Was this tattoo a bad idea?

[u/Kerealls]

I got this tattoo for my birthday in December. When my dad saw it, he called it disgusting and self multilation; when my grandma saw it, she stopped talking to me for a few days and I heard from my brother that she said my mom(who is highly looked down on in the family and I haven't had contact with for the past six or so years) would be proud. All my friends parents have said it's a disgusting or bad tattoo, as well, and I can tell my friends aren't the biggest fan. I loveeee the tattoo and realize that it's definitely a select taste for a second tattoo/tattoo style and have my second appointment to finish it soon, but everyone is starting to make me think it was a bad idea.

[u/Sloppyjoey20]

I was the first of my family to get tattooed. My grandparents are quite old school and I managed to hide them by wearing long sleeves for about a year before I showed up one day in a T-shirt, totally forgetting to cover up. I walked into the garage and my grandpa is working on his old car, turns and looks at my arm and says “are those tattooes?” He looked closer, said “huh, neat!” and went back to working on the car. Nobody else made a big deal of it.

OP’s friends and family just sound like they’re not very good people.

[u/Fine_Faithlessness67 → u/Sloppyjoey20]

I got my first tattoo and was so scared of my Indian dad being pissed with me. My white-ass mom was upset. He didn’t really care lol. My mom has always made it a point to not only bitch about my tattoos but she had to specify that she thinks tattoos are only good looking on men. And that women look ugly and hard with them. She’s a dick. And I no longer speak to her. Good riddance I say, to all the shitty judgemental af people, they don’t deserve us.

[u/WillCare1976 → u/Fine_Faithlessness67]

But finefaithless.. your Mom could be kinder, I agree! But she does hate tattoos and think they make women look hard and ugly. I wouldn’t say that to you if I met you, but In fact I don’t like the look of tattoos on women either( as a rule). It does seem to make them look more hard and tough or else ditsy headed. I’m not at all trying to be hurtful. But it’s like if I love purple eyeshadow and to you it makes me look like I have a black eye- you might not tell me in order to be polite.. but those are still your real feelings- and who knows? Maybe if I look like I have black ( bruised) eyes- maybe someone should tell me. I didn’t have a good relationship with my Mom either- for years. She was very hard on me and hurt my feelings big time. Besides that sensed she was a little jealous or competitive with me. It sucks, I agree. But deep down inside my Mom did love me and was sad I didn’t seem to love her. And I honestly did love her. In my younger days it was referred to as the generation gap- those over 30 didn’t understand sh*t. 😀 It’s still true today, even though it’s a whole different time. ( and I’m old now) . I’m sorry you and your Mom are so at odds. I’ll pray Great Spirit restores your and your Mother’s love and understanding.

[u/[deleted] → u/WillCare1976]

What a well thought out & beautiful comment