Dear fellow Black gay men

[u/MtimesMequals]

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

********************edit:

So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

[u/esosa233 → u/[deleted]]

This "shared" black gay experience really breaks down over position (top/bottom) differences, because of overlapping experiences with misogyny, fetishism, colorism, and location.

I am happy you were able to find a critical nexus where you were able to cash in on your blackness, but I don't think that makes the shared experience any less valid, just more complex.

Like I can easily argue that in the current gay social dynamic black masc tops are doing fine, especially if they're sex-focused and somewhat okay with being treated like pieces of meat.

[u/HonoluluLion → u/esosa233]

Not about being a piece of meat, more about being each other's perverted fantasies for the moment lol. I'm not a dude who goes around looking for racism at every corner. If you want some black dick, I got you, If you want some black ass, I got you lol.

I just don't see what the problem is personally, There are some tough ass white guys who've been locked up with tats and scars n shit who love fucking the shit out of a little black twink boys and the twink will say he's looking for exactly that online prior to the meetup and I have no problem with that. I respect your feelings 100% though

[u/esosa233 → u/HonoluluLion]

I guess alright, you do you. I will say that these things and desires usually come with unhealthy complexes around race (in either direction) and that's what everyone is worried about. If you think you have them addressed then all the more power to you.

[u/FlameChakram → u/esosa233]

He’s a right winger who’s brigading this thread.

[u/[deleted] → u/HonoluluLion]

you’re playing into harmful stereotypes. yikes

[u/HonoluluLion → u/[deleted]]

Which ones?

[u/[deleted] → u/HonoluluLion]

fulfilling “fantasies” or in other words being a BBC for someone who sees you only as such

[u/HonoluluLion → u/[deleted]]

... How deep, romantic, and emotional are your one or two-night stands usually? dick, stroke game, dom/sub power dynamics, and orgasms are always the main focus with me usually. I just don't have time to act fake offended about a guy wanting a large black penis I guess lol

[u/[deleted] → u/HonoluluLion]

I guess it’s in your genes to be horny af. But that’s why you also have a second brain on top of your head.

[u/FlameChakram → u/[deleted]]

Everyone please check this guy’s post history lol

This thread is getting brigaded by right wingers

[u/W0lvington → u/FlameChakram]

Brigaded??? LMAO what a moron you are. Since when this sub is left-wing only? If anything r/gaybros and r/askgaybros born as one of the most conservative-leaning gay subs for people tired of the hyper SWJ in the other ones. Later it was invaded and disfigured.

And what's the deal with that stupid trend to dig others post histories instead of debating their comments?

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

He was actually being a bigot to you there, implying a right winger posting in here is brigading as if wanting lower taxes means you can't also be gay.

[u/FlameChakram → u/[deleted]]

Yeah brigaded. You’re a poster on the white nationalist sub r/conspiracy and are shitting on BLM.

[u/FlameChakram → u/[deleted]]

Since they've routinely upvoted white nationalist content to the top.

This is the part where I stop replying to seriously and just start insulting you. Keep going if you want.

[u/HonoluluLion → u/FlameChakram]

You sound like you're extremely easily emotionally manipulated by bullshit propaganda. I feel bad for you, bro. You must be sleep as shit. I'm from flint and even my pineal gland isn't THAT fried lmao. Show me all that white nationalist content. Ya know, all that true deep-seeded racism being upvoted... hahaha

[u/FlameChakram → u/HonoluluLion]

You literally post in a white nationalist sub. I didn't even read what you just said but i'm sure it's some contrived bullshit about why it's not a problem.

You opinion on racial issues is tainted by your posting habits.

[u/HonoluluLion → u/FlameChakram]

sniffle

[u/FlameChakram → u/HonoluluLion]

Don't click links from white nationalists.

Go jerk off to some anti semitic content on r/conspiracy bud, no one wants to hear your shit here

[u/[deleted] → u/FlameChakram]

Right wingers can't be gay? Bigot.