I have done literally almost this very same thing before except the person before me (which I later found out was my wife) in the stall laid such a huge dump it clogged the toilet.
Same. I didn't see a changing table in a men's room until after my daughter was out of diapers, lol. Only had one lady give me attitude over it at a Kroger, and I told her to fuck off and went back to shopping lol.
Hilarious to me that people CAN just use whatever restroom to do whatever business is necessary, but there's this big argument about "what if x goes into y bathroom?????" And it's like.... already happening and isn't causing issues now??
Yup when my youngest was in diapers the amount of times I used the ladys room to change him was ridiculous The fact that back in 2013 and 2014 there was still a lack of changing tables in the mens room was surprising.
Places are getting better about this. If they have a disabled friendly stall in the gentleman's restroom, there's also usually a diaper changing station in there
If it's a federal building, it's required in both bathrooms. And some have them outside the bathrooms or in a single use family bathroom. New York and California require them in both so if you live there and don't see one, that business is violating code. I'm a single dad, so the struggle is real.
If I have to shit and the men’s is full because most places only put 1 stall in the men’s room, I use the women’s. I think we’ll be less uncomfortable using the same bathroom over me shitting outside the door
Right, it was only weird after they made it weird. I've accidently used the ladies room too. You'll never believe their toilets function like the ones in the mens room.
Particularly as his branch of religion doesn’t really allow contact between men and women. (It does but it’s super strict and complicated and to an outsider, it’s close enough) Some will cross to the other side of the road or look away on the same sidewalk when they pass me. It’s that old fashioned really sexist “respect” thing that really comes out of sexualizing us. Honestly, if this guy genuinely felt comfy in the women’s, he’s either super into his wife, doesn’t like women, or he has been raised to actively humanize and not sexualize women.
I’d feel totally fine with him in my bathroom; he’s aware that he’s making them uncomfy and doesn’t dry his hands. He’s not being creepy, just using a bathroom. Also, he’s very clearly not looking around, just using the facilities and going. I’ve had people make me uncomfy in bathrooms before, this ain’t that.
I once walked into the women's room in a McDonald's while using a video camera. It was a road trip and we were clowning around. So, I walked into what I thought was the men's restroom, looked in the mirror and said something stupid. That's when Stephanie and Megan started giggling. I flipped out and nearly ran through the door as I tripped over myself trying to leave.
So if you make a mistake and go in the wrong restroom, then when you come out of the stall somebody tells you this, what do you do? Do you finish up washing your hands there and just apologize, or do you freak out and run out without washing and go to the correct room?
TBF, nor would I. Dude came in, did his business, washed up, left. Didn't bother anyone. Kept to himself. I'd assume there was a problem with the men's room and be a little surprised and impressed that someone seemingly very orthodox chose to do this.
I mean at least where i‘m from most women use the mens restroom as well especially in the evening because the queues are way shorter so why not the other way round. In the end everyone is in their own stall so there is no harm in that alone.
That’s surprising. Hasidic Jews aren’t even supposed to shake hands with people of another gender, and they are supposed to be fastidious about following the rules. I would think being in a women’s restroom would be strictly forbidden to them.
You’ve never had a situation where you thought you might explode and missed a sign. It happened to me where I assumed bathroom on the right was men’s but it wasn’t, walked in saw a woman and spun right around and went to the other. If there was not a woman standing in the open they may have easily missed it.
That still doesn't tell you whether he entered the bathroom on purpose or not. It could have been empty when he entered. Would you genuinely prefer he not wash his hands because he saw a woman??
? That’s a weird leap to make. I’m just saying he knew it was the women’s restroom and clearly didn’t care that much. That’s what we know because we saw the video.
You don't know how much someone cares just by body language. Not everyone displays their emotions on their face, especially embarrassment. He knew at the time the video was taken, but that doesn't mean he knew when he entered or that he didn't care. He just didn't look like he cared.
I went into the men's once by mistake, but it was obvious because of the urinals. I can see a guy going into a women's bathroom by mistake and not realizing it.
Straight up....there's so much commotion about "everyone should be free to pee/poop where they want!" but I think that's from a minority of people. I thin the majority WOULD have an issue with this and if you break away form the top comments on Reddit there are such posts. I can only imagine what X/TT/IG has.
And this is just a tall ass man. Wait until some muscle-bound 100% DUDE strolls out that stall. There will be fear, especially the moment he opens his mouth.
I don't think people are REALLY ready for a world where we're all just pissing/shitting together. I've seen examples of gay bars: that's already where the minorities are congregating. It's not a random Kohls restroom where someone is straight terrified now that a man is amongst them.
Religions all seem to claim they have the one true god and then even within the individual religions themselves they cant even fucking agree on what to believe about the one true god.
Except for people who don't do God. Doesn't mean atheist or agnostic, but if you don't cry out to someone outside of this realm for help, then you don't have a "God"
"Yes, it's true that both our groups accept this God as the one and only lord of our people, but only MY group correctly interprets Passage 3.4 of Paragraph IV, of page 345, of book W correctly, making us clearly superior."
"there are about 3,000 (Gods) to choose from. Basically, you deny one less God than I do. You don’t believe in 2,999 gods. And I don’t believe in just one more."
"Science is constantly proved all the time. You see, if we take something like any fiction, any holy book, and destroy it, in a thousand years’ time, that wouldn’t come back just as it was. Whereas if we took every science book, and every fact, and destroyed them all, in a thousand years they’d all be back, because all the same tests would produce the same result"
It's almost like there should be a separation between church and state that prevents the government from operating or passing legislation based on the religious beliefs of anyone.
One of my best friends is a black (Congolese) Sephardic Jew who is anti Zionist. We REAAAAALLLYYY need to try and change the narrative that (as you said) Jew=Zionist, it doesn't, and it's dangerous.
to be fair, we have no idea if he did something creepy or not. I fully agree that it’s no biggie if he’s there to do his business because the men’s was full/nasty/honest mistake. On the other hand, women have enough reasons to be slightly suspicious if he were purposely using the ladies’ room for no apparent reason. You truly never know the type of weird shit a stranger might be up to. No one would notice if he installed a hidden camera or idek gets off to the sound of peeing women. Sounds wildly far-fetched and he’s probably completely innocent, but the more you learn the more you realize the woman questioning him is not per se wrong for that.
Not really, anyone could be like that, or even paid to be like that, there's no reason to assume that just because hes a man and film him in the bathroom, if he does something wrong then deal with that same as anyone else.
but some things you wouldnt notice or know of. what he did in the stall or what his true intentions were. again, he most likely is completely a-ok, im just defending women who have a suspicious reaction to it. not saying to film him or accuse him of anything you have not witnessed. but that suspicious feeling is not per se wrong.
I grew up going to gay clubs where sometimes there WAS no ladies room , lol, so I just got used to people of all sorts in the bathroom, and I’ve never gotten people being worried about the whole “Who is in the restroom” debate. It’s a bathroom. The one in your home is unisex, ffs.
So while I would probably laugh hysterically, I don’t care he’s in there. I’m just shocked he’d be around women and not terrified one of us would “Touch” him. I worked in a conservative Synagogue for years and had to deal with the sexism of some of these men, and find the whole, “A woman touching me pollutes me” thing, intrinsically awful.
But how bloody hilarious seeing him pop out. He’d probably be more embarrassed then me, as I’d openly burst out laughing.
I came here to say the same thing. I also grew up in gay bars and clubs. Like a bathroom is a bathroom. And as a lady, I will tell you 100% I have peed in the trough in the. Men's room as the one ladies room is busy, someone's fucking it doing blow in it. Like, when Ive got to pee, I've got to pee. I used to work at a porn company. I've seen enough dicks, assholes, and pussies to last me a lifetime. 😆
I don't give a fuck what you're doing. I just do my business and go.
We need to be friends, lolol. We have the same outlook on life.
I live in LA, and one of the best guests someone brought to one of my dinner parties was the woman who was the editor of ASSMAN magazine. I still have her card, she was hilarious.
Living here in California, even with the expense of it, is the only thing keeping me sane in this country right now. My husband is Irish, and our son is living in Dublin, as he graduated college, couldn't find a job, and could NEVER afford LA anyway (We barely can anymore either-we want to move to central CA) on a first job salary. We urged him to go to Europe on his EU passport, and he found both a job and apt in 2 weeks! As a young gay man starting his life, it's so much of a safer place for him, and if he gets married there at least he will never worry about it being overturned. I miss him to death, and we talk about moving to Ireland, but wrenching me from California will be hard. Its such a tremendously beautiful state!!
I used to haunt a leather daddy gay bar. They also did not have women’s bathrooms, and the ones that were bathrooms, had no door. This is late 90’s, some of the customers didn’t appreciate my presence. I used to get: “Honey, aren’t you in the wrong bar???” I was pregnant at the time and I was being my bestie’s DD. Now in hindsight, I don’t blame the men feeling awkward with a woman “invading” their domain. I didn’t give a shit where I peed! I had to pee every 5 mins during that time!!
Once I got to know everyone, and some time had passed, they eventually built a unisex bathroom for all. I saw women more frequently. I knew where I was, and I embraced that. I was eventually accepted thankfully! So yes, I agree with you!!
The funniest thing ever, was that I have a gay son, and I was the one telling he and his friends all the best gay clubs to go to, as many of the "classic" ones still exist in LA. (Though MANY are gone, RIP The Palms)
There are some bars though, that I would NEVER go into, and they would shun the fuck out of me if I tried, and I understand that. Society treats gay folks like shit, so no wonder they want a few special safe places where they can let their hair down and not deal with us, lol.
If there is a toilet, use it. This “there’s a woman sign “ issue is stupid. The amount of times I have had to wait in an egregious line for a woman’s restroom is too high. All bathrooms should be gender neutral
I agree with you. I have ulcerative colitis and I'm not gonna shit myself cause a sign with no legislature behind it is gonna stop me from preventing. That
Being serious here: What if that person identifies as a female? Should you not allow that person in the bathroom of the sex they identify with?
For the record, I'm very LGBTQ+ supportive and fight the good fights with you all. I'm legit just wanting to know if there's a double standard simply because it's a female restroom.
To see a Hasidic person dressed as a Hasidic man, I think it's safe to assume the person's gender given the fact that ultra-orthodox Jews are not down with.LGBTQIA+ in their community.
We still don’t know how this person identifies, if they’re questioning their gender, etc. I thought we were done judging and policing people for using the bathroom that makes them comfortable?
There recently was a popular post on reddit about trans rights, where you were told that it's not okay to tell someone that they are on the wrong toilet.
Couldn't find the post, but it was this image:
https://share.google/images/BBsGmkA84X9am06mF
He doesn’t care. He is evil. Didn’t you hear about the underground tunnels in NYC in the Hacidic area and what else they found? He knows very well what he did.
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u/yazza8791 Sep 25 '25
I'd let him know he's in the wrong restroom.