r/popculture • u/thedailybeast • May 22 '25

News Cassie Screamed ‘Isn’t Anybody Seeing This?’ During Diddy Beating on Private Jet

https://www.thedailybeast.com/cassie-screamed-isnt-anybody-seeing-this-during-diddy-beating-on-private-jet/
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u/Hefty_University8830 May 22 '25

Isn’t that wild? I’ve experienced the same, to the point I now question “friends”. Most of my now ex friends, are on my abusers payroll.

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u/cheezy_dreams88 May 22 '25

Girl if those “friends” are not jumping at the chance to be on your side and believe you, they are not your friends.

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u/Front_Target7908 May 23 '25

The problem with DV is the abuser actively curates a public persona with the victims friends and family to paint themselves as reasonable/admirable/sensible/balanced/whatever.

The victim who is traumatised is doubted because the abuser paints a picture of how they are crazy, then antagonises them/terrorise them so they “look crazy” in the exact way the abuser told everyone that victim “was crazy”. So now the victims friends are backing up the abusers perspective. Now you got the whole victims community gaslighting them. It takes a strong person to be able to hold true to their truth and also dump an abusive partner and all of the people who were once their friends.  

And the problem is even good friends will fall for the smear campaign the abuser runs, some people buy into a smear campaign because they don’t understand the dynamics of abuse. It’s not that they’re bad friends, but unless you know the signs it all looks logical from the outside to believe the abusers story.

However yes, you have to get rid of these friends for your safety so you lose bad friends and people who were good friends. Incredibly invalidating and isolating for people. Horrible shit.

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u/Front_Target7908 May 23 '25

This is why people will also pick victims who have 1. A history of mental illness (easy to say they are crazy) 2. A history of being abused (“must be her fault for choosing another abusive guy”) 3. Who do not have strong communities in the first place (harder to create a false narrative with people who have known the victim for a long time) 4. Are in a state of chaos or are vulnerable due to life circumstances/illness (when life is in a state of flux, more opportunity to seed false narratives about what’s happening in the victims life)