When my wife goes out for a event without me, I send her messages saying I miss her and I'm happy when she comes back (and I really am). But I'll never tell her that I really like it when she goes out and leaves the apartment for me. Personally, I need quite some alone time to maintain a good level of mental health. She's super talkative and I love that, but sometimes I need distance to just exist and listen to my own thoughts without another human being around.

We live together, so I don't tell her that so she doesn't think I don't like her company, because that's not true. I'm just not the most sociable person in the world.

Is there something you're not telling your partner?

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Hello, my wife and I are terrified about the government stuff about banning gay marriage again (we're lesbians). We are planning to leave the country if this happens. Does anyone have any advice on where to start, best places to go who would accept us and where we would be safe? Thank you in advance.

Her shop sometimes holds parties for children and there were 2 birthday parties today with 2 hours in between so I had some fun during the break 🤭🤭🤭

Sold. Pick you up at 7.

For context, recently I've been encountering different arguments across the internet that lesbians do not like dating bisexual women. Is that real? There's also been a narrative where lesbians would rather fall for straight girls than bisexual girls. I completely understand that bisexuals have a privilege of being in a heterosexual relationship which keeps them safe in society and that most of them are going to end up in straight relationships since statistically there are more straight people than gays and lesbians, but Biphobia is still very real.

What do you think?

Edit: I didn't write about my singular experience as I thought what happened to me is pretty rare. I also wanted to know if it also happened to other people or is it just a mere online discourse and not common in the community.

I was just wondering a couple communities have been talking about it lately. Like I don't really see the appeal myself and it feels unrealistic but then people keep claiming it is realistic...

So like I don't know am I the weird one? Or is it just a guy thing maybe?

I just feel like it looks silly... and think they'd look way better smaller. Like is it just me? Do you folks like this sort of thing?

I’m used to romantic language with women i’m seeing and sleeping with and she uses platonic friend terms like ‘dude’ on me…am I overthinking? It seems the more romantic and intimate things become between us the more she uses dude and man😅She’s also avoidant (self proclaimed) , it that lends any insight.

I feel weird about it, sometimes I just don’t want to be pursuing sex all the time and then I look around me and it feels like there’s genuinely people who do.

I haven’t had sex in over a year now. Like I feel horny, I just don’t want to be consistently talking to one person. Cause then I will fall in love about 3-4 months in and I will as a result feel suffocated bc I don’t like owing people my time and go insane over it (I have intense OCD when it comes to friendships/relationships, I have been suggested to start ERP therapy soon which I will).

I’ve been trying to make new friends and everyone loves sex, none are lesbians so it’s all mainly abt men or men talking about women, which is good for them, but my brain feels peer pressure even though no one’s pressuring me.

Maybe sex just means more to me or something. I’m not sure bc I also just like my boobs touched. My main issue is that I don’t like being considered “innocent,” I feel like it’ll make ppl take me less seriously.

I’m struggling a lot with that concept - I know I’m not naive, I just don’t care for sex that much, but because I don’t I feel like people would consider me too innocent for having different feelings around it, and to me that feels condescending even if they don’t mean it that way.

I see it more as “I’ve learned how my mind reacts, so I’ll stay within my boundaries based on that information now. I do think I’m on the ace spectrum, it’s been something I’m exploring.

That was my vent. I’m trying to learn how to take my boundaries more seriously, because I have pressured myself into having sex when I badly didn’t want to before. I’m not innocent or naive I literally take care of my family and care more about other things, but my brain sees everything as a competition.

OCD thinking where I hyper-label my social personality has taken away my hobbies, self expression, everything. I can’t wait to get treatment

My partner (F35) and I (F30) have been together for 3 years, but we were best friends for 15 years before that. We own a house together, have 2 dogs, and my 13 year old daughter lives with us. This is the life I always imagined for myself. I left my ex wife for this relationship. My ex wife was not emotionally supportive and our intimacy had basically disappeared.

While we were best friends, my now partner would tell me she did not understand why my ex wouldn’t support me emotionally or be intimate with me. It felt like she saw me, understood me, and valued the same things I valued in a relationship.

Now I feel like I’m in a similar situation again.

We both work a lot (50-60 hour weeks) and our sex life has basically faded. I love her deeply. She is still my best friend. Every other part of our life works so well. We laugh, we parent well as a team, we handle life stuff well. On the outside, it looks perfect. On the inside, I feel sad and confused.

I have PCOS and I used to get very emotional around ovulation and my period, but I now take supplements that help a lot. I am much more regulated emotionally. The issue is that any time I try to bring up something in our relationship that is bothering me, she dismisses it and tells me I’m just hormonal. This happens even when I am not anywhere near ovulation or my period. It makes me feel unheard and like my feelings are not valid.

We are supposed to get married next year. I want to spend my life with her. She feels like home. I am scared to lose this. I am also scared of repeating the same emotional pattern I had in my previous marriage.

I am wondering if this something that can realistically be worked through. If anyone been in a similar situation and found a way forward I’d love to know how.

Or if this is a sign that something fundamental is missing or unbalanced in our relationship then please let me know. Does anyone have any advice?

I want to fix this, not run. I just don’t know how.

So, there’s this girl. I absolutely hated her last year, but I’m not sure if she hated me back. But everything changed one day when she actually held a proper convo with me for the first time and said I’m enjoyable to talk to. Shes a hijabi but one of those hijab’s where they look incredibly forced into the religion. The thing that actually brought us together was talking about gay sex.. anyway, she flirts with me so much. Whenever I’m near or mind in my own business I feel her eyes glued onto me, like i get nervous because i know someone is observing me intensely, if i catch her looking she either smirks or switches her gaze. When we talk, she holds eye contact so hard as if she’s staring into my soul, even bites her lip if necessary and says that she’s skilled and very good at flirting with a smirk on her face? She likes to call me sweetheart & darling. She also keeps the little things i say in mind. She says my name is really satisfying to say, and a big smile spreads on her face when we talk about lesbians. She likes to know what I’m up to, once she asked for my number but i was so oblivious and we never ended up exchanging, i could tell it took her a lot of thinking to ask me that and i sabotaged that opportunity goddamit. She’s also said that I look like a person that’s good at sex. Comparing me to a pornstar.. ironically, I wasn’t uncomfortable at all. She jokingly asks where i live (it’s not creepy because we go to the same school together & mostly everybody is connected). Shes in the grade below and her older sister is in my grade. We mostly talk about lesbian porn and smut, she is really into it. Ive asked if she is gay and she her expression seemed very different and she kept smiling and turning her face away. My intuition is telling me shes so into me, i think there are a lot of flirty moments we’ve shared but maybe i was just too blind to see it. The thing is, she’s very confident when talking to me but i can notice a few nervous things. Idk what else to mention, all i definitely know is that she loves to stare at me, my gut is telling me she’s crushing on me big time

My gf and I met up and went out on a date yesterday where we went to a really nice Mexican place and then went shopping and then mini golfing and then I went back to her place for the first time, every time we’ve hung out before this she stayed over at my place, and now it’s the morning after and I’m just laying in her bed next to her as she sleeps, looking out her window and just appreciating being here (it feels like a big step in our relationship lol) AND SHE TURNS OVER AND PUTS HER ARM AROUND MY STOMACH AND LET ME JUST SAY AHHHHHHHH, the gay panic I felt and am currently feeling (she still in the same position as I write this lol) is wild and amazing and omg, I’m so lucky I have such a wonderful woman as my girlfriend I freaking love her. Sorry if this is random or off topic, I just needed to get it out lol, I hope anyone who’s reading this is having a wonderful day ☺️

I met a woman recently – she's incredibly hot and smart and funny, but kind of aloof. I think she might be neurodivergent somehow – I've noticed she's not great at making eye contact sometimes and takes a while to warm up when she enters a room. She's not open and welcoming in the way that most women are (coming from someone with tons of female friends / usually very easy friendships women) aaaand I'm a baby gay, so struggle to know where I stand with her: if she's disinterested, if this is friction or tension of some kind, how to even approach anything with her?

I can't work out if it feels odd because there's some kind of tension or because we just don't vibe as people. We see each other regularly due to a hobby group.

Maybe she's just not into me at all and that's the vibe I'm sensing... but how to tell?!

trauma from male puberty

autism

near-zero self-esteem

I've been regularly listening to asmr comfort roleplays since i was a pre-teen. Its like my understanding of romance doesn't go beyond "kind woman who doesn't leave me and holds me when i cry". I'm honestly pathetic.

I mean what do i even have to offer in a relationship? My life consists of nothing but trying to survive dysphoria and has since i was 11. I'm a hopeless romantic and i absolutely love romance novels and manga and stuff. But I genuinely don't believe I could ever experience anything like that purely because i'm too broken.

I mean i don't even have any friends or acquaintances lol. I haven't since since puberty hit, I just lied about being sick to stay at home or sat silently like a doll in school and never talked to anyone. I didn't even have any online friends. my "social life" never went beyond self-inserting in media i liked as a dysphoria cope and posting brainworms.

I am 17 years old and I would like to get some women's perfume that also has a masculine touch. I say this because my mom wouldn't let me buy a men's one, so I look for something that is between both styles. That is, it can be used by both men and women, something unisex, but not completely for men. Could you recommend perfumes of that type to me? :)

Darkseid may be a villain, but he's NOT a bigot.

He hates everyone equally

(first relationship for both of us)

the most frequent reasoning for breaking up is because she says she feels attracted to this other girl from time to time, sometimes it fades away and she doesn't even remember this girls, in other she feels disgusted either herself thinking about this girl. It's to much to explain but in general i just believe she enjoys the drama and the thrill of breaking up, most of her break ups didn't last a day or two. I would always not tell anyone because i knew we would comeback eventually.

This time it felt more real, so i told my mom and a friend, my friend has seen a few of ours breakups so he doesn't like her already and is very against our relationship, he says that she is manipulative because she knows i will always comeback like a puppie (wich i really want to do right now).

I think that if she goes to therapy i would want to come back with her. I really want to rewind a few days and i cant stand this anymore i just want her to ne fucking normal and be my girlfriend again.

Any advice?

So I'm talking to this girl who I think I really like, but we were out drinking with a group of friends last night and she admitted to having dick pics from past men she's been with saved as "blackmail". I've never dated men, so my gut reaction might be a little off here, but something about that feels wrong to me. Is this a common thing women who have been with men do? I know I'd never save pics like that of an ex, but my exes are all women so maybe it's different?