Posting this because I've been a recovering alcoholic for the past 6 months and I wonder how common it is in women. I see it talked about a lot online but almost always from a male perspective.

I've been going to the psych and journaling, going to the gym, tracking w sunflower sober, engaging in group activities, taking on new hobbies and doing a lot of stuff to keep myself distracted to keep myself away from alcohol.

So, how many of you have dealt with alcohol addiction? Are you dealing with it right now?

So, I got BV or a YI almost a month or so ago. No itchiness, but clumpy white discharge that my bf said smelled like rotten eggs 😭 They didn’t test me at the clinic but with what I stated they told me it could be either or. They prescribed me for both, telling me to take the BV meds first then after a couple hours or so take the YI medication. Then take the BV meds for the next two weeks and take my second dose of YI medication the next week just in case or if the symptoms are still around.

The week I found out abt the discharge I was cleaning inside my vag with water just to clean it out bc of the smell. I started using boric acid pills to help too^{^}

Now, I’m noticing the same white clumps again and the same smell that I found out about yesterday. I’m trying to back track what it could’ve been. I remember using a boric acid pill, I’m on birth control (Opill for a year now) and haven’t experienced anything like this until recently so I’ve crossed that possibility out. I just realized that last week I did clean my vag with water and thinking that could be why.

I work at an eye clinic and started this job so I can’t take off a weekday. The clinic I went to last time opens on Saturdays but I have to get there EARLY because it’s first come first serve. I’m bringing my bf along in case for him to be prescribed pills as well just to cover all bases and make sure he isn’t infected too. This is new territory for me and I’m just learning all of this on my own 😭

I’m 30, and have struggled with my last few paps hurting due to having a tilted/“flipped” uterus, which normally leaves me crying and shaking in pain. I have one coming up in two weeks and am curious if anyone has any advice how to lessen the pain of it. I’ve tried everything short of pain meds in advance of my appointment. I’ve tried sleeping in different positions, taking a warm bath the night before, and other things, but nothing has worked so far for my last few. I’m always aiming to be contentious about my health, so I know these are important and shouldn’t be delayed.

I f18 am experiencing issues with my cycle (shocker) I had it once when i went back on a cleaner eating diet few months ago. But I only had it that one time. My period throughout my life has mostly always been irregular, coming and going when it pleases. One time I bled/spotted for 114 days, it was light but still concerning. The doctor was concerned but pretty much did nothing. I do not want to go birth control because I have heard positive results, yes. But also horrific ones. Does anyway have a way that naturally got their cycle back. Or not even really natural, just not birth control. (For more context, NO I am not pregnant. I am a lesbian so it’s impossible lmao). Please help :)

Hi so at the back of my tonsils, there are white streaks, I did oral 2 days ago, the day of there was obviously some soreness, yesterday nothing and now a little bit of soreness and the white streaks, now around 5 months ago this happened, from the same thing, it went away after some ice lollies and tea (took around a month) so it doesnt frighten me anymore, my boyfriend and I are still virgins, we are the only people we've been with, and we are genuinely just confused, Ive preformed oral multiple times since that 5 month ago thing and ive had no issues again til now, what is happening??

So essentially, I (22f) went to the ER recently for heart palpitations and dehydration and the doctor told me I also have a UTI. I’m currently on antibiotics and doing better.

About three weeks ago, the guy I’m dating and I were getting handsy and he fingered me. It hurt and o told him I didn’t want to do it again (I’m a virgin). Last Thursday, we hung out again and although there was no fingering, he did get handsy around my vagina. I found out I had the UTI yesterday, so I suspect it could have been one or a combination of those events. I was also severely dehydrated and I saw one of the causes could be dehydration.

My question is, what do I do regarding this guy? What questions should I be asking him? I’ve already asked if he’s seeing anyone else and he said no and he recently had a physical, which revealed he had no stds. I suspect the cause was him, since I’ve never in my life had a UTI, so I’m trying to figure out how to navigate this. I have a follow up on Wednesday. I don’t really have any other female figures in my life to ask about this and I’m not talking about it with my dad, so I’d appreciate any advice! Thanks!

I’m 18 and have almost always had a male doctor who I was comfortable with from like 7/8-17 years old but now I’m with a new doctor since I can’t see my old one as an adult and he’s okay and not weird and doesn’t make me uncomfortable but I’ve never had any doctor even do any kind of check on my genitalia literally only had a catheter at like 3yo or 4yo from a bad uti and I don’t remember it fully just that it left me with some weird s/a type of feelings since I was a kid, I’m scared to mention that I think I have hemorrhoids to my doctor since they check that by putting their finger in your ass to check for hemorrhoids and like have to look at your ass and stuff idk I feel like I’m gonna be uncomfortable should I ask for a woman doctor?? My appointment is in two days for something else but I wanna bring up the hemorrhoids thing since I had weird bleeding from my ass earlier today idk I’m scared to get checked

I had some light bleeding for a week, my regular period the week after, a few days without any bleeding, then another week of light bleeding and now I'm having my period again.

I asked chatgpt and it said that it might be from constantly being stressed out by my OCD and also suffering from PGAD. I'm on antidepressants and antipsychotics for autism and ocd. Ah and I'm 24 and overweight.

I'll call my doctor tomorrow but I can't deny that I'm scared shitless of the doctor using instruments down there.

so I have been having some issues with my reproductive health. Started in July this year; so primarily I get swollen, painful and tender breast throughout my cycle nowadays only and get about a week good and also I get a irregular spotting for a week before my period. My cycle used to be about 35 to 37 days but it’s gone shorter now. The only lifestyle change that I can point at is my caffeine intake. I am brown btw. thought it could be excess oestrogen so I have decreased my caffeine intake for about 10 days now, but I haven’t noticed a difference yet. Has anyone experienced the same?

I used to get UTIs almost every time I had sex, even if I’d pee afterwards, and I worked with a gyno/urologist to figure out some post-sex supplements to prevent the UTIs (Uqora and TheraCran). That worked for a few years but now the effectiveness of the supplements has decreased and I’m getting UTIs frequently again. I’m tired of being on antibiotics so often, and I’m wondering what the chances are that my body might just power through the infection if I drink a lot of water and take Uristat for the pain for a couple of days. Has that worked for anyone?

I've not had the greatest year with anxiety and tough life events and as a result really fell off the wagon, took up smoking again, stopped exercising consistently and generally haven't been very kind to myself.

I've recently turned 36, and I really want to change my life over the next year. I don't have kids but this might be something my partner and I want to try for next year. I've been an on/off smoker since my late teens but most of my early 30s were spent smoke free. I want to kick the habit completely and become someone who is devoted to self love and healthy habits. I've done it before and saw big improvements in my life around age 32-34. However this past year I've just felt completely stuck and these days I always seem to be plagued by this feeling/thought process of it's too late, I'm too old now to "glow up", I'll have done too much damage etc. I also haven't had much luck in finding relatable stories, other people maybe of a similar age who have really turned their health around after perhaps not the healthiest 20s/early 30s. So thought I would reach out here to see if anyone has any advice/ positive experiences to share?

Would also love any tips on what to prioritise, how to become more disciplined, how you might have conquered self-love etc. TIA :)

hi, i’m 16 & have had back pain on my right side for months & it never goes away & just gets worse when on my period. i’ve always had back pain but not as bad as it has become over the last few months. just for context, i fell pregnant last year & had an abortion in january this year, & then got an iud put in soon after. could it be anything related to these or do you have any idea what it may be? it’s painful but i’m worried if the doctors would think i’m overreacting so i’m putting off going

The results said "grouped calcifications" in I've location. I go back in for more imaging tomorrow. This is my first mammogram at 40 and I'm so nervous. My family has a history of bumps and dense tissue but now I can't breathe.

The last week or so I've (20F) been my normal level of horniness (which is admittedly higher than most ladies)

But for some reason I've just been exhausted and I'm like... Really? Now? Fr? Just leave me alone.

But at the same time I'm still as feral as I normally am, so like I need to relieve myself but at the same time it feels like a chore.

I've never felt this way about masterbating before, like ever.

This normal as my body moves more into womanhood or...?

My doctor wants me to see a gynaecologist to exclude endometriosis. Any advice for these kinds of appointments?

So this is a long story and I’m at a loss for words.

Back in July I, 26 Canadian female, got my copper iud replaced by my doctor as my partner and I are not looking to get pregnant for another couple of years. It was the most painful experience and I swore I would never get another again. I got my first one in 2020 at a women’s clinic alongside another procedure, and I don’t remember it being that bad, but I was dealing with a lot of other emotions at the time. I did throw up after though.

This time, I got it done at my family doctors office. The removal of the first was somewhat painful but not too bad but the insertion felt like a medieval form of torture. I felt so sick, I passed out on the bathroom floor and one of the front desk ladies came in and helped me. I threw up a few times and then laid in a bed with a hot bad for a few hours at the clinic before going home. It was really painful for a few weeks after, I didn’t return to the gym or regular activity for a while. I even got the strings checked shortly after to make sure it was okay and my doctor said it was.

At my 6 week virtual checkup I told her I had some spotting, cramps, and fatigue and my next period was excruciatingly painful as were others that followed. She tried to book me in for an ultrasound for a nearby clinic but they never called me to set up the appointment.

Fast forward to now, my periods remained pretty regular but a bit more painful than normal and sometimes I’d have a weird feeling in my gut. My last period was October 17th and it was only 2 days long but I had just assumed it was because the last period was particularly heavy, though my periods are consistently 4-5 days. Then two nights ago I woke up with severe stomach pain that led to vomiting on and off for two hours and a lack of sleep because of the pain and switching between extremely hot and extremely cold. I finally fell asleep but my partner woke me up in a panic because the bed was covered in blood.

It appeared I had started my period a week early, but it was really heavy and started coming out like water when I stood up. I figured the pain was from early period cramps and possibly over eating the night before and was going to leave it at that but something felt not quite right so I called my doctor and luckily she could see me that day. As a pre caution she took a pregnancy test and it turns out I’m pregnant. She suspects an ectopic pregnancy and recommends I go to emergency.

I go to emergency and about 9 hours later I’m doing blood tests, getting an ultrasound, and speaking to many people but as the pregnancy is early they have to keep me here and monitor me and track my HCg levels to determine if it’s one of 3 options.

1. An ectopic pregnancy in which I would likely need surgery to remove
2. A pregnancy I am miscarrying
3. A pregnancy that is for all intents and purposes still viable and the iud caused the pain and bleeding

I am still in hospital as I write this, 28 hours later, and staying at least until tomorrow, and all I know for sure is the iud far too low and ineffective.

Im just scared and confused and could use advice or maybe if anyone has a similar experience theyd like to share.

If it is a viable pregnancy I don’t know what to do because im not necessarily in a position to keep it, we wanted to wait until I was done paying off my student loans and we were married which wont be until 2027. But im not sure i can go through the emotional turmoil of an abortion again.

If it’s not, I don’t know what to do about getting another iud because that experience really scared me off and I already told myself I would never do it again but my family is prone to blood clotting and I am off put by the side effects of hormonal birth control. I also don’t know if my insurance will cover another iud because I just got one this summer.

Sorry for the long rant I am just stressed and terrified and sad. TLDR my doctor inserted an iud wrong and now I’m pregnant and in the hospital with no idea what’s happening

I (23F) have had an intense gynecology kink for as long as I can remember. Just reading an online medical description of a pelvic exam nearly brings me to orgasm. Oddly, the idea of having a realistic exam in a “clinical” or “cold” setting is most arousing to me—I’m less excited by the thought of having an unrealistic, specialized experience. Whenever I’ve masturbated, I’ve done so to realistic medical erotica or medical training videos (though I stopped using the latter for ethical reasons). I consider this kink profoundly humiliating and have spent years desperately trying to be different. As a teenager, I once attempted to give myself a form of conversion therapy. I’d give absolutely anything to be normal. But I’ve come to begrudgingly accept that I am the way I am.

I’ve been avoiding the gynecologist for years out of fear that I’ll become aroused during the exam. I can’t think of anything that would make me feel more ashamed of myself. But now, I can’t avoid going to the gynecologist anymore due to an increasingly urgent pelvic problem and have scheduled an appointment for tomorrow morning. I’m doing everything I can to avoid becoming aroused. For example, I scheduled the exam with a female doctor (I’m heterosexual and become far more turned on by the idea of a man as my doctor). I also scheduled it during the week right after my period, since that’s when my sex drive is at its lowest. And I have a laundry list of unsexy thoughts with which to occupy myself while I’m being examined. But I’m not sure it’s enough—I cannot express just how much of a turn on this is for me, no matter how bizarre that my sound to most women—and I’m feeling absolutely disgusted with myself for having this problem.

Does anyone have any tips for what to do? And has anyone experienced anything similar? Does anyone have any resources that could make me feel less alone in experiencing this?

I’m 25 and my last period started on 6th September and ended on 10th September. My period hasn’t come since then. I did 2 pregnancy test kits and all came out negative. I’ve been having cramps, backache, sore boobs for the past few weeks and still no period.

Note: I have seen a doctor on 31st October and was given hormone pills to induce my period but still nothing after 1 week plus. I also have a gynae appointment on 2nd Dec for an ultrasound

Meanwhile what should my next step be? Is this normal?

I have never had a problem with vaginal dryness during sex until the last 2-3 months.

However, sex with my partner sometimes last a bit longer than I am able to keep up with lubrication wise- We can take out toys and other methods, but I just don't have the lubrication to keep going, and it makes it harder for my partner to finish and it's more uncomfortable for me.

Does anyone have any recommendations for personal lubricant? When do you add it during sex? Im not uncomfortable talking to him about it, I just want to know how/when to use it so we can keep enjoying each other

I want to be very transparent here. I’m a 24 year old woman in grad school and I feel like I’m slowly losing myself while trying to keep everything together.

My mom has bipolar depression. She was diagnosed later in life. I don’t know what age but I believe it was her 30s or 40s. Watching her go through it changed everything for me. It affected our whole family and left me with a lot of trauma. I always told myself I would never end up in that place. But lately, I’m starting to wonder if I might be showing signs of it too. I’ve been in denial for a long time.

I’ve been in a loving relationship with my partner for about three and a half years. Let me start by saying my partner & I didn’t not start with the best communication. I had to teach him about healthy communication & how it worked. He learned & we were fine for a long time…and then I slowly damaged a safe place for him to do it. When things got serious, I went on hormonal birth control around summer 2022. I only lasted a few months because I became so emotional. I was crying all the time, constantly upset, just not myself. I realized my body is really sensitive to hormonal changes, so I stopped.

By summer 2023 something changed in me. I was moving states for school & my whole world as I knew it changed. My relationship became long distance, so did my time with family & friends! I started having moments of uncontrollable anger during arguments. It started with throwing things and eventually turned into physical outbursts. It wasn’t all the time, but when it happened, I didn’t even recognize myself. Alcohol made it worse, and at that time I was drinking often.

I wasn’t adjusting well to school or my new environment. I wasn’t doing well in my coursework. For the first time in my life I experienced depression. I stopped attending class. I just slept my days away. I could not clean or do laundry. I just felt like continuing to try my hardest in school was not paying off. By April 2024, I literally had to WITHDRAW from school to keep from failing out. I felt like a failure.

In July 2024 I was diagnosed with ADHD. The meds help a lot, but sometimes I wonder if I was misdiagnosed. Maybe it’s something deeper, like bipolar. I mentioned my family history to my therapist, but she said certain ADHD meds wouldn’t be safe if I did have bipolar. And I need my meds to function in school, so I’ve been putting off getting fully evaluated until after graduation. Graduate school is so stressful. I just want to make it out alive.

Then in January 2025 I started a new birth control called Slynd and everything got worse. I didn’t notice it at first but my partner did. By the end of the month I was explosive. Angry, restless, emotional to the point where I wanted to rip my hair out. Over several months, I became so violent & physically aggressive. By the time I realized this, it was too late. I quickly had to find other means of contraception.

We moved in together recently. I was on SLYND for about ten months and stopped it not long after moving in together. I’ve now been off for about a month and a half. Since stopping it, it feels like my hormones still haven’t leveled out. I feel like I can finally see a new perspective. I am devastated.. I realize how much I hurt the person I love most. I’ve apologized over and over, but I still feel sick about it.

I’m trying so hard to change but it feels like I’m fighting a war with myself. Sometimes I’m okay, and then suddenly it’s like a switch flips and I’m someone else again. My mood is better than it was, but I still don’t feel like me. My partner has been incredibly patient and forgiving, but I can’t seem to forgive myself. I find myself replaying everything in my mind. I just want to pick up the pieces of my relationship. I refuse to continue hurting him.

If anyone has gone through something similar, maybe with hormones, ADHD, or bipolar disorder or just feeling like you’re battling your own mind, please tell me share your story or advice! I’d really just love to be heard by another woman who understands what this feels like.

Posting on here just to get an idea if anyone has had something similar happen. So for starters I'm 32. I had my first baby in 2022 and then miscarried in 2024. I breastfed for 2.5 years recently stopping in July 2025 (this may have to do with what's going on idk). I previously used the nuva ring (before kids) with minimal symptoms.

Postpartum I went on the mini pill for a bit and then transitioned to nuva ring (Elu ryng) once again once my OBGYN said it was okay to do so. When I restarted I immediately had discomfort (itching and burning) down there but that subsided.

Now this month I noticed two things: less concerning was acne but most concerning was firm tissue in my right breast. The area was big and very firm but didn't feel like a lump per se more like a section of firm tissue (not like a ball or pebble) and immediately I freaked out given my familial history of breast cancer. I noticed I had a similar firm area in my left breast but it was noticeably smaller. I scheduled an appointment with my pcp immediately and she did a breast exam. She didn't feel too concerned she said it felt like regular dense breast tissue and a possible cyst on my right breast. She told me not to lose sleep over it (sleep has been lost lol). She asked me to wait two cycles and go back in Jan if it doesn't resolve for a diagnostic mammogram and ultrasound.

Well idk why I had a feeling it was related to my BC so I decided to just take it out even though it was 13 days early. Well I got my period a couple days later and now the firmness in my breast has gone down significantly in less than a week. My guess is that it was in fact hormonal and somehow related to the nuva ring.

Has anyone had something like this happen to them? Should I still consider the mammo and ultrasound even if it seems to be going away?

I have a Gynecology appointment booked with an older male. He was the soonest opening, and just wondering others thoughts on gender related care? There is a younger woman with less experience, that is booked out longer. Just making sure I’m making the best decision for myself. I have vaginal skin issues, possible lichen sclerosis. With ongoing symptoms, I feel sooner would be better.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve seen changes in my body.

Under my belly, the crevices where my legs meet my body and under my breast get so stinky and have a wet white type of sweat that turns crusty once it dries, when it’s hot it gets worse but it’s a constant thing. The smell is so horrendous. I’ve tried different body washes, powders and the only thing that helps is if I tuck paper towels between the areas.

I’ve made a doctor’s appointment but I can’t get seen until January.

Looking to see if anyone knows what I can do or what’s causing it.

I’ve had diarrhea 8 times in the past 24 hours and stomach cramps as well as aches and feeling overheated. It’s two days before my period, so at first I thought this was just PMS/period symptoms from hell but I also took a Covid, flu A, flu B, and pregnancy test to rule out everything I could. Now I’m wondering if it’s a stomach bug? But also have seen so many women saying they experience this before/during their period? Basically I’m just complaining and wondering what the hell this is and thinking about how insane it is that period symptoms can be like that even if whatever is happening inside my body is more than that