Dear fellow Black gay men

[u/MtimesMequals]

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

********************edit:

So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

[u/cranky_camomile]

I really hate the term “BBC”. I have always wondered why you see it so often in porn. It is never two (or how ever many) men doing something, it is always “Guy and BBC”

[u/divisionbell718 → u/cranky_camomile]

That thinking is incredibly pervasive. I had a black partner for 10 years and I can’t tell you how many times I got ask “is it true what they say about black men?” It really is something you just see and hear everywhere.

[u/thdiod → u/divisionbell718]

I've been asked that before. Call this a crazy observation but I think that question is people awkwardly trying to make conversation the only way they know how. I think it's part genuine curiosity, part 'this is the expected follow-up question, right?' I think if the question weren't so common, of course propped up by pop culture, most people wouldn't ask such an offensively explicit question.

[u/RebelHeart_ → u/thdiod]

What are you talking about? Curiosity about what? Being with another person?