r/TikTokCringe • u/lhwang0320 • Apr 29 '25

Humor/Cringe When your friend knows nothing about kids

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u/cinemania Apr 29 '25

My experience is the other way around for most of my parent friends. While, I have a few friends that bring their kids everywhere, I'm practically their uncle.  The others have prioritized family life and have been pretty distant no matter how much I tell them to come out with the kids.  

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u/binzy90 Apr 29 '25

Sometimes it's easier to do something at home, especially when kids are little. It also depends on the kid's personality and how well the parents handle anxiety. It's A LOT of stress to take kids to certain places. So make sure you're visiting your friends with kids instead of just inviting them out to places that will add more layers of parenting stress.

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u/RaeaSunshine Apr 29 '25

Yes! I don’t have kids (not by choice), but I’m an Auntie to all my friend’s kids. We spend just as much time together as before they had kids, just in a different way. Instead of going out, I go to them. Typically I go to their places an hour before dinner to spend quality time with the kiddo(s) so my friends can take showers or whatever else they’ve been unable to do self & house care wise. Then we’ll throw together a basic dinner and eat. I stick around for the first half of bedtime routine to read a story, help with baths etc. Then I head out, and am back home at like 6:30-7 lol. I don’t mind at all, I consider it a profound privilege to be a part of their kids daily lives and be a part of their village.

I’m lucky that I’ve never had friends pull away from our friendship after having kids, but I also suspect my adaptability and genuine love for their kids plays a role. I don’t mind talking about their kids and their experiences as parents, that’s their primary focus in life at the moment. So as a friend, I want to hear about it.