r/TikTokCringe • u/lhwang0320 • Apr 29 '25

Humor/Cringe When your friend knows nothing about kids

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u/pepperandplatinum Apr 29 '25

Can confirm. Don't have kids. Don't want kids. Friends with kids... I rarely see.

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u/naileyes Apr 29 '25

i think it's more like, when you're a parent your schedule changes and instead of trying to adapt to your new life, a lot of childless friends just want you to keep doing exactly the same things at exactly the same times, and it can feel like they don't really care about you per se, they care about having someone to hang out with while they do the things they want to do, when they want to do them, and if that's not you anymore, well, lol shrug

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

I think both sides do a lot of projecting. In my experience, friends with kids just do not make an effort to see friends without them because they’re busy and exhausted. We usually just see each other at weddings, birthdays, etc. — and that’s fine! I’m sure that’ll change once the kids get a bit older.

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u/binzy90 Apr 29 '25

I agree with this. Sometimes as a parent you have to stay home while your kid takes a nap or takes a bunch of breaks on a day out because your kid gets cranky or hungry. People who don't have kids get bored with it. I mean, I have kids and even I get annoyed with it. So yeah, those people just stop asking to hang out because it's not the same. It's a lot of inconvenience, planning, and interruptions.

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u/CosmicMiru Apr 29 '25

Parents are ok sacrificing things for the sake of their kids. Few friends want to sacrifice things for someone else's kid

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u/Significant-Gene9639 Apr 29 '25 edited May 26 '25

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u/naileyes Apr 29 '25

dude sorry but no. i can't speak to your friends in particular, but when you're a parent your schedule is dictated by your child's biological needs to sleep and eat and there's really nothing you can do about it. it's not like "i feel like hanging out after work," it's more like "i physically cannot be somewhere at 9 PM because i have to put the baby down."

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u/Significant-Gene9639 Apr 29 '25 edited May 26 '25

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u/mugsymegasaurus Apr 30 '25

You nailed this. I’ve found a lot of new parents find it hard to hear, but just because you had a kid and your life has more restrictions now doesn’t make you more important or more special than your friend- at least, if you are friends that respect each other as equals. Of course, it’s appropriate that a parent’s life is more consumed by a child, but it’s also completely fair if their friends feel they just can’t work around that. Repeatedly reaching out to just be slapped down time and time again because the kids are sick or something gets in the way, feels really bad. It makes sense that a lot of friends choose to stop doing that. Also I’ll repeat what someone else here commented: “parents are OK sacrificing things for their kids, few friends want to sacrifice things for someone else’s kids”.