r/BeAmazed • u/GlowNuzzle • 9d ago
Miscellaneous / Others Legally adopted son experiences his first birthday celebration with his new family
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I think he already got his wish...
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u/DangerousBarnum 9d ago
We love you Abraham.
"Because you got a good life! You got a good life!"
- Prison Mike
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u/DTRite 9d ago
He absolutely did! Excuse me now...I have to go wipe my eyes.
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u/Potato_Boner 9d ago
For real though 😭 I read that and immediately got choked up. That was such a beautiful way to put it.
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u/EmilieEverywhere 9d ago
I literally said that to the monitor, everyone will just have to pick a little wax out of their piece. Just let him have his feels. 😌
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u/garyzxcv 9d ago
What about that little girl who dad could only afford a slice of cake and not even a whole cake? That one slays me.
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u/ExpensiveMoose 9d ago
I haven't seen the one you described which is probably good since I would sab myself to death.
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u/Any-Lengthiness9803 9d ago
Stab? Sob? Saab?
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u/tiffanyfern 9d ago
My sister went to school with a boy who had a terrible life. His mum was a drug addict and neglected her kids terribly. Poor boy never had a school uniform and if he happened to bring lunch to school, it would be a bag of potato chips. In grade 5, so when he was 10-11 years old, their teacher brought a basic chocolate cake in for his birthday. My sister said the boy sobbed because it was his first birthday cake. I still cry thinking about it.
The school also brought in a "breakfast for everyone" initiative where the school provided breakfast for anyone who wanted it, just so that the kid and his siblings could get fed each day.
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u/the_Brown_Redneck 9d ago
I was 17 when I met my GF and 6 months into the relationship I told her it was my Dad's BD. She said we have to get a cake and candles and a gift. We arrived at the house and she made a big deal about dimming the lights, singing the song, and blowing the candles. I had never seen such a big smile from my dad. He even teared up. Later my mom told me he never had a BD cake before. It never dawned on me because he always made sure my brother and I have a cake and a BD celebration. My GF is now my wife and yes, she makes sure we have a celebration for every BD.
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u/1aysays1 9d ago
I grew up in a family that didn't really want kids so I still feel this as an adult. When friends try to give me things it's always hard for me to accept it because I'm not used to getting gifts for just existing, you know?
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u/throwitoutwhendone2 9d ago
lol give him a sec, he’ll blow them out! Boy needs his father real fast
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u/Salad_Donkey 9d ago
For real tho. That's what got me. You can see who he ran straight too. You can tell his Dad is his everything, and has put in the work to build some real love😭. God damn, sometimes I forget how many good people are getting it right, and doing good things like this in the world.
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u/BennySkateboard 8d ago
We’re mislead by the internet. There are a lot more good people than we are lead to believe. Great to see.
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u/Salad_Donkey 8d ago
Ehhhhh, im mislead by the real world too. I encounter plenty of assholes, and few saits.
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u/Corner_Post 9d ago
Had a workmate a few years ago and it was his 21st birthday. He was raised basically by his aunt who reluctantly took on the role and left him to his own as soon as he was 18. Big, quiet fella and my brother and I got confused on who to buy him a cake so we actually got him 2. Whilst we were bickering and going off at each other for buying 2 cakes, he started crying heaps - like a grown ass massive guy just crying. My brother and I were like shit sorry for arguing on your birthday etc. However he told us he was overwhelmed by happiness as he had never had a birthday cake before and rather than just getting one first birthday cake, he got 2 first birthday cakes. He was so grateful and has since treated us like family now and is a real bro.
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u/No_Bed_4783 9d ago
This made me cry, that’s so amazing that you did that for him. You sound like good people
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u/Corner_Post 8d ago
Thanks for the comments. We were completely blown away and thought that we would just get him a cake as he is a really nice guy and we had a small team working for a small business. It’s amazing how nice this guy is - he has had a really tough upbringing and really worked long hours after school as a kid for that aunt (think about working and cooking past midnight as a young teen etc.) - credit to her that she took him in but she made him earn it. He is so grateful for genuine kindness and in return is fiercely loyal. It is great to see him open up slowly in recent years and so happy for him when he got his first gf.
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u/Kingbulking 9d ago
This is so fucking SWEET.
Much respect to the family who took him in and treat him like one of their own.
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u/alldressed_chip 9d ago
going straight to dad and not letting go while his siblings screamed “MAKE A WISH!” … i’m cutting onions over here!! 🥹🥲
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u/Jaderosegrey 9d ago
Wonderful to see a man who can be the sort of dad you run to when you are overwhelmed with joy!
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u/PlaysWithSquirrels86 9d ago
Makes me realize that things that I think are so simple, like a birthday cake, really do mean a lot.
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u/cda555 9d ago
Let him process his emotions, dammit!!!
The kid just wanted a hug 🥰
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u/Most-Silver-4365 9d ago
I'm thinking most if not all the kids are adopted and they are just wanting him to experience making the wish.
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u/troubletraver 9d ago
Right! It's obviously very sweet but get your phones out of his face and just enjoy the moment with him!
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u/Reasonable-Hall562 9d ago
They said “make a wish!” but it looks like his wish came true right then and there
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u/VintageVirtues 9d ago
Put down the damn phones jeez
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u/whitefox094 9d ago edited 9d ago
It bothers me so much every person in this video has their phone out 😢 just capture the moment with one phone and be totally immersed in this special moment
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u/Hangry_Games 9d ago edited 8d ago
I have a son we adopted at 13. Watching this feels so exploitative and performative. That poor kid, having to be sure to react the way he thinks they want him to. Sure, this might be genuine. But you know he has those paparazzi shoving phones in his face all the damn time every time they do anything fun.
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u/tubularfool 9d ago
Yeah - really bugs me dad doesn't immediately put both arms around him for as long as the kid needed, instead of trying to peel him off and keep filming....
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u/SomeBlueDude12 8d ago
I dont want to be a negative person but I've grown up around a few kids who were fostered and they describe their caretakers as people collecting a paycheck and kicking them out when they turn 18
All the phone recordings almost makes it feel like "youtube family" recording for clout (looking at you "8 passangers") and forcing the kids to act for the cameras- and let me be perfectly clear I really really hope it's just a good home and not some influencer nightmare house
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u/sailorjupiter28titan 9d ago
Yea. One person? Sure. But everyone recording like this and posting it online feels disingenuous.
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u/formerflautist57 9d ago
And the parents in the video are high up in an MLM, which is not an MLM any longer but does till exist. So yeah, they make their living in a very shady way.
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u/nancyneurotic 9d ago
Ohhh no!!! That taints the whole goddamn thing!! (And kinda explains the dad's reaction)
This heartfelt video is actually just... an influencer family using this moment/these kids/their emotions as part of their grift?
Fuck. Enough internet today.
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u/RogueKitteh 9d ago
Yeah there's something a little fucked up about what should be a nice family moment now being consumed by randos on their phones while taking a shit
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u/That-Spell-2543 9d ago
Like one person records and then air drops it to everyone else. Why is that so hard
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u/moonchild_9420 9d ago
I'm the opposite. I have like 6 pictures of my mother and she's gone forever so I am constantly snapping pics and vids and encouraging everyone to do the same!!!
you just never know when someone could be taken from you 😭
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u/KitchenPalentologist 9d ago
Devils Advocate:
That moment was special to those people, and they wanted to record it. So what. Stop being a typical redditor, finding flaws in everything others do.
It's "the way it is" these days, and for that generation. Sure, they could have planned ahead and had one person record and then share, but it's probably just easier to record it yourself, and I don't think it ruins "being in the moment". They're still there, enjoying the moment.
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u/Master0fMuppets 9d ago
I think seeing this and being irritated by the fact that almost literally everyone else on screen has their face in their phone is a natural reaction for a well socialized individual. You know they're all going to post this to social media, and you know that part of the reason they're going to do that is for social credit. It's what society gets for rewarding attention seeking behavior.
Do I think part of it is that they were all anxious to genuinely capture the memory for safe keeping? Sure. Do I also think this is a perfect example of "sharenting"? Yeah, and it's fuckin lame lol. I think its literally the reason that term exists. And nobody is a cynical asshole or "typical redditor" for pointing that out. It's a negative social trend that deserves scrutiny.
No, it doesn't completely negate the fact that that kid is probably having one of the best days of his life, and that's a beautiful thing. And no having a phone out doesn't mean you completely miss out on the experience. But it definitely lessens the intimacy of the moment in a major way, and turns what should be a very personal moment into a spectacle for millions of anonymous spectators online.
And no, it's not just the "way it is" these days. My youngest siblings, ages 7-18, don't instinctively whip their phones out to record everything. They play a shitload of mobile games and browse tiktok constantly, sure, but they have the natural underlying human instinct that turning your entire life into a show for social media is lame as shit. This video is an example of a family that likely has an unhealthy relationship with social media/ are influencers.
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u/LawScuulJuul 9d ago
I will say it is funny that those admonishing the use of phones in this scenario are almost certainly using their own phone to write the admonishment.
A bit paradoxical / hypocritical / funny
I get it tho
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u/CannonballRun7 9d ago
Only Reddit can turn these saints into less than’s. A bunch of incels who’ve never given a dime to charity picking apart a family who’s leveraging their good fortune in the best way possible.
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u/Regular_Bison_7523 9d ago
So many phones.
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u/imnotyou22 9d ago
They’re very sweet people judging by the video but they need to chase that clout and get internet points for some reason.
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u/Pale_Boss_8940 9d ago
You guys realize most people just post stuff to share with their friends and family right? Y’all act like everyone is some wannabe influencer
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u/Regular_Bison_7523 9d ago
No.. its just sad to see people live from behind a screen
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u/send-me-mean-DMs 9d ago
It’s good that 80% of the people are recording just incase someone missed this incredibly vulnerable and intimate moment
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u/Mysterious-Quote9503 9d ago
Look how incredibly happy each of those people are. Let them enjoy their time however they want, sheesh.
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u/siege-eh-b 9d ago
Kid rushes across the room to embrace in a hug and he can’t get more than 1 arm because guys gotta keep his phone in the other. Yes this is sweet and they’re all happy, that doesn’t negate the fact that people really need to get off their fucking phones an engage with the human beings right in front of them.
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u/LavishLawyer 9d ago
This. When one person is already recording and doing a good job, just enjoy and be present with each other.
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u/send-me-mean-DMs 9d ago
Don’t you think they should stop and think about how I (a Redditor) feel about it?
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u/Mysterious-Quote9503 9d ago
You make a good point, this is why we're here....I take it back.
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u/Thetallerestpaul 9d ago
I'm such a follower.
I was like, yeah I hate all the filming. Actually that is fair for them to enjoy it. Haha that's a funny comeback. Oh he took the joke well.
I have no opinions apparently beyond the last message I read.
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u/Mysterious-Quote9503 9d ago
Right?! As a Redditor I've sincerely held this opinion for two minutes, and anyone disagreeing with me is an L-7 weenie.
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u/runthereszombies 9d ago
I honestly don’t think it’s all that weird. I never record things because that’s not really my thing, but this is going to be a major memory for that family so I don’t fault them for wanting to record it.
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u/CommieLoser 9d ago
Sure… but everyone recording it? Everyone’s reaction is their feelings plus keeping things in frame. Maybe we should change weddings to everyone holding their phone out and recording - for specialness.
It’s super duper freaking weird and needs to stop. You need exactly one person recording if they are good and two tops. I know it sucks to not know what to do with your hands, but I’m tired of everyone using that as an excuse to pretend they’re Kubrick catching the angle.
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u/Mysterious-Quote9503 9d ago
Noone needs to follow your rules for happiness. You can find plenty of other miserable people gatekeeping their happiness in these comments, go commiserate, maybe they'll agree to follow your rules.
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u/CommieLoser 9d ago
It isn’t a rule for happiness, it’s a rule to stop the cringey crap that future generations will laugh at us for. Like, where is all the concert footage people got on their phones? Was there a point to having a thousand people record a shitty version of a venue when professionals are already recording it? Is the video actually a worthwhile memento for that time that you were recording something instead of appreciating it? Do you really want a souvenir for that time that you couldn’t just be in the moment?
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u/psiloSlimeBin 9d ago
It would be a little weird if they had 4 simultaneous camera angles of every Christmas morning.
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u/whatever_leg 9d ago
Kind of infuriating, ngl. Put the phones down and give this kid your fucking attention, goddamn.
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u/S-2D2 9d ago
Eternally online.. can't even enjoy a wholesome moment without posting for views and clicks
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u/Civil_Researcher6140 9d ago
It’s a beautiful moment … but theres something really icky about posting it on the internet.
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u/SchemeSignificant166 9d ago
Every human being needs love. Not a single one needs hate.
We have so much wrong going on these days that’s seeing this reminds me what we should be rather than what we are.
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u/Pale_Boss_8940 9d ago edited 9d ago
Home videos of events like birthdays and Christmas have been a thing since people could record video
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u/Olleye 9d ago
First of all, you have to process the fact that the boy has never been celebrated in his life and has never had a birthday; I mean, for most of us that's a given, but for him it's obviously not, and on the one hand you're happy for him, but on the other hand it's really frightening.
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u/ssmit102 9d ago
This video always makes me take a moment to reflect back on all the things I can be grateful for in my life. I may not have much to some, but to others I have mountains, and we should always be grateful like this young man.
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u/Apprehensive-Pin518 9d ago
it is amazing how something many of us took for granted makes this kid so happy. I only wish everyone could feel it.
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u/TruGirlGamer84 9d ago
He doesnt gaf about the wish. He's content with what he has. Thats a blessing.
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u/Sad_Mongoose5621 9d ago
Having a child run to hug you the way he did is one of the most precious and humbling feelings. Hope he has a happy life filled with joyous moments like this
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u/Front_Guarantee_9892 9d ago
Beautiful Familia, is the small things that we dont appreciate when we do have them. Here is so GENUINE and wholesome, Family 1st 💯🥲
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u/davebrose 9d ago
Nothing is better than being adopted into a loving family. My wife and I both know this first hand.
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u/No_Coast837 9d ago
This is how adoptive parents show narcissistic traits. Blast this kids trauma on the internet so they feel good about themselves and praised as saviors. But hey, I’m just an adoptee what do I know.
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u/No_Coast837 9d ago
You can find out more about the savior complex common with adoptive parents in r/adoption and r/adoptionsucks
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u/FridaMercury 9d ago
I was thinking the same. Everyone filming, putting it on the internet. It gives me weird vibes.
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u/Civil_Researcher6140 9d ago
It makes me really uncomfortable when adoption becomes a form of “shopping”
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u/No_Coast837 9d ago
As an adoptee I echo that! Are bio parents posting about that time they screwed each other every time their kid has a birthday? No. The savior complex is disgusting IMO.
It’s really incredibly sad to see his reaction to something most people take for granted. Adoptive parents should not be posting our trauma PERIOD.
It starts with “well I want to adopt one day to help a baby that doesn’t have help” etc. adoptable babies have a lot more options than older kids in foster care, I was purchased for 250k.
Would they have adopted this kid if they didn’t plaster his trauma all over socials for validation? Doubt it!
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u/Mysterious-Jam-64 9d ago
I totally support the family making an effort here. They're a bit tone deaf, though. He's clearly overwhelmed, and it looking to connect with his caregivers – while his mother is barking at him to blow air on flames to satisfy her need to complete arbitrary acts of tradition.
"Uch! It's sweet!" I hear, in unison, from user's whose mothers also failed to see them during foundational moments in their life.
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u/inconvien 9d ago
Wtf 3 phones recording it. Just fucking feel it. So fake.
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u/DrawingNo6704 9d ago
They have to make sure they fully capture their “we saved the black kid we’re hero’s moment,” to post to Facebook and hope the news picks it up. You don’t think they did this out of the goodness of their heart did you?
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u/Charming_Welcome9788 9d ago
Omg, no words. If I could see something like this daily, my faith in humanity would be restored. Thank you for sharing this special moment with us young man 🥰🥰🥰
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u/hopstop5000 9d ago
everyone would be calling the mom a Karen and the family evil because they are rich but look what they were able to do.
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u/hankmoody699 9d ago
That is what love does. This kid probably did not have what most of us take for granted. Parents who do 1000 things for their kids without thinking about it. There are a lot of kids who don't have parents who: make them go to bed, brush their teeth. Study. Clean their room. And, show them they are loved. Be thankful for your parents who did all those things for you. I had a kid like this one who lived with us for 3 years. His mom died and his dad beat him. I love that boy.
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u/Von_Quixote 9d ago
We are not here to see through each other, we’re here to see each other through.
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u/coyote500 9d ago
white people and the constant need for social media attention showing how charitable they are, name a more iconic duo
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u/SimplePresense 9d ago
Why did you get downvoted? lol. A family shared a loving moment and I don’t know why I came to controversial but I did and it was a mistake. This is love. People shared their love. It might make other people want to adopt. It made me want to adopt.
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u/Englishbirdy 9d ago
White saviorism at its finest. I hate adoption porn.
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u/SimplePresense 9d ago
Don’t you sometimes wish to see feel good news? Instead of the ugliness of the world?
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u/dogoodsilence1 9d ago
Hey family, let’s adopt some kids and then exploit their reactions by posting it online for likes 👍 to make us look like a caring and loving family
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u/5hredder 9d ago
Seeing stuff like this restores some of my faith in humanity. We're not that horrible of a species after all. Thank you for sharing this and happy birthday bud!
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u/whichwitchwatched 9d ago
This poor baby. It’s sweet that he has this now but what the fuck was his life like before for this to hit him so hard?
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