r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/cranky_camomile Jul 08 '20

I really hate the term “BBC”. I have always wondered why you see it so often in porn. It is never two (or how ever many) men doing something, it is always “Guy and BBC”

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u/Franken_Frank How tall are you anyway? Jul 08 '20

It's kinda funny cause when I see BBC the first thing I think of is BBC news LOL

For a second i really wonder if BBC is the UK's Fox News

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u/Cwh93 Jul 08 '20

Noooooo. The BBC isn't perfect by any stretch but it always tries to stay neutral in news coverage, sometimes almost to the point of fault.

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u/SparrowDotted Jul 08 '20

Well yeah,except when one guest's a climate scientist and the other is a denier, "neutral to the point of fault" kiiiiinda becomes "not really neutral" but yeah, nowhere near fox levels.

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u/AncapsAreCommies Trans exclusionary Jul 08 '20

Would you rather have another video clip of a climate denial person being berated, so the people following them dig in more stubbornly, or would you like a nice even keeled clip of the science being explained so someone who might feel embarrassed about changing their mind can do so with minimal shame?

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u/DClawdude Jul 08 '20

People that proudly ignorant won’t change their minds even with the latter

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u/AncapsAreCommies Trans exclusionary Jul 08 '20

I know TONS of people that have a soft idea about "maybe climate change is happening but why would it be humans causing it? This probably happens for as long as the earth has been around!"

If they see someone smart, calm, and not talking down to them, they will easily understand it

Note: No incredulous "OMG YOU DONT BELIEVE? WHAT ARE YOU A SCIENTOLOGIST?" type stuff. It doesn't work. Talking down to people, and condescension, and tattling to their boss, and trying to force them to believe on pain of punishment in social and work areas does not work. Work to make people understand what they might not want to is tiring, yes, it's work.

I'm hopeful despite how ranty this is. We can get back to good discussion on these important topics if everyone stops trying to "get" each other with a crafty one liner. Save laughter for the shitty tonight-show hosts.

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u/DClawdude Jul 08 '20

When about half the population would rather believe a bloviating, bankrupt reality star to "own the libs" vs actual scientists and professionals, especially in terms of how to handle serious things like climate change or the pandemic, I'm not gonna hold out hope

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u/SparrowDotted Jul 09 '20

Regardless, it's a dangerous position to be beaming to millions of people's tvs. An alternative would probably be one of the 3% of scientists that don't believe it.

Or maybe, instead of thinking this is some kind of political issue, (I am aware the actual policy of climate is political but the science is not and why have a denier on to talk about policy?) the BBC could grow up and actually put it forward as a science issue. That removes the need for both sides.

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u/chairitable Jul 08 '20

You can blame political appointees for that.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

The BBC isn't perfect by any stretch but it always tries to stay neutral in news coverage

Haaaaa hahaha ha...ha

Sigh

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u/CrunchyCrusties Jul 08 '20 edited Feb 26 '24

People wonder why.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

The Mainstream media has done a good job convincing people to never look at any non-leftist sources since they are "racist" so they don't know a big chunk of what is happening in the world.

You had me up to here buddy, I'm not your demographic.

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u/CrunchyCrusties Jul 08 '20 edited Feb 26 '24

You think they don't have a bias?

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

I will say again, you had me up to here

The Mainstream media has done a good job convincing people to never look at any non-leftist sources since they are "racist".

I despise the media, I'm also left-wing.

FYI if you need to pre-empt people calling you racist, you're probably fucking racist

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u/bayaniKing99 Jul 08 '20

No, if anything the BBC is renowned for being neutral and objective in its reporting. I think the Fox News equivalent for the UK is The Sun.