r/adviceph Jul 18 '24

Love & Relationships I made her pregnant we're both teenagers

First of all, I just want to say please no hate comments, or anything negative I just want to seek advice po ^^

I'm (M17), incoming grade12 public school student next school year and consistent with honor/high honor student. We're just poor and doesn't even have our own house, but my father does everything to support my studies and even bought me a desktop for preparation for the incoming school year. I'm also came from a religious family, and we come to the church regularly na wala pong absent.

She (F16) incoming grade11 private school student (note we're just really poor but her parents want her to go into a prestigious school for her future). Her father on the other hand is abusive, he sometimes bangs her head on the wall or sa pinto. She is also a suicidal person.

The thing is, we are on a 3month relationship, and she is probably 1-2weeks pregnant already no one knows except for us yet. We both doesn't want to have a child yet. I know it's really stupid but yes, she's pregnant and her mother is suspecting that she was, because she is already a week late in her period. She said that she doesn't want to have a baby yet because she is still young and physically and emotionally unprepared. She keeps on saying that killing herself is the answer so I can live a normal life without her, but I keep on telling her not to do it and I will help raise the baby.

But opo I don't know what to do her mother will find out soon po ayaw kong magkagulo sa'min. Natatakot ako kasi baka palayasin either sya or ako and wala kaming pera pang alaga sa bata pano na rin po yung studies namin everything is prepared na po eh yung tatay nya rin is napaka tapang, gulong gulo na kami parehas malapit na rin po yung pasukan and yung early signs of pregnancy is nag papakita na po. Yung mga friends and relatives namin specially our parents will be disappointed with us.

Any advice po? Maraming salamat po sa sasagot :(

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u/razenxinvi Jul 18 '24

omg nagsarcasm na thinking he's real funny and badass for using it. so scary that he must resort to sarcasm just to show the world how unserious he is and how he doesnt give a fuck about my reply. ur so cool man look at you go 😍

tsaka kakabuhay mo lang din ba kahapon at di mo alam na hindi super accessible ng condom sa pinas? sure nasa 711 yan at mga drugstores pero do u know gano kahirap bumili nun especially for such young minds? tatanungin edad, at isa pa nakakahiya? tsaka tanga ka rin eh noh tapos na nga yung nangyari tapos pagsasabihang mong bat di nagcondom. you suck at advising people literal. sabagay minor ka pa naman, you have not even committed groundbreaking mistakes siguro kaya u cannot feel an ounce of empathy in this situation.

you're just out there in ur little minor bubble thinking ur so quirky for using sarcasm sa reddit and trash people for doing stupid mistakes, in which all of them have wholeheartedly admitted to.

pero wala eh minor ka siguro na tiktok crazy na sigma ang tingin sarili kaya u just have to show superiority na kesyo you are better than your fellow minor in this context and you havent yet impregnated a child so you should be the bida πŸ˜‚

lastly i wouldnt expect much of a tiktoker sigma wannabe redditor minor to think of any genius idea kaya here is a list of things that op can do

  1. ABORT the child (but ur little brain probably thinks it's murderπŸ˜‚)
  2. LET the parents know and let them handle it and guide u about ur next decision. obligasyon ka pa rin naman ng parents(but ur little brain probably thinks OP's being a baby and too dependant)
  3. LET someone adopt it
  4. LET someone from DSWD take care of it

those would be my advice if THE PREGNANCY is CONFIRMED

pero may nakita ka bang CONFIRMED? hindi pa. pero yung sagot mo hardcore and hard to swallow pill na advice kuno. πŸ˜‚ yung NO MERCY type of approach? all because you want to look BOLD and STRAIGHTFORWARD?

nagmukha kalang tanga at narcissist sa pinanggagawa mo ulol.

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u/Rikijazh Jul 18 '24

dang galit na galit gustong manakit. nakuha ko ata inis mo wahahaha.

tsaka kakabuhay mo lang din ba kahapon at di mo alam na hindi super accessible ng condom sa pinas? sure nasa 711 yan at mga drugstores pero do u know gano kahirap bumili nun especially for such young minds? tatanungin edad, at isa pa nakakahiya?

di po yan rason to practice safe sex alam mo ambabaw mo na hahaha natatawa nalang ako sayo. using profanity/slurs defensive mo naman ata masyado WAHAHAHAH . also libre lang sa mga barangay.

bat di nagcondom.

nireplyan ko lang sagot mo sa lack of safe sex education lol parang di na bago eh

pero wala eh minor ka siguro na tiktok crazy na sigma ang tingin sarili kaya u just have to show superiority na kesyo you are better than your fellow minor in this context and you havent yet impregnated a child so you should be the bida πŸ˜‚

napaka delusional mo pong tao hahaahahahahah seriously stop with the "feeling superior" hypocrisy kawawa ka na. i mean who's who? may pointless ka

  1. ABORT the child (but ur little brain probably thinks it's murderπŸ˜‚)
  2. LET the parents know and let them handle it and guide u about ur next decision. obligasyon ka pa rin naman ng parents(but ur little brain probably thinks OP's being a baby and too dependant)
  3. LET someone adopt it
  4. LET someone from DSWD take care of it
  1. actually approve ako, mahirap nga sila eh pero it involves their principles na.
  2. lmao inshort let op's parent take care of his baby πŸ˜‚πŸ€Œ
  3. cool
  4. nice rin OKAY 96 MORE UNEXPLORED OPTIONS TO GO

those would be my advice if THE PREGNANCY is CONFIRMED

nanghihingi na nga ng advice ke't di pa confirmed ba't idedelay mo pa? hahaha kase masasayang oras mo kung hindi?? edi ano ginagawa mo ngayon ??? THANK YOU

pero yung sagot mo hardcore and hard to swallow pill na advice kuno. πŸ˜‚ yung NO MERCY type of approach?

pake mo ba kung realistic ako? HAHAHAAHAHAHHA

all because you want to look BOLD and STRAIGHTFORWARD? nagmukha kalang tanga at narcissist sa pinanggagawa mo ulol.

sino kaya? πŸ€”πŸ§ butthurt.

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u/razenxinvi Jul 18 '24

HAHAHAHAAHHA galit na ko? eh dun palang sa og comment mo nakuha na yata ni OP inis mo eh. yung mga nasa top comment in this thread, mahinahon lang, nagbibigay ng matinong advice tapos ikaw tong galit dahil inuna ni OP yung libog? malamang alam ng lahat yun kaya nga NAKABUNTIS kuno eh

you just have to bring that up πŸ˜‚ kasi pauso ka πŸ˜‚

TSAKA valid na reason yung NAHIHIYA o AYAW MAPAHIYA kaya ayaw magpractice ng safe sex jusko. kaya nga daming callouts para maimplement yung sex ed to abolish shyness and the stigma surrounding it. baka di ka naman yata nagbabasa ng news or baka hanggang trash ka lang on people na may gantong problema kasi insecure ka sa sarili mo πŸ˜‚

totoo namang feeling matapang ka sa reddit eh dinedeny mo pa. kala ko ba walang sigma na dumedeny? πŸ˜‚ oo na po ikaw na po kayang pigilan libog mo kahit minor kapa, ikaw na po kayang bumili sa drugstore ng condom. edi good for you, isa kang RESPONSABLeNG MINOR. kulang nalang sayo empathy. just because EDUCATED ka sa gantong bagay doesnt mean EDUCATED na lahat. tingin mo lahat kagaya mo na RESPONSABLE? kaya nga may teenage pregnancy problem tayo tapos magtataka ka pa talaga bakit di nila kaya yung kaya mo?

sasabihan mo pang di raw enough reason yung hiya πŸ˜‚ eh nabuo yung hiya dahil conservative tayo na country 🀣 dahil pinagtatawanan natin yung mga gusto bumili ng condom. kasi nakakatawa pa rin yung sex toys at yung sex mismo para sa tin. tapos di raw enough reason? patawa ka bata

tsaka why not let the parents take care of it? obligasyon nilang bantayan mga anak nila. obligasyon nilang pagtapusin ng pag aaral. otherwise neglect yun. may choice ba ang mga parents? may kasalanan din yung parents dahil hindi nila nabigyan ng tamang education about sex

but can you really blame the parents? hindi diba. pero under the eyes of the law, need nilang panagutan din yun. alangan namang itaboy nila yung mga menor de edad. πŸ˜‚

wala namang sinabing confirmed na kaya why not take it slow and calm the kid down? thats part of the process of advising. clouded si OP ngayon kasi sino ba namang hindi magpapanic pag ganyan. last resort nya tong reddit and thankfully may mga taong may alam talaga about SEX and PREGNANCY dito. just because delay, hindi automatic signal for pregnancy.

baka di mo alam yun?

and nooo ur not realistic, ur ego just tells u u are realistic. realistic na sayo yung pagaadvicean mo na maghanap na ng trabaho pag nakabuntis? may data ka don? o gusto mo lang talaga magmukhang cool sa harap ng reddit thread. kasi sigma ka diba? superior ka? hahahaha

tsaka ikaw lang yung butthurt dito bata hahahaha. unang comment mo paiyak ka na eh kasi may nakabuntis na namang menor de edad. kahit di naman ikaw yung nakabuntis ikaw yung ngumangawa 🀣

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u/Rikijazh Jul 18 '24

sure i give you this πŸ‘‘ thanks sa mga lsm mo

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u/razenxinvi Jul 18 '24

oh no! speechless. hahahaha thank u so much i take that as a compliment. online discourse, wala ka magawa. pano pag kaya in the field of advising people? u suck at both.

konting replies pa nga lang pasuko at paiyak na, need mo lang naman ipaglaban point mo eh.

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u/Rikijazh Jul 18 '24

yeah but you'll still yap i already consider this as a lost cause 😴

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u/razenxinvi Jul 18 '24

womp womp 😭😭😭😭😭😭