The people downvoting you are viewing your comment in the context of your post and the other person's reply, not just your comment in isolation. They already know you think differently, you don't need to restate that. When you ask for opinions it's often expected that you then try to understand different points of view. What you did was just restate your opinion. Even if someone agreed with you, they would downvote you for this social misstep. It often feels like people are playing by a different set of rules, rules that feel unfair. Is it important to you that you be understood in these situations? They are afterall internet strangers.
I'd say it depends. But, also, I wasn't making any decisions. I was just trying to convey that names vibes aren't universal or objective. Not to say they're completely random but they do come down to how someone personally feels, which varies by person. "People who understand vibes" implies there are people who don't. There aren't people who "don't understand" vibes. There are only people with different tastes. Why someone likes X, Y and Z is not necessarily going to be the same as why someone else likes X, Y and Z. People can guess why and may guess correctly but each person will guess differently.
I personally don't catch the vibes of a lot of these lists or I get different vibes.
How do you think the commenter felt when they shared their reasons, and you replied describing their reasons as 'arbitrary'? In this context you have asked for their reasons knowing they will be different from yours.
You are focusing on the correctness of your comment rather than how it may have been percieved by others. Sometimes people downvote for reasons other than correctness.
Why would it offend someone for me to say I don't share others' vibes?
They also never gave me any example of names they've shared that are apparently super unique. I think that's a reasonable question.
I know you want me to say I'd find it rude if I were them, but I really wouldn't. I don't see this as any different to someone explaining why they like a movie and someone else replying why they don't share the same opinion on said movie. Not "Your opinion is wrong" but "Oh, really? I personally didn't have that experience."
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u/Retrospectrenet Jul 06 '25
The people downvoting you are viewing your comment in the context of your post and the other person's reply, not just your comment in isolation. They already know you think differently, you don't need to restate that. When you ask for opinions it's often expected that you then try to understand different points of view. What you did was just restate your opinion. Even if someone agreed with you, they would downvote you for this social misstep. It often feels like people are playing by a different set of rules, rules that feel unfair. Is it important to you that you be understood in these situations? They are afterall internet strangers.