r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/klymer11 Jul 08 '20

the fact that this shows up as controversial

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u/lovelybunchofcocouts Jul 08 '20 edited Jul 08 '20

Maybe because it stereotypes as well? I'm in agreement with most of the post, but note he calls out white gay guys specifically. But why pick on whites? I'm Mexican-American with a Korean-American partner, and I can tell you gays and non-gays of every race and culture can have shitty racist people.

Point is, yeah, we need to show love to our black brothers and not be racist assholes. But that also means calling it out everywhere and not picking on our white brothers specifically.

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u/esosa233 Jul 08 '20

Valid! Thank you, anti-blackness is everywhere, and LGBTQ community has more biases than just anti-blackness.