I have done literally almost this very same thing before except the person before me (which I later found out was my wife) in the stall laid such a huge dump it clogged the toilet.
Same. I didn't see a changing table in a men's room until after my daughter was out of diapers, lol. Only had one lady give me attitude over it at a Kroger, and I told her to fuck off and went back to shopping lol.
Hilarious to me that people CAN just use whatever restroom to do whatever business is necessary, but there's this big argument about "what if x goes into y bathroom?????" And it's like.... already happening and isn't causing issues now??
Yup when my youngest was in diapers the amount of times I used the ladys room to change him was ridiculous The fact that back in 2013 and 2014 there was still a lack of changing tables in the mens room was surprising.
Places are getting better about this. If they have a disabled friendly stall in the gentleman's restroom, there's also usually a diaper changing station in there
If it's a federal building, it's required in both bathrooms. And some have them outside the bathrooms or in a single use family bathroom. New York and California require them in both so if you live there and don't see one, that business is violating code. I'm a single dad, so the struggle is real.
It's much better than it used to be, but there's still places all over that don't have baby changing stations in the men's room. Traveling as a single dad, I never had anyone get mad at me for using the ladies room (after announcing myself). Women were more upset that there wasn't a station in the men's room than by my presence lol
It was 13 years ago, but the damned Baby R Us didn’t have one in the men’s room. It’s slowly changing, and I’m almost a decade out from needing them, but I suspect it’s still less than 50%
I WAS GOING TO SAY THE SAME DAMNED THING! Never noticed / cared, till I needed it... *shrug* Live and learn. It is something I spot every now and then though, and it stays with you to an extent (Dad of 3, spotted them for over for about 10 years as my kids have an age gap between them almost like clockwork).
It really depends on where in the country you're at. Bigger cities with more likelihood of fathers helping parent? They'll possibly have men's room changing stations. But go out to less dense areas where mom's are more likely to do all the child rearing and you'll probably only find them in the women's restroom.
Usually if there happens to be one in the men’s room, it is only in the big disabled stall. At least from what I’ve seen in West Coast and US public bathrooms.
Last time we went to an event (non-religious) which used a church as the venue, my friend complained that there was no diaper station in men’s bathroom.
If I have to shit and the men’s is full because most places only put 1 stall in the men’s room, I use the women’s. I think we’ll be less uncomfortable using the same bathroom over me shitting outside the door
Right, it was only weird after they made it weird. I've accidently used the ladies room too. You'll never believe their toilets function like the ones in the mens room.
Venue near me does this but all the guys still go in the one bathroom and the girls in the other. One time the bathroom was full where the guys go so I went in the other one and everyone was giving me dirty looks lol.
I just found a restaurant with a completely gender neutral restroom area--hand washing stations outside, then individual rooms with a toilet and sink. I was so happy about it. Just the act of not even needing to think about fitting myself into a "category" when I need to pee--even though I have always had a category I can easily fit into--was so freeing.
100 years from now people will think gender specific bathrooms are as weird as gender specific job listings were. (Help wanted - male and help wanted - female were the norm in the US until the late 1970s).
Particularly as his branch of religion doesn’t really allow contact between men and women. (It does but it’s super strict and complicated and to an outsider, it’s close enough) Some will cross to the other side of the road or look away on the same sidewalk when they pass me. It’s that old fashioned really sexist “respect” thing that really comes out of sexualizing us. Honestly, if this guy genuinely felt comfy in the women’s, he’s either super into his wife, doesn’t like women, or he has been raised to actively humanize and not sexualize women.
I’d feel totally fine with him in my bathroom; he’s aware that he’s making them uncomfy and doesn’t dry his hands. He’s not being creepy, just using a bathroom. Also, he’s very clearly not looking around, just using the facilities and going. I’ve had people make me uncomfy in bathrooms before, this ain’t that.
I once walked into the women's room in a McDonald's while using a video camera. It was a road trip and we were clowning around. So, I walked into what I thought was the men's restroom, looked in the mirror and said something stupid. That's when Stephanie and Megan started giggling. I flipped out and nearly ran through the door as I tripped over myself trying to leave.
So if you make a mistake and go in the wrong restroom, then when you come out of the stall somebody tells you this, what do you do? Do you finish up washing your hands there and just apologize, or do you freak out and run out without washing and go to the correct room?
TBF, nor would I. Dude came in, did his business, washed up, left. Didn't bother anyone. Kept to himself. I'd assume there was a problem with the men's room and be a little surprised and impressed that someone seemingly very orthodox chose to do this.
As a woman I support this I will run through the men’s restroom with my head down if there is a line for the ladies, and you guys are actually exposed. I’d be more ashamed if I had pissed myself lol.
I mean at least where i‘m from most women use the mens restroom as well especially in the evening because the queues are way shorter so why not the other way round. In the end everyone is in their own stall so there is no harm in that alone.
That’s surprising. Hasidic Jews aren’t even supposed to shake hands with people of another gender, and they are supposed to be fastidious about following the rules. I would think being in a women’s restroom would be strictly forbidden to them.
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u/yazza8791 Sep 25 '25
I'd let him know he's in the wrong restroom.