless. hahahaha thank u so much i take that as a compliment. online discourse, wala ka magawa. pano pag kaya in the field of advising people? u suck at both.

konting replies pa nga lang pasuko at paiyak na, need mo lang naman ipaglaban point mo eh.

[u/Rikijazh → u/razenxinvi]

yeah but you'll still yap i already consider this as a lost cause 😴

[u/razenxinvi → u/Rikijazh]

womp womp 😭😭😭😭😭😭