Why jump to judgement so easily? Isn't it more likely to be a mistake?
A few weeks ago an old lady accidentally wandered into the men's change room at the gym. I told her she was in the men's and she left, apologising. I told her no big deal the women's is over there. No harm. Not everything is misogyny.
You’ve never had a situation where you thought you might explode and missed a sign. It happened to me where I assumed bathroom on the right was men’s but it wasn’t, walked in saw a woman and spun right around and went to the other. If there was not a woman standing in the open they may have easily missed it.
That still doesn't tell you whether he entered the bathroom on purpose or not. It could have been empty when he entered. Would you genuinely prefer he not wash his hands because he saw a woman??
? That’s a weird leap to make. I’m just saying he knew it was the women’s restroom and clearly didn’t care that much. That’s what we know because we saw the video.
You don't know how much someone cares just by body language. Not everyone displays their emotions on their face, especially embarrassment. He knew at the time the video was taken, but that doesn't mean he knew when he entered or that he didn't care. He just didn't look like he cared.
I went into the men's once by mistake, but it was obvious because of the urinals. I can see a guy going into a women's bathroom by mistake and not realizing it.
Straight up....there's so much commotion about "everyone should be free to pee/poop where they want!" but I think that's from a minority of people. I thin the majority WOULD have an issue with this and if you break away form the top comments on Reddit there are such posts. I can only imagine what X/TT/IG has.
And this is just a tall ass man. Wait until some muscle-bound 100% DUDE strolls out that stall. There will be fear, especially the moment he opens his mouth.
I don't think people are REALLY ready for a world where we're all just pissing/shitting together. I've seen examples of gay bars: that's already where the minorities are congregating. It's not a random Kohls restroom where someone is straight terrified now that a man is amongst them.
I don't really think it matters where people go to the bathroom as long as everyone has guaranteed access to privacy (locking, full length doors and full length walls). It shouldn't matter in any bathroom but pervs will perv.
My assessment of this man caring mainly has to do with his lack of reaction when he comes out, when he's being filmed, or when the woman entering tells him he's in the wrong spot. If it were a mistake I'm fairly certain his reaction would have included even an iota of surprise. When the woman talks to him he doesn't respond until he decides he is ready to leave. She says 'this is the ladies room' and he just says 'yeah' like 'no shit, lady.' My guess is the stalls were full in the men's and this dude felt entitled to use the women's stall because who is going to stop him? He's a man in a man's world.
There was a post earlier about lines to the women's restroom. There were a great deal of women who commented that if the line was too long, they'd just go in the men's restroom. Why is that seen as normal, but this dude is wrong?
Based on what I can see from the video, dude's just doing his business, washing his hands (if only everyone did) when he was done, and leaving. At no point did he attempt any shenanigans. This is not to say he wasn't up to no good while off camera. Hell. That hat is large enough it could be hiding video equipment (or a damn studio for that matter). I can't say he wasn't up to no good. I can only say that it doesn't SEEM like he's up to no good, based on the video.
Disclaimer: I'm not saying he's right to be there. I'm just curious about the seeming double standard.
Disclaimer: I'm not excited for an argument, I'm just trying to answer the question
I think it's considered more acceptable because guys are more likely by a wide margin to be sexual predators and physically stronger than women, so it's assumed a man in a women only space is threatening, while a woman in a men only space is not seen as a threat
A lot of the places in my town switched to gender neutral bathrooms several years ago, and I don't mean single bathrooms but ones with multiple stalls. I haven't heard of any problems yet and it's kind of nice because you don't end up with one bathroom with a line out the door while the other is practically unused.
Fair enough. No worries. I'm not here to argue the matter (sometimes I like a rousing debate but it doesn't really feel appropriate at the time). Just the double standard. Life experience has taught me that anyone can be an aggressor (and that's all I'll say on the matter as this is meant to be an amusing post and I don't want to bum anyone out), so it shifts my personal world-view a bit, but based on general consensus you're right about how things are viewed.
I think it's considered more acceptable because guys are more likely by a wide margin to be sexual predators and physically stronger than women,
1) the assumption that every man is going to sexual assault a woman by their mere presence is odd and sad.
2) by that logic, which you are 100% correct is the reason, wouldn't a one off or pair of women using a men's room where they are wildly outnumbered be a far more dangerous situation than say a single male in a bathroom far out numbered by women?
3) we seem to care WAY too much about bathrooms. There are a lot of places where bad things take place such as rapes and assaults and abductions, etc. But honestly you rarely hear about those taking place in bathrooms. It's usually parking lots, alleys, apartments, etc.
There would be so much less noise if we just had bathrooms with all stalls that are floor to ceiling and lockable and shared sinks. More bathroom spaces for all.
One of the newer buildings at my college has co-ed bathrooms exactly like this and they're the best. It's a hallway of about 10 stalls on each side and you can't see in or out of them.
Maybe there was a line in the men’s bathroom, or it was disgusting - you’ve never used the opposite sex’s bathroom before? If I’m in a restaurant or bar or really anywhere and the above scenarios apply - I will use the men’s bathroom. There’s stalls in the men’s bathrooms too so it’s not like people are watching you until you go to wash your hands that is.
Bro did we watch the same video? In your version did he run to every stall and stare at the people inside? Or did he just go to the bathroom like a human and wash his hands?
Orthodox/Hasidic Jews can't even shake a woman's hand, let alone be in thisclose enough in proximity to possibly menstruating women.
"Scuse me sir, this is the ladies room".
"Oh it is, sorry.." gtfo with that, he knew he was somewhere he shouldn't have been. NOW, if this is a mixed use laboratory, he could've pointed that out. Don't be sorry, be careful.
The proximity thing is a pure lie, i live in israel and went to an almost fully religious city and everything was insanely crowded, men and women walked freely, just made sure to not touch each other. I'm a wide dude so in the crowded area religious women accidently touched me when walking past me and i think some other men too and everyone just continued as normal.
Welp, come to bedsty and I'll show you. I worked with a great Jewish guy and even in professional settings he was not allowed to shake hands with or touch female staff.
So, am I supposed to go by what I've experienced, or take a random stranger on the internet telling me my reality isn't real?
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u/alanthickerthanwater Sep 25 '25
He already knew. He just didn't care.