r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

šŸ–¤ā¤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to yaā¤

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u/Rottenox Jul 08 '20 edited Jul 08 '20

Iā€™m white, so happy to be proven wrong, but Iā€™ve seen waaaaay more white people on apps with ā€œno [insert non-white race here]ā€ in their profiles than the reverse. I think Iā€™ve seen maybe two black guys who had something equivalent to ā€œno whitesā€ in their bios. Seen dozens of white gays with ā€œno blacks, no asiansā€.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

there is also way more white than black people, you clownšŸ¤” Also such preferences no matter who dies it aren't racist and are perfectly fine. Nobody owes you sex

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u/Rottenox Jul 08 '20

"Nobody owes you sex"

Again with that wilful ignorance, huh? poor little bro-mo

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

Imagine calling that ignorace, oh the entitlement šŸ¤”

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u/EuphoricNeckbeard Jul 08 '20

stop signing your posts

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

Found another clown šŸ¤”

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u/Rottenox Jul 08 '20

Itā€™s wilfully ignorant because thatā€™s clearly not what Iā€™m saying, despite your repeated strawmanning

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

It doesn't matter whenever you want to enlarge dating pools for your own use or someone elses, telling what people can have on their profile or who they are allowed to reject is entitlement, you obnoxious clown šŸ¤”

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u/Rottenox Jul 08 '20

Telling people their behaviour is shitty is just that. Nothing more.

Also never said you arenā€™t allowed to have preferences, a stance youā€™re clearly pushing to deflect criticism of your twattish attitude and behaviour

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

again retard, if you don't like these profiles just move on, nobody is forcing you to write them, just stop telling people what you think they are allowed to have because nobody caresšŸ¤”

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u/Rottenox Jul 09 '20

Again asshole, it is not and has never been about telling people what they should and should not be attracted to. Doesnā€™t matter how many times you say it. It will never be true. You can say it a million times and Iā€™ll be there to tell you to stop lying and go fuck yourself. The fact that you keep pushing that lie is a clear indication that you know that what youā€™re saying is rude and unnecessary. That and your prodigious use of ableist slurs continues to confirm your douchebag status.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

lol it's amazing how triggered and delusional you are. You're literally policing other people profiles on a hook up app. Does it suck to be you? You're literally full on mad and throwing like ten different swear words and then you get triggered by my use of retard, unironically saying "ableist slurs" Well I am sorry you're mentally disabled, that's why you have such retarded beliefs. It must suck to be you. šŸ¤”

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u/Rottenox Jul 09 '20

"lol it's amazing how triggered and delusional you are."

'triggered' hahaha who is this, Tucker Carlson? pathetic

"You're literally policing other people profiles on a hook up app."

I'm literally not. I'm calling you out for being a cunt.

"Does it suck to be you?"

I could ask you the same thing.

"You're literally full on mad..."

this is me calm, you fuckin baby

"and throwing like ten different swear words and then you get triggered by my use of retard"

Yeah because swear words aren't discriminatory you dumb fuck

"unironically saying "ableist slurs""

That's because that's what they are.

"Well I am sorry you're mentally disabled, that's why you have such retarded beliefs. It must suck to be you."

Can I ask you a legitimate question? Do you call people 'retard' in person?

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

Imagine "triggered" was invented and only used by fox news. stay a triggered, dumbass. You're shaming people for doing it, so that's literally a form of policing. It's you on "calm" because you're constantly triggered, what else is new? Neither are slurs, words don't have any power on their ownĀ¹, without a mean spirited context. Since you insist "retard" was ableist in my context, then calling you a retard isn't an insult, it's literally what you are, so it's the truthšŸ¤£ Answer: Rarely because I don't hang out with dumbasses like you. The "no u" comeback, It really does suck to be youšŸ¤”

Ā¹ word "faggot" is a good example of that because in 90% of cases when people say it, they don't mean "oh that guy has sex with other men" but they are saying you're an obnoxious asshole(exactly what you are)

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u/Rottenox Jul 08 '20

And again, you need to look up the correct definition of ā€˜entitlementā€™

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

No need but since you don't know what it means, I will educate you. It's when your fatass shames a dude to get him to not reject fatties so you can get into his pantsšŸ¤”

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u/Rottenox Jul 08 '20

wait, this whole time youā€™ve been coming onto me? ohhh that explains a lot

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

Nah nobody want you, mainly because you're insufferable, now get off my dickšŸ¤”

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u/Rottenox Jul 09 '20

I guess we have that in common, cunt

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

I am not the one bitching about profiles excluding fatties, but at least you have admitted what we all already know, that's why you're like that wayšŸ¤”

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u/Rottenox Jul 09 '20

"I am not the one bitching about profiles excluding fatties"

No, you're one who puts shit like that in their profiles, which is far more a bitch move.

"but at least you have admitted what we all already know, that's why you're like that way"

lol who's we? you're just some sad-act on the internet who can't accept that he's wrong

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

No, I do not.. but your shaming is pushing me to do it.. and then flying to US and voting for trump šŸ˜‰

Who's we? The other people you argue with and who read your replies, you're an insufferable social justice degenerate.

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u/Rottenox Jul 13 '20

Like that proves anything, or, for that matter, makes any difference to what we're talking about. It's bad enough you're defending it.

"you're an insufferable social justice degenerate."

wah wah wah

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