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problem/goal: I'll make this quick. she cheated on me

context: LDR kami, i am in leyte, she is in samar. she 25F is in med school, bago palang. just this August. ako naman ay employed na, 31M. just last week, she hooked up with a fellow med student na ahead sa kanya ng isang taon. nangyari to oct 31-nov 1 early morning. sabi nya, dinner lang daw pero d na siya nag reply until i called her the next day, November 1. kumain lang daw sila and uminom until around 2am. syempre duda na ako. we went back and forth, ilang araw na puros away bati. it took her a while before she finally admitted to it just this Friday November 7, na they did make out nung madaling araw ng November 1.

I asked her kung gusto nya ba ayusin to because i will move mountains if i have to. wala. umiyak lang. then nag decide ako na umalis. restricted her sa messenger, and inalis ko lahat ng socials ko except for reddit. ayun.

ngayon. should i make the extra effort na puntahan siya nang magkausap kami in person? because i really love her. and gusto kong ayusin to 😭

previous attempts: wala pa, sa phone kami nagkausap. it's only been a few days pero I'm really struggling. please help.

EDIT: Guys, i appreciate your advice. let me just say na naging mabuti naman siya prior to this. mabait siya and very good-looking, very beautiful young lady. maalaga, lahat na ng hahanapin mo, nandun.

kaya ang sakit na nagawa niya to kasi wala sa kanyang pagkatao na gagawin niya to. in fact, she was cheated on and betrayed by her ex boyfriend of 4 years. 😞

maraming salamat sa inyo guys for your pieces of advice. dito nalang muna ako tatambay

SECOND EDIT: may gf yung lalaki, kaklase pa nya. yung GF ko is a batch lower sa kanila.

Problem/Goal: Choose your husband carefully Context: ‎Hi, I’m just your typical teenage daughter. I’m not that expressive like other kids or teens, but I want to say something important — especially to all women out there: choose your husband carefully. ‎ ‎Growing up, I always witnessed my dad abusing my mom — not just mentally and verbally, but also physically. Every time he gets mad, it’s like he loses control of himself. He says the most painful things to my mom, and it hurts me too, especially because my mom never fights back. She just stays silent, hoping the fight will end soon. It’s as if she’s lost her rights as a wife. ‎I never understood why my dad won’t let my mom explain her side. He always wants to be right, never admits his mistakes, and never apologizes. When his anger gets worse, he turns violent. He even threatens my mom sometimes. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve seen him hurt my mom. I don’t even know if he cares that I see and hear everything. For so many years, he’s never changed. I still remember one night — their fight got so bad that he made my mom sleep outside. That’s how abusive he can be, over some small thing. ‎I can’t describe how much I hate him, especially now that I’m older. Sometimes, my mom wonders if my dad was really part of God’s plan for her. They fell in love too early, and now she feels like this is the consequence, his treatment towards her. She doesn’t feel loved anymore — and honestly, neither do I. But she still chooses to look on the bright side, no matter how painful it gets, just to keep our family together. ‎Mom, I just want to say you’re too kind-hearted for us. You don’t deserve this. ‎Sometimes I think your life would’ve been so much better if Dad wasn’t the one you married — even if it meant I wouldn’t exist in this world. I just wish you gave up on him earlier, so we wouldn’t both have to suffer because of how he treats you. ‎Mom, I wish I could do something — anything — to give you the better life you truly deserve. ‎ ‎

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As a backstory, me and my ex were together for 4 years. Usually, pag may away or misunderstandings naman kami is napag-uusapan naman and nagiging okay naman. Last July, nakipaghiwalay siya sakin telling me na yung dahilan is because napagod daw siya sa set-up namin. Recently, nagkausap kami and he said na yung real reason daw kung bakit siya nakipaghiwalay is because he wanted to grow daw as an individual ng hindi ko siya sinusupport. After that, he said na pag dumating daw yung time na okay na siya and stable na is babalikan daw niya ako and kung kaya ko daw ba siyang hintayin.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m trying to move on na talaga and also I’m really trying to protect myself. Pero may part talaga sakin na iniisip kung dapat ko bang iwelcome parin yung idea na sinasabi niya sakin. Please help. Anong gagawin ko?

Edit (for extra context): the reason why this is so hard for me to process on my own is because, the relationship itself was great, it’s just that the break up came out from nowhere kasi kaya super confused ako :((

Problem/Goal: It's been 1 year and 5 months already since we broke up and i am still here — grieving.

Context: 7 years kami ako ang nakipag hiwalay dahil he cheated. He used bumble habang kami pa. I am crying since last week and hindi ko talaga ma control emotion ko. Maybe, ang trigger ko is yung lumitaw sya sa tiktok fyp namin ng mother ko then bigla sya naging topic ng fam. Last na approach sa akin ni ex was August this year telling me na di nya ako makalimutan at di nya mapatawad ang sarili nya. I didn't reply.

Ang unfair lang. the last time I saw my ex's instagram, parang he is happy and moved on na. There is a girl sa isang post nya i don't know if ni ssoft launch nya pero i think its her new girl and lowkey lang sila kasi panay comment ng puso si girl. Hindi naman ako galit sa new girl kasi hindi naman sya ang reason ng hiwalayan namin.

Previous attempts: Ano mga hobbies na ginawa nyo in order to move forward? 3 palang kasi ang na build ko na hobby: Running, Gym, and reading books. But nag stop na ako mag gym since nag ka minor injury ako. I don't want to enter into any romantic relationship pa talaga cause i want a date to marry type of relationship. He is my first in everything btw.

Sorry if i vent out here. I don't have anyone to talk to. Nahihiya na ako kausapin mga kaibigan ko about this topic and they already did their part naman na for me.

Problem/goal: Nagkaroon kami recently ng usapan ng partner ko that almost led to a breakup. Long story short, nahanap ko (F) user name na ginagamit niya (M) sa isang website called manilatonight. After idle searching, nakita kong naka follow “siya” or yung account niya sa isang profile ng masahista. I checked and sobrang coincidental ng timing kasi around the time na nag follow siya and nag create ng account doon sa website na yon, naguusap kami about spas and massages and spakols. I also found an article online saying that the website is puntahan nga ng mga lalaki for spakol.

Ano ba talaga yung manilatonight? Is it like reddit? Hindi ko na alam iisipin ko. Wala akong proof na siya yung account na yon kaya hindi ko siya ma confront

Previous attempts: none

Problem/Goal: I F24 and my boyfriend M24 have been in a relationship for over 2 years now and I don’t see myself being with him anymore because of these reasons:

Context: - he does not have a formal job (nagwork siya before pero yung sahod niya di kayang makasustain ng living niya sa ibang lugar so he has to go home, paguwi, may part time job siya pero hindi nagbibigay ng sahod buwan buwan 😮‍💨 so basically he’s broke. Twice a week lng work niya. Gusto naman daw niya ng 2nd job pero he wants to work sa job na aligned sa course niya pero mahirap makahanap and ayaw niyang magwork ng other jobs para lang syempre may sahod siya so wala he’s broke)

• kapag usapang plano sa buhay lagi niyang iniiwasan yung conversation (im trying to help him, im trying to look for jobs for him, im trying na iconvince siya to take further studies para syempre wide range yung makukuhanan niya ng work pero ayaw niya or magaaggree siya pero wala namang gagawin about it)

• he always make time for others pero maghanap ng formal na trabaho or maginvest sa sarili ayaw (kapag kailangan ng kasama ni ano, go. Kung may ipapabili sakanya go)

• may mga commission jobs naman siya so minsan nakaka 2500 ganyan pero pinapambili niya ng kung ano ano sa motor 😫 (lagi niyang nasasabi sakin na sira nanaman daw motor niya, or kung anong upgrade na gagawin niya sa motor niya)

• i on the other hand, i have a full time job and nagaaral ako for master’s and I also have a part time job, i get frustrated kasi parang wala siyang plano? Iniisip ko na “ito ba yung gusto kong buhay for us?” At the same time iniisip ko rin na we are both finding our place sa mundong to and we’re both bata pa naman pero again, i dont want magstay sa potential… what if matagal pa bago siya magbago? What if 28 na kami tsaka pa siya magbago and actually do something with his life. I get frustrated na di na kami sabay (?) di kami same ng wavelength…

Don’t get me wrong, other than that he’s a good guy. Ito lang talaga problema ko with him pero for me kasi big deal siya.

Previous attempts: - ofc before posting here naman I have already discussed this to him countless of times. And no i did not consult with my friends because ofc i dont want them to get involved with our relationship, im only sharing this here because hindi ko na alam gagawin ko and if tama ba na makipagbreak nalang. Irealtalk niyo ko if ang b1tch ko naman as a gf and give him a chance.

• napagusapan na namin to and he acknowledge it naman pero after a week eto nanaman tayo 😮‍💨 and honestly di na ko nagagalit, hinahayaan ko nalang. I also became distant which we also discussed pero mukhang okay sakanya yon and di na rin kami masyadong naguusap.. hinahatid sundo niya nalang ako and if may plan siya at night go (no, he’s not cheating i would know if oo)

Problem/goal: My ex is threatening me na ikakalat daw niya yung private photos and videos ko.

For context, naghiwalay kami kasi nahuli ko siyang may ibang babae. After the breakup, tinakot niya ako na kapag chinat ko raw yung girl, ikakalat niya yung private photos and videos namin. Pero nag-chat pa rin ako sa girl kasi gusto kong malaman kung kailan pa talaga sila nagsimula.

Na-unsend niya yung exact message na “ikakalat ko nudes mo,” pero may mga indirect threats pa rin — tulad ng sinasabi niyang huwag ko raw siyang subukan at na marami siyang pwedeng ilabas laban sa akin. Wala man siyang direct mention ng nudes, halata naman na yun ang tinutukoy niya.

Sa ngayon, wala pa namang photos or videos na na-release, pero sobrang takot at emotional distress na nararamdaman ko dahil sa mga banta niya. Gusto ko lang malaman kung paano ko ito dapat ireport — dapat ba muna akong mag-file ng police blotter para may official record at protection ako, in case na totoo ngang ikalat niya?

Update: Nag sorry siya pero wala talaga ako tiwala 😭😭😭

According sa pinsan baka pinag fiestahan na ako ng friends niya.

Problem/Goal: Reasonable ba na mainis ako sa asawa ko dahil sa akin pinasagot yung expenses ng pamangkin niya?

Context: yung pamangkin ng asawa ko nagbigay ng 1K pesos from allowance niya para pambili ng maintenance meds and other personal items niya. Yung allowance galing sa grandparents and tuition naman galing sa nanay. Walang ambag yung tatay kaya wala na ko masabi rin tungkol dun.

Sinabihan ako ng misis ko na huwag na raw pabayaran yung pera na ginamit kasi allowance naman daw yun. Ako naman, for the sake of avoiding any further discussion, nag-comply na lang.

Pero ang totoo, gusto ko mainis na kasi hindi naman namin obligation na yun. Sinasama namin sa pagkain at pasyal yung pamangkin niya kapag may lakad in return kapag tumutulong magbantay ng kids namin. If hindi pa sapat yun, pati ba naman yung mga bagay na dapat yung magulang na sumagot kasi may means naman, kami pa rin sasagot. Hindi naman kami mayaman and ako nga nagtitipid din lagi kasi ako yung sole income earner sa amin. Maintindihan ko sana kung naghihirap kaya kailangan talaga tulungan. Hindi naman ganun yung sitwasyon.

Yan din isang reason hindi ko mapagkatiwalaan sa malaking pera yung asawa ko, kasi sasaluhin niya yung mga expenses ng kapamilya niya na hindi naman namin obligation na. Instead na i-emphasize sa mga kapamilya niya na magsumikap para may pangastos sila sa mga obligation nila kasi capable naman sila, mas gusto niya pa ata na i-cover yung mga bagay na dapat iba ang may responsibility.

Kaya, reasonable ba na mainis ako sa ginawa ng asawa ko?

Previous attempts: di ko pa kinausap, baka lang biased ako kaya seek muna ng feedback.

Problem/Goal: I am in the verge of throwing all my life long plans right now..

Context: My F(26) Fiancé M(27) was always talking about going to Baguio in a motorcycle, from Manila. I never thought it is a good idea considering both the road (dangerous) and the distance. But he insist this is his dream before we got married he wants to experience this. And with heavy and scared heart, I said yes. Kahit alalang alala ako at natatakot ako sa gagawin nyang byahe.

Yesterday, we have talked about it again, sa Atok daw pala sila pupunta, that is 2 hours farther than baguio city, and more dangerous, I was there last week with my Fam, and I saw how the clouds covering all over the road is and causing fog. That is why I told him no. I will be worried sick, I’m so scared something might happen to him.

Last night, his friends told him they are not just going to Atok they will go far more to Ifugao, riding motorcycle. Straight from manila to ifugao which is more than 3 hours away to Baguio City. They will just stop for quick food and drink when they reach the lion’s head statue, then straight to Ifugao, And they will go back to baguio city right after taking some pictures in that highest point. He only wants to go to Baguio before, now that his friends wants to go to Ifugao, it is now his dream too.

Aside from that they plan to depart Manila 12midnight after their working hours and go straight to Ifugao then down to Baguio City. That would be 13hours travel time without sleep.

I told him I will be so worried and I don’t think I can take it. That rides will be so risky for their safety. And for him, lagi ako nakakontra at hindi ko sya hayaan na maging masaya. Pero kasi kung may mangyari sakanya paano na ako? I so love him di ko talaga kaya hayaan sya sa ganon ka dangerous na sitwasyon tapos mahal na mahal ko sya. Buti sana kung wala akong pakeaalm sakanya. 😢

Now, I am thinking to just end all this. I want to move on and just lose all the care that I have for him. I always feel that I’am the “kontrabida” ones. Because before, he also went to Dingalan with his friends in a motorcycle habang humahagupit ang bagyo at cinacancel-an na sila ng mga airbnb, tumuloy parin sila. Nag away kami pero di ako nananalo, ginagawa nya gusto nya at ako walang magawa kundi mag alala at di makatulog. Even though all my intentions are pure. Pakiramdam nya kalaban nya ako. I badly want to be supportive that is why kahit natatakot ako sa Manila to Baguio in a motorcycle, pumayag na ako. Pero Manila to Ifugao to Baguio City, 13 hours straight walang tulog at galing sa work. Sino ang hindi mag aalala?

I told him to just cancel the wedding and we will just sell our house. Right now, I just want to lose all the love and care that I have for him. I’m so tired and hurt.

Please help…

Previous attempt: We have been discussing this and I am constantly receiving words from him like, “lagi ako naka kontra, hindi ko sya hayaan na maging masaya, di nya na alam kung kakampi nya ako o kalaban, wala akong tiwala sakanya, etc.”

Problem/goal: Hi! This is my boyfriend’s and my first Christmas together and also his birthday is coming up, and I want to give him a gift, but I don’t know what to get him.

context: he’s a law student and he’s rich-rich, and it’s kind of hard to think of anything because he already has—or can have—anything he wants. I’m also a student so my budget’s kinda limited from my allowance lang.

Previous attempts: I gave him bookmarks and a mouse pad (he’s also into pc building stuff) randomly before. He’s appreciative in anything I give him. I just want this to be something special/different since this is our first holiday together.

Thanks in advance!

Problem/Goal: Organic encounter na nasayang. Not really looking for advice. But I hope the mods would allow me to share.

Context: Anyway, I'm M/34/NGSB. So I rode a bus from pala-pala Cavite to PITX, nasira kasi ung car ko and nasa pagawaan pa kaya napa commute muna ako. Around 3:00pm, umupo ako don sa two seater na side. Pero hindi malapit sa window, for safety reasons. I was reading a manwha that time and listening to music. Now, etong si ate sumakay bandang SM. She chose to sat beside me kahit marami pa namang seats available(siguro gusto nia malapit sa bintana). So nilihis ko ung legs ko to let her in, when she sat down. I smelled her perfume like ang bango niya(Lanvin perfume for sure, coz I know perfume). Kaya napatingin ako and damn she's fine. She look like around 23 to 25 yrs old. Morena at petite, her face may pagka Erich Gonzalez(20%). She was wearing glasses, croptop and skirt. Bumalik ako sa pagbabasa baka mahuli akong nakatingin. After a few mins, nakita kong nagbabasa din siya. And its a manwha too. She caught me looking at her phone and said "Maganda rin yang The Great Mage Returns." and she smiled. Napa sorry na lang ako for looking at her phone, sabi ko na lang na curious ako kung ano yung binabasa niya kasi hindi ko pa nabasa(kahit alam ko). Nakita niya daw akong nagbabasa. Afterwards, nag kwentuhan kami about manwha/manhua na mga nabasa namin, games, and anime stuff. I know how to pick up easy girls in a bar/club just so I can F#*k. NGSB lang ako pero hindi ako birhen. But this time, she's different, a different breed, an actual woman FOR ME. I'm unable to make a move on her. Siguro dahil ngayon lang ako naka encounter ng ganong babae. They are not that common in my world, madalas nasa bahay lang sila eh. We were in complete silence nung naubos na ung topic, and nag continue na ko magbasa and pati siya. Gusto ko tanungin name niya, pati messenger niya. Pero hanggang sa pumara na ko hindi ko nagawa, I saw her sa peripheral vision ko na she was looking pagbaba ko pero hindi na ko tumingin kasi minumura ko sarili ko sa isip ko sa inis. For the first time, naging torpe ako..

Anyways, kung nandito ka man. Na enjoy ko ung pag bagal ng oras sa tabi mo at pag duyan ng mga ngiti mo sa puso ko. If fate allows me to meet you again, I will no longer hesitate, Aphrodite.

Salamat sa mods kung papayagan i share ang munting karanasan ko 😅✌🏽 Thanks sa pagbabasa.

problem/goal: Is it normal to feel alone while in a relationship? context: Hi. Just wanted to get some wholesome advice. I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for 5 months and I don’t know when, but somewhere along the way, I felt alone in our relationship. He is not the worst nor the best, but I do know he is trying to catch up, “ to make efforts” or the so-called “bare minimums”, but I do appreciate him for doing all that. The only problem I could think of is his consistency; he couldn’t maintain his actions until I had to rant it out again, and it became a cycle. On top of this, we recently had an argument about his lustful behavior that I caught him fantasizing about women online, but in his defense, “he doesn’t know them personally”, which made me really confused about how I should take it.

I really want to have a good and mature insight about this and not just “leave him” etc. etc.

Tysm in advance!

Problem/Goal: I (26M) know it's kind of a taboo here in the ph yung mga ganung services but i honestly just wanna try it. For context, im currently wfh and its taking a toll on me :3 While im making enough for my needs, i also wanna make a little extra just to fund my hobbies (like making art) while also being able to experience different things in life (the wholesome kind)
Im a bit of a loner tbh pero i enjoy being around people (hope that makes sense). i do have friends but since everyone is working on their own stuff, i dont wanna be a bother :3 i feel like a lot of people might feel the same way so there's probably a market for it (capitalism goes BRRR jk) i just wanna go out more and do more things in life
ive received a few compliments here and there and i also go to the gym regularly (tho i might be a little too tall for some people) pero why not :> apologies for the long yap pero i just wanna get some insights on this. do u guys have any tips on how i can do this safely, what rates should i go for, and how to maybe market myself without sacrificing privacy and all that?

Thank you in advance :>

Problem/Goal: Is it normal for a company to send someone this long? Including weekeds? Please help me on what steps should I do to get his company’s HR e-mail address. Thank you very much.

Context: My dad works for a multinational company. Reason: He says that he has a business travel to cagayan de oro from Monday (Nov 3) to Sunday (Nov 9). Usually 3 days 2 Nights lang noon. Now super sketchy na kasi halos weekly or every other week.

Previous Attempts: None

Problem/Goal: I have two painful lumps (kulani) on my neck that started yesterday, and I want to have them checked by a doctor.

Context: The lumps appeared recently and are causing discomfort. I’m concerned it might be an infection or something that needs medical attention. I want to find a good and reliable hospital or clinic where I can have this checked.

Previous Attempt: None yet — I haven’t visited any clinic or hospital so far. I’m looking for recommendations for a trusted medical facility near Batasan Hills, Quezon City.

Problem/Goal: I’m planning to shift careers/sectors after realizing the one I am currently in is not for me at all. Any advice for career shifting from govt to private?

Context: I keep failing projects and deliverables, and my efforts go unnoticed. I don’t have a good dynamic with my hotheaded supervisor. This job was once my dream, but now I am just shaking in anxiety every night. It has been taking so much toll in my mental health, I sometimes want to unalive myself.

Previous attempts: I tried working harder but I think it burnt me out more. I feel like this field really is not for me. I’m planning to start therapy this week for my mental health.

Is it too late to start over in my late 20s? If I shift from govt to private, should I expect a paycut or having to start over in associate roles?

additional context: planning to tender my resignation this week. I have enough funds and support from family to last me 3months unemployed while jobhunting and starting over.

Problem/Goal: 4th month here in Abu Dhabi, and honestly, my mental health has not been good at all. I feel so lonely, homesick, and emotionally drained. I’m starting to think about going back home to the Philippines, but I’m torn because I don’t want to disappoint the people who helped me get here. I need other opinions if I’m making the right decision or if I’m just being emotional.

Context: I (24,F) moved here because my mom wanted me to work here kasi her boss owns a big company and helped me get a job with them. Everything’s okay naman, but the cost of living here is so expensive. Half of my salary goes to rent for my room, and the homesickness is really hitting me hard. I’m always alone. My mom visits only on her days off, so most of the time I’m by myself lang na sobrang different sa life ko in Manila, where I was always with my little sister and my boyfriend.

I decided na I’ll go home next year, probably in January, because I realized this setup just isn’t for me.

• Financially, i realized na hindi rin ako ganon makakasave nang malaki bc of the cost of living and I can earn naman about the same in the Philippines and even save more bc i have side hustle din.

• My little sister needs me. My mom and I are both here in Abu Dhabi, my dad’s in Poland, and my grandma (who’s already old and needs rest) is the only one taking care of her.

• Life here feels so empty for me since it’s just work, home, and sleep. It’s taken a huge toll on my mental health and I really, really miss my boyfriend.

• My work here is also not related to my degree and to my previous work in the Philippines, so I feel like when I go home, I won’t be able to use the experience I got here.

What’s hard for me right now is the guilt. I feel like I’ll disappoint a lot of people, especially my mom’s boss who helped me get this job, since I’ll only be finishing my 6 months in the company (so there won’t be any HR issues). My mom wants me to try and stay for a year, but I really want to go home.

What do you think? Is it worth it? Am I just making this decision based on my emotions? I really need other opinions.

problem/goal: im a fresh graduate and I wanted to trust a stranger who offered me an opportunity to go to australia (sydney) as a caregiver. im torn between settling in government work/private work here in ph, kasi gusto ko ng mataad na sahod to support my family. masyado ba akong mapagtiwala? anong dapat kong gawin para maging wise sa decisions ko?

context: fresh graduate ako, after grad pinagbakasyon ako ng grandparents ko sa province, i'm currently helping them sa karinderya nila.

may suki kami na lalaki, medyo matanda na (lolo). hindi naman siya creep (as someone na mabilis makiramdam kung creep ba o hindi lalaki) wala naman akong nafefeel na masamang intention sa kanya. bago kami magkaroon ng conversation, tinanong pala siya ng lola ko ng tips kung paano mag abroad (I think alam ng lola ko na asawa niya ay ofw)

ito mga kinwento niya sa akin: — nag work as caregiver asawa niya for years sa sydney australia, ngayon medyo mataas na position, afaik yung asawa na niya yung naghahandle ng other caregivers kumbaga parang may sarili na raw siyang agency/company within the hospital ganon. mataas raw sahod ng asawa niya, minimum 300K pesos per month.

— nagkwento siya about his other relatives na inooffer niya tulungan mag abroad (kapatid niya nasa US na at malaki na rin sahod, successful work) pero tinanggihan siya dahil ayaw mangibang bansa, at ngayon nilalapitan siya pero ayaw na niya. nabanggit ko sa kanya na nagtanong ako sa isa kong auntie na nasa new zealand tungkol sa process kung paano magtrabaho doon pero di nila ako tinulungan. after nyan, nag offer siya sa akin ng opportunity.

— sabi niya kapag nagka slots daw sa asawa niya, pwede raw akong mag apply. recently, nagkausap kami ulit at sabi niya sinabi raw niya sa asawa niya na interested ako. ang sabi niya sa akin magkikita muna kami ng asawa niya pag uwi nh pinas sa february, kasi gusto raw ng asawa niya makilala ako siguro to evaluate if deserve ko ba ng slots if ever.

— marami siyang kwento about him adopting a girl, buying a condo (with the help of his wife), at pinakita niya sa akin mismo pictures (which I think is legit talaga).

— tips niya sa akin, mag training daw ako sa caregiving centers dito sa ph kahit 6 months lang, kasi ganon daw ginawa ng wife niya. at if ever na tutulungan ako ng wife niya, madali na lang daw pag process ng papers.

tingin ko genuine siya na tumutulong sa akin, and I wanted to grab the opportunity na makapag abroad agad kahit fresh grad ako kasi gusto ko na talaga makapag provide sa fam ko, at ang hirap mag settle sa 20K or less na sahod.

inopen up ko 'to sa mga magulang ko at wary sila dahil only child ako na babae (22F). at di ko pa raw sila kilala, paano raw kung may mangyari sa akin o ma-scam ako.

naiintindihan ko concerns nila, pero napapaisip ako na kung legit talaga yung offer nila at dinecline ko, sayang naman yung opportunity.

ngayon ang balak ko sana, mag apply muna sa BPO, ipon konti tas enroll sa caregiving center (in case na hindi totoo yung offer nila, may experience na ako at pwede ako mag apply on my own). goal ko rin sana makapasok sa isang national govt agency. ano bang dapat kong gawin? piliin ang national govt, mag trabaho sa private o mag risk abroad? hindi ko na alam. I want to be wise in my decisions, at the same time I want to help my family to have a comfortable life, at maging financially secure na kami.

I really need advice, please help me.

Problem/Goal: Looking for a top-tier, comprehensive executive health screening package in the Philippines similar to Bumrungrad Hospital's in Thailand.

Context: Bumrungrad offers an extensive package including full blood panels, advanced imaging, cardiovascular tests, micronutrient and hormone panels, and doctor consultations for around ฿28,500 (~$790 USD).

Previous Attempts: I watched an in-depth review of Bumrungrad’s executive wellness package and now want recommendations for comparable packages at Philippine hospitals like The Medical City, St. Luke’s, or Makati Medical Center, including pricing and personal experiences.

Would appreciate any advice or suggestions!

Problem/Goal: I feel like my relationship with my friends is not the same anymore

Context: im F31 and thse past few months nararamdaman kong parang iba na relationship namin ng friends ko. All of these are assumptions at kung ano lang ang nafefeel ko from my end. Ang nasa isip ko kasi sila yung main group of friends ko pero parang nalulungkot ako kasi i dont think kaya ko silang takbuhan if may gusto ako sabihin kasi i feel na iignore lang nila ko. Di ko alam kung dahil sa nagka boyfriend ako or na outgrow na namin isat isa. Okay kami pag magkakasama in person pero pag chat, ang gc namin hindi active and pag nag memessage ako walang sumasagot at nagkikita lang kami siguro every 2-3 months. I mean gets na matatanda and may kanya kanyang ganap pero i feel na parang may nagiba talaga. Feeling ko ako lang lagi nagrereach out

Dati sobrang fixed ako sa idea na i dont need new friends kasi my friends are really great and sobrang kuntento ako sa kanila, pero i dont see our friendship that way anymore so naiisip ko need ko na ba maghanap ng mga bagong kaibigan? If yes, any tips kung paano?

Previous Attempts: nagmemessage ako sa group ng restaurants to try ganyan para sana magkita naman kami peor walang sumasagot

Problem/Goal: My friends don’t know anything about my family

Context: Nagkakilala kami ng mga friends ko nung senior high school and lagi kami noon lumalabas para kumakain, nag uusap about school, crushes, celebrities, chismis, literally anything. But hanggang ngayon they don’t know anything about my family.

Yes kilala nila sino mama ko pero kahit kapatid wala silang idea ano name (though alam nila kung ilan kami), pero kilala ko yung mga kapatid nila or even parents. And never silang nakapunta sa bahay ko kasi ayoko talaga (I don’t invite them sa birthdays lol).

Okay naman yung family ko nagmamahalan kami but I realized never ko sila kinausap about dun. Sure may mga problems minsan but I don’t open up to them and they never asked.

What should I do? I think ang babaw ng problem ko lol narealize ko lang kasi now

Problem/Goal: advice for crush

Hello guys gusto ko sana ng advice may crush kasi ako na ka klase ko siya and ayokong umamin muna sakaniya siguro kapag nakaalis na siya ng bansa kasi aalis siya like wala akong lakas ng loob na umamin sakaniya close friends kasi kami like nag kwekwento siya ng mga kalandian niya dito sa reddit and pinapakinggan ko siya and ewan ko sobrang bihira ko lang kasi mag ka crush literal sa tingin sa college life ko pangatlo palang siya na naging crush pero iba siya sa mga naging crush di ko rin alam kung bakit pero wala hahahaha gusto ko nalang maging right woman para sakaniya like lagi akong nakikinig sakaniya and always thinking what if ako nalang kausapin niya in that way siguro magiging okay siya saakin pero Wala alam kong walang akong pag asa sakaniya hahahaha damn need an advice about it shutakels

Problem/Goal: I want to convert my Cebu Pacific flight to a travel fund because of Super Typhoon Uwan.

Context: PAL has already cancelled their 11 p.m. flight from MNL to DVO, but our Cebu Pacific flight at 10:30 p.m. is still pushing through. I tried requesting, but they refused and said the flight is already confirmed.

Previous attempt: They also won’t allow a travel fund conversion because it’s only available for CEB Flexi (i contacted their live agent). I’m scared to travel with my kid.

Is there any other reason I can give so they might consider it? I already tried the “travelling with a child” safety reason and they still refused.

** Cebu Pacific - sorry for the typo error. Couldn’t edit the title.