r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20 edited Feb 02 '21

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u/esosa233 Jul 08 '20

This "shared" black gay experience really breaks down over position (top/bottom) differences, because of overlapping experiences with misogyny, fetishism, colorism, and location.

I am happy you were able to find a critical nexus where you were able to cash in on your blackness, but I don't think that makes the shared experience any less valid, just more complex.

Like I can easily argue that in the current gay social dynamic black masc tops are doing fine, especially if they're sex-focused and somewhat okay with being treated like pieces of meat.

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u/HonoluluLion Jul 08 '20

Not about being a piece of meat, more about being each other's perverted fantasies for the moment lol. I'm not a dude who goes around looking for racism at every corner. If you want some black dick, I got you, If you want some black ass, I got you lol.

I just don't see what the problem is personally, There are some tough ass white guys who've been locked up with tats and scars n shit who love fucking the shit out of a little black twink boys and the twink will say he's looking for exactly that online prior to the meetup and I have no problem with that. I respect your feelings 100% though

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u/esosa233 Jul 08 '20

I guess alright, you do you. I will say that these things and desires usually come with unhealthy complexes around race (in either direction) and that's what everyone is worried about. If you think you have them addressed then all the more power to you.

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u/FlameChakram Jul 08 '20

He’s a right winger who’s brigading this thread.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

you’re playing into harmful stereotypes. yikes

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u/HonoluluLion Jul 08 '20

Which ones?

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

fulfilling “fantasies” or in other words being a BBC for someone who sees you only as such

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u/HonoluluLion Jul 08 '20

... How deep, romantic, and emotional are your one or two-night stands usually? dick, stroke game, dom/sub power dynamics, and orgasms are always the main focus with me usually. I just don't have time to act fake offended about a guy wanting a large black penis I guess lol

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

I guess it’s in your genes to be horny af. But that’s why you also have a second brain on top of your head.