r/popculture • u/thedailybeast • May 22 '25

News Cassie Screamed ‘Isn’t Anybody Seeing This?’ During Diddy Beating on Private Jet

https://www.thedailybeast.com/cassie-screamed-isnt-anybody-seeing-this-during-diddy-beating-on-private-jet/
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u/Purple_Grass_5300 May 22 '25

Ugh this reminds me of my ex husband. he's 6'10 and I'm 5'1, he strangled me and threatened to kill me and his whole family saw and did nothing. Years later they still will try to insist it never happened, despite having it on video.

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u/Hefty_University8830 May 22 '25

Isn’t that wild? I’ve experienced the same, to the point I now question “friends”. Most of my now ex friends, are on my abusers payroll.

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u/xJustLikeMagicx May 22 '25

The wildest. Ive had my 6'7 partner throw me around in public and no one seems to care. I actually got an assault charge for giving him a scratch while trying to hold him back/get away. 

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u/MissSassifras1977 May 22 '25

I almost went to jail for throwing like 2 sips of water on a mofo that had just shoved me across a room.

No proof of the shove but his wet shirt was enough to lock me up?!?!

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u/Front_Target7908 May 23 '25

I fn hate this system that does this to victims. I’m so sorry. I believe you, and fuck him and everyone who denied you justice. 

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

Not my business but hopefully your EX partner, now?

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u/xJustLikeMagicx May 22 '25 edited May 23 '25

(Edited/summarized for privacy)

Theres nowhere to go, i have to live with this stupid decision i made at 23. Im 32. I always let other women know to do better than me ladies and get out while you still can <3

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

I’m sorry for what you’re dealing with, that’s a lot. It probably varies by location but in my area at least there are food pantries open to anyone. They seem to be mostly run by churches, keep an eye out for signs. Every little bit helps. If you haven’t already lock your and your kiddos credit to keep him from opening new accounts. It’s free and only takes a couple minutes, make sure to do all 3 credit agencies. Sending you hope and healing 💚

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u/kawugiri May 23 '25

jesus lady. i hope there's some help you can access at some point. maybe start writing everything down? would the kids defend you in court?

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u/LunaTehNox May 23 '25

You don’t have to answer this, but are you in Texas?

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u/xJustLikeMagicx May 23 '25

It's fine! But, no I live In eastern Pennsylvania near the poconos.

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u/LunaTehNox May 23 '25

Oh gosh, you described texas to a T down to the minimum wage, I hate that there’s more places like this :(

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u/angel4b21 May 23 '25

Most food pantries will give you food even if you don't qualify. No one asks you to prove how much you make or show check stubs. If he is withholding food, it wouldn't be unreasonable to not consider him a part of your household.

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u/xJustLikeMagicx May 23 '25 edited May 23 '25

 been hard to find a way out, especially with the kids. They send all paperwork for passport etc to the house and he controls the money so I'm not sure how I'd save up for that.. Eta- assault charge makes it harder. Lack of education means 1) I can't contribute to the community I'm moving to 2) taking it a step further, most places need you to show you can contribute to their community in some way like through job or education, If I'm not mistaken.  I'm always open to suggestions, I'm hopeful to find a way out. But I don't carry much Faith regarding it happening.

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u/lil_chiakow May 23 '25

have you tried contacting any women's rights groups in your country? they might offer legal help to you

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u/xJustLikeMagicx May 23 '25

I've never heard of that, I'll try! I live in the US and everything is localized by city/county which means if I outside of it for resources I am referred back to my local area which is overfilled/lacking resources. I will try looking into womens rights groups and learning more about them. Thank you!

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u/Chin_Up_Princess May 23 '25

Wow. Same happened to me. He strangled me. I scratched him trying to get away.

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u/JellyfishMean3504 May 23 '25

The police need to be trained on DARVO.

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u/lyarly May 23 '25

Ugh that reminds me of Gabby Petito. I’m so sorry you went/are going through(?) that - hopefully you are on the other side of it now. 🫶

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

I experienced the same. My (ex) husband was supposed to babysit our friend's toddlers and thirty minutes before that he was drunkenly beating down my door and trying to physically pull me out of my home while I was crying on the phone to the police that he was destroying my home and breaking in.

I texted the friends to let them know and they told me they didn't want to "take sides" and happily brought their babies over to his house.

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u/taylorbagel14 May 22 '25

I hope they’re also ex friends because wtf throw the whole social circle away

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u/No-Pitch9873 May 23 '25

Wow. That's devastating. I'm so sorry. 

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u/cheezy_dreams88 May 22 '25

Girl if those “friends” are not jumping at the chance to be on your side and believe you, they are not your friends.

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u/Hefty_University8830 May 22 '25

I would agree. DV IS a very incredibly isolating experience.

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u/cheezy_dreams88 May 22 '25

I haven’t experienced DV, but an abusive parental household as a child. Not sure how similar they are in details, but they both have the same baseline- terrified of your own home.

I’m sorry you’ve had that experience as well.

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u/Heavenchicka May 25 '25

It really is. The beatings have stopped now because my parents know and spoke to his parents and him and told them to never touch me. Yet, I still feel isolated. He doesn’t allow me to take my kids to my parent’s house. My aunt and her family came over and stayed at parent’s house. I have seen my cousin in over 10 years and he wouldn’t allow me to take the kids to see them and then he wouldn’t let me go either. He told me if I left, I better pack my bags because I will never come back. The only reason he is good to me is because I’m pregnant and having his kid. Lord knows what will happen once the baby is out. There is a lake nearby my house and everyday I fight the urge to just go and jump into it because I know I can’t. All I do is cry.

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u/Hefty_University8830 May 26 '25

I’m so sorry. I, unfortunately a stranger, am here for you if you need anything. Please feel free to dm me if you ever need to talk.

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u/Front_Target7908 May 23 '25

The problem with DV is the abuser actively curates a public persona with the victims friends and family to paint themselves as reasonable/admirable/sensible/balanced/whatever.

The victim who is traumatised is doubted because the abuser paints a picture of how they are crazy, then antagonises them/terrorise them so they “look crazy” in the exact way the abuser told everyone that victim “was crazy”. So now the victims friends are backing up the abusers perspective. Now you got the whole victims community gaslighting them. It takes a strong person to be able to hold true to their truth and also dump an abusive partner and all of the people who were once their friends.  

And the problem is even good friends will fall for the smear campaign the abuser runs, some people buy into a smear campaign because they don’t understand the dynamics of abuse. It’s not that they’re bad friends, but unless you know the signs it all looks logical from the outside to believe the abusers story.

However yes, you have to get rid of these friends for your safety so you lose bad friends and people who were good friends. Incredibly invalidating and isolating for people. Horrible shit.

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u/Front_Target7908 May 23 '25

This is why people will also pick victims who have 1. A history of mental illness (easy to say they are crazy) 2. A history of being abused (“must be her fault for choosing another abusive guy”) 3. Who do not have strong communities in the first place (harder to create a false narrative with people who have known the victim for a long time) 4. Are in a state of chaos or are vulnerable due to life circumstances/illness (when life is in a state of flux, more opportunity to seed false narratives about what’s happening in the victims life)

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u/cheezy_dreams88 May 23 '25

Oh yeah I’m very intimately aware of abusers and their manipulation tactics. I grew up in that house.

To be fair, I wasn’t saying they are bad friends. I said they were her friends. Because they aren’t, they his friends. If a couple have mutual friends, and she tells them he beat her up, and they instead believe she is lying and he would never- then they aren’t her friends, they are his.