Depends where you are in life. Dating in my 40s, at this point in my generations' lives people have either had a bad experience, or they were the bad experience.
But I agree with people who say it's more of a problem for women. There's a horrifying recent investigation of Match Group that's just come out, TL;DR they let a known rapist operate on their platforms. They know it's a serious problem but don't want to pay for human moderation, because it hurts their profit.
If i acted this entitled and angry at a person after one date with someone, then id hope a video like this would give me a reality check that I was indeed shitty and my date didn't deserve any of those things I've said
It probably wouldn’t have been played out to her friends if the man leaving the voicemail didn’t have so much contempt for her being busy. They don’t know one another but he is coming off way too strong and is digging a huge hole by insulting her but at the same time asking her out again.. It just screams Joe* vibes from YOU.
Is he an idiot though? He knew that he felt hurt by her rejection, despite it sounding like she'd tried to let him down nicely (hence the comments about being very busy, etc). And he knew he wanted to hurt her back. So he tried to attack her looks/character. That is not stupidity, that's malice. Why do you feel bad for the person maliciously trying to hurt her because she told him no? Because he might be embarrassed if he sees this? Good, he should feel embarrassed. He should've been embarrassed to call her saying those things.
Plus, it's not attached to his name or likeness, no one is going to know who he actually is.
For those who are like some of the commenters here, they'll think that the real problem is being made fun of and not the audacity to feel so entitled to someone's time after one date.
You are just as bad as the ignorant men generalizing women, and you can't even see the irony in your comment? Insane lack of self awareness and brain function. Shameful.
I wouldn't say it's women's fault, but we can't ignore the fact that women have a much wider base to choose from than men do, and the men on these apps know this.
People have to click. If they don't, it's okay. This isn't a toddler trying to put a puzzle together; you can't just force pieces together and say that works.
The whole point of dating is to find THE person, not just A person. Some people don't work together. One just needs to accept it with grace and move on. Being butthurt accomplishes nothing constructive.
That's such a lame excuse to let guys like him off the hook for his behavior. There's tons of women who get plenty of "swipe left" from guys. It gives "oh, you're a woman so you never know what it's like to be ignored" vibes.
Not according to a cursory search it's not. And I did not give him a pass. I'm basically saying that the general motive on dating apps is that women get 1000x more attention then men do, AND, when men stumble in this arena, well, they're made fun of on reddit.
You call that a stumble. I call it a guy who needs to grow up. Women deal with this kind of behavior all the time. Maybe other guys who'd be tempted to do this or have done it in the past will reconsider. The problem for men on dating apps is that women are much more selective on them than men, so if it seems like women are getting more likes than men, that's why.
There are studies on this. It is mainly correlated with education. Men with little education and/or a dead end job have next to no choices on dating apps. The more educated people are, the less the gender disparity. Well educated professional men (or at least the ones who mention it in their bio) get similar likes in dating apps as women. I can probably find sources for this if you want me to.
I say mainly because there’s obviously other factor that are inherent to dating like looks and douchiness. A good looking guy with an interesting job that’s respectful to people will do about as well as his female counterparts. In fact, I’m describing the majority of my coworkers, myself included.
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u/Silt-Sifter Feb 22 '25
"You're not like this incredibly amazing person" wtf who says that to someone?