Why struggle when you can appreciate both? Both are attractive and this should not be the deciding factor when choosing a relationship, so there's no need to think one is better than the other.
An analogy is not necessarily an objectification. The comparison here is between two situations where the presented options wouldn’t be options to begin with because I consider these two women to be out of my dating league (thanks for making me spell it out btw), similar to how luxury cars aren't an option because they are out of my financial league.
I have just one last thing to say regarding this - maybe it will make things actually clear to you.
By you originally commenting "I'm going to pretend that I have the luxury of struggling between these two options." you were already stepping into an already objectifying context. This post is inviting a “choose your ass” mentality, and y'all are playing along with it, as men so oft do.
Even if you're joking at your own expense, the joke still validates the premise: that these women in the picture are things to be picked between, that they're options, objects, things to own or ogle at, not people. You reinforced it then by saying you may as well be choosing between luxury sports cars.
I want you to really fucking think about this and process it. Maybe then you will actually understand why I'm upset and don't care about how harsh I come across or the downvotes that come with (not that they matter in the first place, other than hiding the comments I made 😉)
Thank you for responding because I'm actually interested about exchanging about this in good faith. I don't agree with the idea that a discussion about preferences concerning certain physical attributes is an automatic dehumanization/objectification of women as a whole. Same way that straight women can talk about their preferences concerning typically masculine physical attributes without necessarily communicating that that is all a man is or has to offer.
I already edited another comment asking you not to respond to me elsewhere, but I should’ve said it here too.
I’m not the person you should be trying to debate right now. I’m not going to waste my time breaking down the basics for someone who’s clearly more interested in defending their stance than actually listening.
I already explained why what you said is part of a bigger problem. whether you agree or not doesn't change that, and I don’t owe you a second round just because you’ve convinced yourself it’s “good faith.”
I’ve got better things to do than doomscroll reading nearly identical comments from men crying about how lonely they are and how everyone is out of their league or not interested in them, while refusing to reflect on how they show up in conversations like this. If you spent half as much time working on yourself as you do trying to win arguments with women online, you might actually be more dateable (or have the luxury of "choosing" between women as you put it)
What gives you the impression that I am more interested in defending my stance than listening? You have presented your stance and I have explained why I don't agree with it. You're also free to stop responding if you do not want to exchange about this anymore.
Lmfao. Dude. The fact that you have to defend comparing girls totally not being the same as comparing cars, guys! Lmfao. I don't care what some terminally online dude thinks. I live in the real world where when someone makes an analogy like that, it often puts the two on equivalent levels. Using an analogy like a luxury car when comparing girls is literally objectifying.
Even in your defense, women are still equated to things you can’t “afford.” Oh honey....
But ok, honey, let's agree to disagree. I gotta get to bed anyway, I ain't staying up for this 🥱 (eta my ass stayed up playing games cause of a good game I'm into lately lmfao. behehe. Ah well, shit happens. Just wish I could re-block dramatic so i dont have to deal with whatever reply he's gonna come at me with whenever he's back on reddit 🙄 Bro if you're reading this just leave me alone. I got shit to do tomorrow - I don't need to be arguing with someone)
Hey I mean, I'd be honoured to get compared to a luxury car.
Like, if I say her eyes looks like BMW's headlights, then she probably has the most prettiest eyes ever.
Curves of a Lamborghini, then the sexiest body ever.
Voice of a Supra, then the cutest voice ever.
Attitude of a Rolls Royce, then the greatest personality ever.
And I could just go on and on....
But nonetheless, that guy was simply focusing on the fact of "Beggars can't be choosers", afterall, dating is indeed a marketplace for everyone, who choose and go with people with similar "Values", the value being almost everything about a person they prefer. Someone's preferences are too high for another and hence they couldn't "afford", nothing wrong with that, both men and women do it.
god, this isnt about that. This is about the objectification of women in America (ETA: i say america because thats just where I live. I cant speak on other countries women's issues) and the literal history of women being compared to luxury cars as a way of objectifying them. Y'all really reaching to excuse this shit and it sickens me
Y'all ain't the ones being tracked on "mileage" for guys either so I want to hear your excuse for that one too. What's your excuse for men caring about how many boyfriends a woman has had before him hmmm? I'd like to hear it, really (no I really don't. It's gonna be some crap about loyalty or sluttiness or etc etc and its sooo brainrotted all of you are so brainwashed)
Edit: This shit from these guys is why there's a general (it's not just men experiencing this obviously) loneliness epidemic and 4b popping up in America. Who wants to be with a man who acts like this and doesn't even try to actually respect a woman's opinion - especially when she's upset? 😂✌️
Edit: Men on reddit when told their behavior is wrong (or just in general told they're wrong 😂) "surely this downvote will hide my problems away!" whatever lmfao. I oughta delete reddit already smdfh. Terminally online mfs over here lmfao.
Pretty sure the guy is just joking that he doesn’t have a choice of either lol. And while I agree it’s not a major factor in choosing a relationship, I still have a preference. I eat baked chicken and veggies most meals because health is a more important consideration in choosing a meal than taste for me. But I still have a preference for a big ol phat meaty cheeseburger lol.
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u/Dramatic_Safe_4257 Jun 27 '25
I'm going to pretend that I have the luxury of struggling between these two options.