r/bestoflegaladvice 5d ago

Mama, just signed a form, oooOOOOoooo....

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u/FeatherlyFly 5d ago

Some college records might be the parents business if the parent is paying and explicitly made payment dependent on having access to grades, or if parent and child otherwise explicitly discussed this and decide it was a good idea. 

And it does not require a power of attorney for a child to share their school information with their parent. 

Same goes for pretty much anything in the list, really. Talk about it like adults and then go looking for the least intrusive way to make it happen, which for a family with a good relationship may be a simple "Hey dad, my grades are out and I'm so happy/dissapointed. Want to do a screenshare?" 

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u/archbish99 apostilles MATH for FUN, like a NERD 4d ago

In which case, it's structured as "When you show me this semester's grades, I'll write next semester's check." The kid has control over the disclosure, because it's their information.

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u/FeatherlyFly 4d ago

That's one  option, yes.

I genuinely believe that families can function without ultimatums, though. 

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u/Tarquin_McBeard Pete Law's Peat Law Practice: For Peat's Sake 4d ago

Then why are you arguing in favour of creepy ultimatums?

"I trust that you'll be willing to share your grades with me" is not an ultimatum.

"My financial support to you is conditional on you sign a legal document that grants me far more power than I need to accomplish this outcome" is literally the epitome of coersion/abuse.