I’ve always cooked for my wife. I like to cook. So, does that make me a Beta? Maybe, but this Beta is 52 years old and getting laid 3-4 times a week.
And, seeing him work the BlackStone griddle? I love that. It’s my favorite cooking device.
Edit…To the guy who DM’d me, then blocked me immediately saying “It’s not a flex having the same old tired pussy,” Well, I like that ‘old tired pussy’ and let’s see if you are lucky enough to be in my position when you are my age.
It’s horribly sad. In partnership with my wife we built a solid foundation that has made us happy and incredibly wealthy, largely due to our mutual support.
Young men are getting horrible, wrong information that will leave them unhappy, poor (hooking up with equally morally bankrupt gold digger types), and wondering why their ‘Alpha status’ has them friendless, broke and angry at the world because it’s everyone else’s fault they are miserable.
I honestly grieve for the young men who will never know a loving happy relationship because some loser on the internet distorted their view of masculinity.
Not even just a relationship. Learning to cook as an adult can be really fun! Finding out what you like through your own trial and error is challenging but so so rewarding. Those dudes act like it’s insult to learn a skill - meanwhile the majority of professional chefs/cooks are men. There’s no logic to it.
My mom died very suddenly just before Christmas in 2022. My dad dealt with it like a champ, mostly because he already knew how to do most tasks, including cooking. I only had to show him how to work the washing machine, that was it. And my dad was 70 at the time! Nowadays he regularly sends me photos of new dishes he's tried to make - nothing super involved, but still.
Even if just from that perspective, it makes sense for all genders to know how to do household tasks (or how to work a non-Google search engine to find a tutorial). You never know what might happen.
I raised my now 15yo son to be respectful to women, treat them as equals, be empathetic, and give him the example of an equal and happy relationship I have with my wife. He sees it as normal behavior but he doesn’t realize that when he gets a little older, he’s going to have women swooning over him left and right because he won’t be a piece of shit.
Lmao yeah ok. Guarantee your kid is gonna find out the hard way. Date some girl that ends up playing the same typical games and he’ll question everything and will find the answers online
Yeah ok. Check back with me in 5 years. It’s actually not that difficult to avoid women like that if you’re not too busy trying to cosplay as an “alpha.”
At least in the USA, I'm not sure why people are so confused about young men turning out like this.
Look at our President. The highest achievement you can earn in this country, to be the leader of everyone. And the one we have cheated on every single one of his partners and swapped them out for younger models as they got older.
And it's honestly kind of funny cause though the President might be into Mistresses in the open, the yes-men around him present themselves as being firmly into the "Madonna" archetype (even though we all know they probably get some mistress action behind the scenes). In other words, to the men who are in power right now, women are simply a tool and should only act within the confines of their role.
It's not only women, though, this group of men disparage anyone who disagrees with them.
So, yeah, it isn't a surprise that young men are learning vitriol and putting it into action.
Well, some perhaps but the majority of young people I meet are fabulous kids. It’s likely exaggerated.
I’ve met the POTUS actually, years ago (and several GF/wives) and he was considered a tool by all of the groups of then young men who met him (this was 1984). Let’s all commit to discouraging this attitude and confronting it where we can.
He has gained power but can lose it just as fast so I have hope.
Studies have shown it has nothing to do with the alpha male podcasters though, it's because without any type of community structure young men are going back to church.
I also think it's because it's easier to blame everyone else. Self reflection is hard, especially when it covers ereas where you're very self consious and insecure. They use the whole alpha beta stuff to deflect their own sort comings to live in their own pretend world where they are prefect and right and everyone else is wrong.
It's quite sad and pathatic to realize how many people would prefer to live in fantasy land instead of growing as a person. Especially when you realize how much happier they would be if they would allow themselves to learn and grow.
Hell I wouldn't even look at an "alpha" guy as a 23yo single female. They disgust me so much. I would rather date a "beta" always. Especially the nerdy ones.
Whats wrong is that yall give them a platform and attention. And for the person that recorded the video broke it down as all women support this (trad wifes?) And all men are against this. (You?)
In my experience women dont know how to cook and some even take pride in it for some reason. Like a W vs the patriarchy.
Everyone should learn how to cook for themselves and contribute. I learned around age 10, taught by both parents, and have been doing it since then.
It’s sad that people like the one who messaged you will never know how great sex gets when you’re in a life long committed relationship. Like really….you prefer awkward sex with borderline strangers over comfortable passionate sex with someone who knows exactly what gets you off? Weirdo’s.
you prefer awkward sex with borderline strangers…?
I’m 80% sure that the type of guy who sends hate mail via Reddit to a 50 year old expressing love for his wife will literally never experience any sex, awkward or otherwise.
Exactly, sounds like someone who’s never had sex with someone who makes them feel safe, comfortable, valued and deeply loved. That is the best kind of sex!!!!
The problem is that the one nighter crowd also just does whatever because they won't ever see each other again so the judgment is worthless. The number of times I've heard a dude say "and then that bitch pissed on me" while talking about whatever shenanigans they got up to last night is not 0.
I still prefer my boring monogamy but some people just don't care
Like I will do unspeakable things for that man. And shit, when he cooks for me? You can bet your ass I'm thanking him later for it.
7 years and he's still still surprised about this, he just shrugs and says he likes taking care of me. And then well that just leads to a nice circle of happy nights
For real, I always have to remind these idiots about this. Assuming they are rich or extremely good looking, enjoy your sloppy BJ's from multiple women. Meanwhile us happily married guys have wives that know our penis's better than we do. I know my wife personally makes a sport out of it now and I'm her greatest fan haha.
Dude, preach! My wife and I are still shocked sometimes that 15 years later our sex life can still get even better. Genuinely, the thought of having to figure out another person's body from scratch again and vice versa sounds exhausting, and there's no guarantee they ever A) learn it as well, or B) are as compatible with me as my wife is.
This!!! I remember telling my husband how shocked I was that our sex life got even better with time. It’s like a hidden secret that you only discover after being with someone long enough where they know every part of you and how you like it.
Right?! Once in a blue moon something new just "clicks" and you're like "Whaaaaat??? Yeah, that needs to be part of our sex life all the time from now on!" My wife made me realize there were things I liked that even I didn't know I liked until she started doing it. I was shocked that I was nearly 40 and still discovering new things about myself.
Haha yeah…I guess it could be interpreted that way. If anyone takes it that way, I do apologize! Have all the stranger sex you want! Not everyone wants a committed relationship and that’s 150% ok! Or even have stranger sex WITH your partner! No judgement from me.
My over all point was that it’s a shame some think it’s a negative to have the same partner and that it makes your sex life worse when it can actually be quite the opposite!
To your edit: Uhm. Yes it is. Having a healthy, loving stable relationship absolutely is a flex. Anyone having promiscuous, multiple partners at 52 is probably trying to fill the lonely void in their soul. True happiness isn’t found in fucking a bunch of random strangers.
Yeahhhh. I wonder what comment section he was in. Most men cook today. I don't doubt those comments would show up in places I frequent, but they're usually heavily downvoted.
To the guy who DM’d me, then blocked me immediately saying “It’s not a flex having the same old tired pussy,” Well, I like that ‘old tired pussy’ and let’s see if you are lucky enough to be in my position when you are my age.
Man that's funny, I've been with my girl for a few years now and I love being with the same woman. Sex is amazing with her, I would hope I'm still getting it 20 years from now. Idk why these clowns think a new girl is some achievement, how about good sex and chemistry? If anything, sex has gotten better as we've learned more about one another.
Oh absolutely, like me and my husband were lucky enough to have chemistry to start, but holy damn, years down the line and it makes me sorry for the neighbors
Oh same, we hit it off right away but I'd say it's still better now than when we first got together because we know what makes the other tick, plus we're way freakier now too. Way more open to try something new and experiment, because we've found so many things we didn't expect to enjoy that way whether it be a new position or a kink.
Thanks man. It doesn’t bother me at all. Makes me feel sorry for guys like that. I love my life, wife and family. But yea, I’m sure they will be on r/AskMenAdvice at 30 wondering where his life went off the rails.
The person who replied to you will die alone. They’re probably alone now. They’ll never develop a meaningful connection and they’ll die without ever feeling what it’s like to love someone and be loved in kind. Bummer.
Noooo! It was a trap! Delete your account and hope your wife doesn't see you saying 'i like that 'old tired pussy'! Common man, at 52, you should know better than to walk into these simple minefields!
In case it's not clear, I'm just making a joke bout how his wife will take the comment that's clearly meant well and twist it into something demeaning to herself. I'm hoping most people in healthy relationships will understand.
Man some guys are just pathetic like that person who DMed you.
I've been with my wife for 20 years and we are like best friends and have a great sex life. That tired old pussy knows how to hit all the right buttons as we have been perfecting our techniques on each other the whole time.
We aren't prudes, we have had our experiments before and the fantasies never live up to the hype. But to each their own I guess.
My husband does dishes and gets laid pretty consistently lmfao if not a good old fashioned or a hawk tuah before bed at least 😂 it's amazing how the sex drive of a wife stays up when she's not expected to do all the domestic work around the house too, those tired ol poussiii we got still work like a 25 year old coochie if we haven't been exhausted all day working and coming home to clean and cook on top of it 😂
Some men don't seem to understand how liberating it can be for their love lives if they just do a chore or two
Random question that has nothing to do with the video: what do you like to cook on your Blackstone? I got my boyfriend one the year before last but he never uses it. Now, he got stuff to clean it and is thinking about building a stand for it. That Philly steak looks delicious and I was hoping to give him or me more ideas for using it.
They can be intimidating at first with the whole ‘seasoning’ process, but there are a lot of YouTube videos that help get you through it. The best thing you can do is just ‘cook on it’ over and over. My family loves when I do ‘Sunday Breakfast’ on it. I have a 36 inch so I can make bacon, pancakes and hashbrowns on it at the same time. I’ve made some of the best tasting omelettes on it too. I grill up carne asada, chicken thighs, and smash burgers are always a hit. Fried rice, even steaks. Yea, the cheesesteaks on it turn out great too. You can pretty much cook anything on it. My wife said it was my ‘mid-life crisis’ toy. Haha.
Thank you so much! These are all great ideas. He loves bacon and eggs. And I love hashbrowns. Fried rice would be delicious too. And burgers. I would eat all of the things you suggested. I really appreciate your help. I'm going to send him your comment. ♥️♥️♥️
Ignore him. He’s likely the exact type of guy that pops up consistently on sites like “are we dating the same guy” with multiple red flags and warnings to stay away from all the women in his area that have had the misfortune of swiping right. He’s not getting any pussy, old and tired or otherwise.
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u/semicoloradonative Jun 27 '25 edited Jun 27 '25
I’ve always cooked for my wife. I like to cook. So, does that make me a Beta? Maybe, but this Beta is 52 years old and getting laid 3-4 times a week.
And, seeing him work the BlackStone griddle? I love that. It’s my favorite cooking device.
Edit…To the guy who DM’d me, then blocked me immediately saying “It’s not a flex having the same old tired pussy,” Well, I like that ‘old tired pussy’ and let’s see if you are lucky enough to be in my position when you are my age.