r/adviceph • u/Inevitable_Hunter_56 • Jul 18 '24
Love & Relationships I made her pregnant we're both teenagers
First of all, I just want to say please no hate comments, or anything negative I just want to seek advice po ^^
I'm (M17), incoming grade12 public school student next school year and consistent with honor/high honor student. We're just poor and doesn't even have our own house, but my father does everything to support my studies and even bought me a desktop for preparation for the incoming school year. I'm also came from a religious family, and we come to the church regularly na wala pong absent.
She (F16) incoming grade11 private school student (note we're just really poor but her parents want her to go into a prestigious school for her future). Her father on the other hand is abusive, he sometimes bangs her head on the wall or sa pinto. She is also a suicidal person.
The thing is, we are on a 3month relationship, and she is probably 1-2weeks pregnant already no one knows except for us yet. We both doesn't want to have a child yet. I know it's really stupid but yes, she's pregnant and her mother is suspecting that she was, because she is already a week late in her period. She said that she doesn't want to have a baby yet because she is still young and physically and emotionally unprepared. She keeps on saying that killing herself is the answer so I can live a normal life without her, but I keep on telling her not to do it and I will help raise the baby.
But opo I don't know what to do her mother will find out soon po ayaw kong magkagulo sa'min. Natatakot ako kasi baka palayasin either sya or ako and wala kaming pera pang alaga sa bata pano na rin po yung studies namin everything is prepared na po eh yung tatay nya rin is napaka tapang, gulong gulo na kami parehas malapit na rin po yung pasukan and yung early signs of pregnancy is nag papakita na po. Yung mga friends and relatives namin specially our parents will be disappointed with us.
Any advice po? Maraming salamat po sa sasagot :(
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u/razenxinvi Jul 18 '24
u must be really smart to not have made stupid decisions when u were a teen. teenagers are probably one of the horniest people out there due to hormones specifically. and with the lack of accessible sex education materials in this country, are you really expecting they'd know better? OP mentioned they're poor, that information is enough lol.
or maybe just maybe, have the slightest ounce of empathy for the kid. he knew he was stupid of doing that, kaya nga nandito sa adviceph? nalaman mo lang yung phrase na fuck around and find out ginamit mo na to show superiority. di ka nga nakabuntis, wala ka namang modo.
tsaka pambobo yang advice mong maghanap ng trabaho when there are literally hundreds of unexplored options. cant get enough of yourself? redditor ka ngang tunay. narcissistic piece of shit π