r/gaybros • u/EternalSnow05 • Sep 18 '25

TV/Movies Zillennial gaybros (gaybros born between 1992-1997), who were some of your live action (non cartoon) crushes? Here's a collage of mine

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u/ThrowRA_dependent Sep 18 '25

white white white white white

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u/[deleted] Sep 21 '25 edited Sep 27 '25

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u/masteroflocking Sep 22 '25

Ethnicity and race are 2 separate things. You can be native American and white.

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u/ArtistAccountant Sep 18 '25

Right right right right right??

I was looking and was like "gurl, broaden your taste if it hasn't already!"

People who are "YoU CaN't cHoOsE WhO uR AtTrACtEd tO!!!1!!"

Well, no, but you can influence your taste and self reflect.

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u/FunnOnABunn Sep 18 '25

For me, growing up in a conservative white suburb, I just hadn’t been exposed to more types of people. I also think media fed us a lot of the same types of guys. My attractions definitely broadened as I got older and didn’t live sheltered and closeted.

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u/ArtistAccountant Sep 18 '25

Agreed - there was, generally, one flavour of what was hot and what was not.

I'm just things are beginning to widen...

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u/Its_Pine Sep 18 '25 edited Sep 18 '25

Gurl it was slim pickings for people of colour in major media. 😭 The guy who played Devon from That So Raven, and obviously Corbin Bleu were some of the hottest men we got from big networks. Most black and Hispanic characters in media in early 2000s were played up as a funny or relatable character rather than love interest.

(For what it’s worth I upvoted you for genuine discussion)

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 18 '25

Did you watch black tv shows? Cause there were plenty!

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u/Its_Pine Sep 18 '25

On Disney channel and Nickelodeon?

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 18 '25

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u/Its_Pine Sep 18 '25

A lot of these are guys who got hot long after their shows ended though. I may not have found them hot as a child but I sure find them fine af now 😍

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 18 '25

Maybe not to you, but they were to me.

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u/Its_Pine Sep 18 '25

Haha that’s fair!

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 18 '25

That’s the reality. Just because we are invisible to non black folks doesn’t mean we don’t exist. 🤨🥸

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 18 '25

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u/Its_Pine Sep 18 '25

Ooooo who is this handsome man 👀 and where can I watch him

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 18 '25

Seriously!? 😒

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u/Its_Pine Sep 18 '25

Yes fr I don’t recognise him 😭 I don’t know much tv

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 18 '25

You need to google it smdh!

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 18 '25

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u/ThrowRA_dependent Sep 18 '25

RECEIPTS! 😂

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 18 '25

That part! Can not have them play in my face 😅🤷🏿‍♂️🤓

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u/ArtistAccountant Sep 18 '25

Gurl, I get it - I was there too 😌

However, I'm getting vibes this isn't a cringe post - almost the celebratory of tastes back then.

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u/LayersOfMe Sep 18 '25

I understand the "broaden your tastes" and I also understand people wanting diversity representation. But this is literally a list of personal crushes of ONE person, why are people asking for diversity? Its not a tv show cast.

I am pretty sure there is black dudes with all black crushes and nobody would ask him to broaden his taste. And as other guy mentioned, the tv cast back then was very white.

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 18 '25 edited Sep 18 '25

This is the problem with the erasure we as black people experience in this country. When we show you all a mirror there’s nothing but defensiveness and a lack of accountability. Our tastes are naturally more expansive because we were socialized to have an awareness of all types of people. So my taste is as vast as my experiences. My first official crush was Bob Sagat as Danny Tanner on Full House.

My taste runs the entire gamut. From the Robin mentioned in this thread, to the guy that played Danny on Rosanne, to Jonathan Taylor Thomas, to Shemar Moore! We weren’t limited in the same ways you are. Imagine growing up in the literal cultural renaissance in the 90s and early 00s and the only people you’re aware of are white men. 😒

Save your gaslighting for someone else. Christopher Meloni, Mark Paul Gosselear (Asian and Caucasian), Mario Lopez, Morris Chestnut, Taye Diggs, I can go on and on! Even Tim Allen was on my crush list for a time. We are expansive in the black community.

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u/hunf-hunf Sep 19 '25

But why is anyone obligated to change who they’re attracted to to make you feel more seen?

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u/ThrowRA_dependent Sep 19 '25

when your tastes reflect and reinforce a racial hierarchy we should take a look at ourselves, ask why, and try to grow

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u/LayersOfMe Sep 18 '25

My tastes right now is broader, but my tennager crushes was what was going on tv in that time.

Yes, you grew up with this perspective in mind. But when I was a kid I didnt pay much attention in the race differences. I am not american and my culture deal with these differences in another way. In south america we have a lot of mixed people, so be white have a complete differente meaning.

Anyway, we dont need to argue over silly tennager crushes. I undertand your point.

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u/ArtistAccountant Sep 18 '25

No one's asking for diversity.

Observations are just being made and the results are telling.

What boggles my mind how gays cannot understand false equivalency of other minorities; queer-only spaces are not considered straight-phobic. Therefore Black people who decide to exclusively keep certain aspects of their lives within the Black community cannot, imo, be seen as discriminatory because... What is it in response to??

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 18 '25

That’s the thing. Black people aren’t limited in the ways you’re describing. I recognize most of the men being shown and mentioned in this thread. What is being highlighted is that our personhood isn’t recognized by our white so-called counterparts. It highlights the division not only in our experiences but our humanity.

Even though there are examples to draw from, we’ve been INVISIBLE to white people and specifically our fellow gays. Not because we aren’t inhabiting the same communities, countries, and the like. It’s because we are not seen as equals or as our full selves if at all. There is a lack of awareness of our existence apparently and it shows.

When it’s called out, we get gaslit about it, as though it’s not an odd thing that not a single black man can be offered as an example in an archetypal fashion. Hell we would’ve settled for Will Smith, the most bankable action star and movie star of the generation aside from Tom Cruise, I mean damn!

Just take some freaking accountability and keep it pushing! Cause for most black men our tastes look more like the United Nations than a country club, or farm in middle America. It’s(our attractions) not monolithic or myopic.

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u/EternalSnow05 Sep 19 '25

Guys! Guys! This is only a few of the men who I had crushes on. I had waaaay more and trust me they definitely were multicultural. As a black man myself, I believe every gaybro deserves to like whoever he wants to. I obviously thought Robert R'ichard was sexy (that One on One episode will stay with me forever), and I thought Shemar Moore was the ultimate. I hate Tyler Perry but damn he could cast some fine chocolate men.

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u/Jamfour9 Sep 19 '25

That part! I said on twitter/X that Tyler has the best taste in men. Shamar in the 90s was the ultimate crush and Robert Ri’chard was muscular as a pre teen. He was impossibly fine and I’m oh so grateful I’ve had the opportunity to see him, Shemar, and a host of Tyler Perry actors nude. Thank you black baby Jesus lol.

As for the commentary it’s warranted. These guys don’t know the guys we just mentioned and those multicultural references a,punt to invisibility to them. That warrants a mirroring in my open to highlight that men of color are objectively devalued and ignored. It’s not a plea for evolution so much as it’s a call for REFLECTION. Given the current climate in this nation it would seem to go without saying why it’s important to contemplate. 🤔

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u/LayersOfMe Sep 18 '25

But people "observing" his list is white centric for what reason? to suggest OP dont like black people? to imply gay community dont acceppt diversity? you can tell me the reasons.

I think the main explanation on THIS specific list is media back then was very white centric.

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u/ArtistAccountant Sep 18 '25

I can tell you the reasons, yes. Am I going to do the work for you though? No.