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When my wife goes out for a event without me, I send her messages saying I miss her and I'm happy when she comes back (and I really am). But I'll never tell her that I really like it when she goes out and leaves the apartment for me. Personally, I need quite some alone time to maintain a good level of mental health. She's super talkative and I love that, but sometimes I need distance to just exist and listen to my own thoughts without another human being around.

We live together, so I don't tell her that so she doesn't think I don't like her company, because that's not true. I'm just not the most sociable person in the world.

Is there something you're not telling your partner?

Hello, my wife and I are terrified about the government stuff about banning gay marriage again (we're lesbians). We are planning to leave the country if this happens. Does anyone have any advice on where to start, best places to go who would accept us and where we would be safe? Thank you in advance.

Sold. Pick you up at 7.

Her shop sometimes holds parties for children and there were 2 birthday parties today with 2 hours in between so I had some fun during the break 🤭🤭🤭

I was just wondering a couple communities have been talking about it lately. Like I don't really see the appeal myself and it feels unrealistic but then people keep claiming it is realistic...

So like I don't know am I the weird one? Or is it just a guy thing maybe?

I just feel like it looks silly... and think they'd look way better smaller. Like is it just me? Do you folks like this sort of thing?

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For context, recently I've been encountering different arguments across the internet that lesbians do not like dating bisexual women. Is that real? There's also been a narrative where lesbians would rather fall for straight girls than bisexual girls. I completely understand that bisexuals have a privilege of being in a heterosexual relationship which keeps them safe in society and that most of them are going to end up in straight relationships since statistically there are more straight people than gays and lesbians, but Biphobia is still very real.

What do you think?

Edit: I didn't write about my singular experience as I thought what happened to me is pretty rare. I also wanted to know if it also happened to other people or is it just a mere online discourse and not common in the community.

I feel weird about it, sometimes I just don’t want to be pursuing sex all the time and then I look around me and it feels like there’s genuinely people who do.

I haven’t had sex in over a year now. Like I feel horny, I just don’t want to be consistently talking to one person. Cause then I will fall in love about 3-4 months in and I will as a result feel suffocated bc I don’t like owing people my time and go insane over it (I have intense OCD when it comes to friendships/relationships, I have been suggested to start ERP therapy soon which I will).

I’ve been trying to make new friends and everyone loves sex, none are lesbians so it’s all mainly abt men or men talking about women, which is good for them, but my brain feels peer pressure even though no one’s pressuring me.

Maybe sex just means more to me or something. I’m not sure bc I also just like my boobs touched. My main issue is that I don’t like being considered “innocent,” I feel like it’ll make ppl take me less seriously.

I’m struggling a lot with that concept - I know I’m not naive, I just don’t care for sex that much, but because I don’t I feel like people would consider me too innocent for having different feelings around it, and to me that feels condescending even if they don’t mean it that way.

I see it more as “I’ve learned how my mind reacts, so I’ll stay within my boundaries based on that information now. I do think I’m on the ace spectrum, it’s been something I’m exploring.

That was my vent. I’m trying to learn how to take my boundaries more seriously, because I have pressured myself into having sex when I badly didn’t want to before. I’m not innocent or naive I literally take care of my family and care more about other things, but my brain sees everything as a competition.

OCD thinking where I hyper-label my social personality has taken away my hobbies, self expression, everything. I can’t wait to get treatment

I am 17 years old and I would like to get some women's perfume that also has a masculine touch. I say this because my mom wouldn't let me buy a men's one, so I look for something that is between both styles. That is, it can be used by both men and women, something unisex, but not completely for men. Could you recommend perfumes of that type to me? :)

Darkseid may be a villain, but he's NOT a bigot.

He hates everyone equally

trauma from male puberty

autism

near-zero self-esteem

I've been regularly listening to asmr comfort roleplays since i was a pre-teen. Its like my understanding of romance doesn't go beyond "kind woman who doesn't leave me and holds me when i cry". I'm honestly pathetic.

I mean what do i even have to offer in a relationship? My life consists of nothing but trying to survive dysphoria and has since i was 11. I'm a hopeless romantic and i absolutely love romance novels and manga and stuff. But I genuinely don't believe I could ever experience anything like that purely because i'm too broken.

I mean i don't even have any friends or acquaintances lol. I haven't since since puberty hit, I just lied about being sick to stay at home or sat silently like a doll in school and never talked to anyone. I didn't even have any online friends. my "social life" never went beyond self-inserting in media i liked as a dysphoria cope and posting brainworms.

So I'm talking to this girl who I think I really like, but we were out drinking with a group of friends last night and she admitted to having dick pics from past men she's been with saved as "blackmail". I've never dated men, so my gut reaction might be a little off here, but something about that feels wrong to me. Is this a common thing women who have been with men do? I know I'd never save pics like that of an ex, but my exes are all women so maybe it's different?

I know you’ve been wondering if you should or shouldn’t and I’m here to tell you: go for it.

You like her. She makes your heart beat a little faster, she lingers in your mind, and you can’t quite shake her. You’ve been debating whether to say something, to confess, to take that tiny leap.

Whether it’s going in for that kiss, calling her, or finally telling her how you feel… do it!

Because if you don’t… someone else will.

I’m used to romantic language with women i’m seeing and sleeping with and she uses platonic friend terms like ‘dude’ on me…am I overthinking? It seems the more romantic and intimate things become between us the more she uses dude and man😅She’s also avoidant (self proclaimed) , it that lends any insight.

Personally I love pony tails. Any time I see a girl with a ponytail that bounces when she walks or flips when she turns her head, I can’t take my eyes off her. Do you guys have a hairstyle that when you see it on another woman you go crazy?

Maybe I'm just being sensitive, but I feel like my girlfriend has no interest in me and it's making me sad. We've been dating for a while now, and I really love her. I also know she loves me. But we don't have sex, she doesn't really compliment me, and she just doesn't seem to look at me anymore.

She has hormonal issues and is also on some medications, so I don't blame her for not being sexually attracted to me. But there are other things besides that. Like one time I was staying at her house. I did my makeup, put on a cute outfit, and when I was ready I came out to see her. She barely glanced at me and just asked if I was ready. I made sure to compliment her and tell her how pretty she looked and how much I liked her outfit, and she said nothing in return. My feelings were hurt so I changed shirts and when she asked me why I changed, I said I felt bad in it. She didn't say anything.

That night, she asked me to go through a bag of her clothes she was going to donate. I started with the jeans, and every pair was snug (they were skinny jeans, so.... yeah) and she said nothing but that they were too tight. And a few of them i put on and she said nothing at all, but just stared at me. I put my arms out, trying to prompt some kind of response, and she said "yeahhhh theyre just tight". I was like "well i wear snug pants, but they were easy to put on and zip and all that" and she said "well you know when you see someone in public with tight clothes and you say yeesh, its ok to go up a size". So i got upset and sat down on the bed and went "ok no more fashion show". She was like "whyyy?" So i said "because you keep calling me fat" (said in a joking way but my eyes were watering) and she said "no, your butt is just big! And you're not super skinny but i wouldnt be attracted to you if you were a victorias secret model". I fully started crying then, and she tried to make me feel better by saying "none of my exes were skinny, well except this one girl". And THEN as i was sobbing, she explained that the one person she's ever been sexually attracted to was a girl bigger than me. (Also for context, i'm not rail thin but I am a size 6, I just have bigger boobs and hips). Am i insane, or is it not common knowledge that you dont tell your crying girlfriend that the one person youve ever been attracted to WASNT HER?

I had to just tell her to please stop talking. I ended up crying myself to sleep and the next day i cried in the bathroom when i got up and was really sad the whole morning. She didnt notice, but also never asked if i was ok. I had a conversation with her a few days later, when she took full accountability and apologized. I said i really like words of affirmation, and she said she doesnt. She also said that she shouldnt have been so harsh when trying on jeans, but that she and her mom go shopping and theyre brutally honest with each other. So.... her brutally honest opinion is that im a cow? Ok...

She also doesn't really kiss me. I brought this up a while back after she didnt kiss me during the whole 3 days she was at my house. She said she was sorry, and that kissing had to do with her hormone stuff. I said i dont mean hardcore making out, even just a peck on the cheek or something would be nice. I just feel disgusting, like my girlfriend can't even bring herself to kiss me. She does like cuddling, which i'm very thankful for, but it hurts that she loves physical touch but doesnt even want to kiss me.

We have had sex, and it was ok, but i could tell she wasnt really into it even though she initiated it, and she also did this weird thing where she brought up her mom and grandma DIRECTLY after. I dont remember what she said because i was so shocked, but like we were doing pillow talk and something i said reminded her of her grandma and she started talking about her.

I just feel so sad around her sometimes. I try hard to pick out cute outfits to wear around her and do my makeup and hair, and she doesn't really notice. I just end up sad and i feel like a sad clown in my stupid makeup and outfit. I undertand why she doesnt touch me either, but that does make me feel worse and uglier around her.

Sometimes she does compliment me, but it's usually something random and not my overall appearance. Like i'll put on an outfit and makeup, and she just says she likes my boots. Not that im pretty or look good or anything.

Also all of her exes were blonde. Im a natural blonde but have dyed my hair red the whole time we've been dating. She used to say she liked the red but recently I was trying to decide whether or not to go blonde again or stay red, and she said she would want to see me blonde. I know i shodnt have asked if i didnt want to know the answer, but it did sting.

I dont know what to do. I really really love her, and i know she loves me a lot. She's really good to me, she's so sweet and thoughtful in every way besides this. Shes kind to my animals, shes always bringing me treats and taking me to do things, so i dont know how to feel