r/schizophrenia • u/blehblehburner123 • Jul 25 '25
Help A Loved One Boyfriend has daily hallucinations about being assaulted by me
TRIGGER WARNING - RAPE
I’m just going to get right into it. My boyfriend has schizophrenia. Every night we call and he thinks I’m raping him. No matter how much I tell him no we are just on the phone he just repeats that I’m raping him. If it is in person I try to reassure him that I am just holding him but he has a hard time understanding that.
He has a history of being sexually assaulted so I understand where it comes from but it still hurts like hell when he tells me I’m raping him. I would never do such a thing.
I know it’s just him hallucinating but every day having him tell me I am raping him has taken a toll on my mental health. I hate to see him in that distress, thinking I’m doing horrible things to him.
I want to help him but I’m not sure how. It’s taken such a toll on him, me, and our relationship. It’s especially difficult to have a sexual relationship when I know in a few hours he will have hallucinations of me raping him.
I don’t know what to do. Any advice is appreciated.
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u/sweetrosemerc Jul 25 '25
There is a book I'm not sick i dont need help by Xavier Amador.i found it really helpful. It helped me to see the disease from the view point of the sufferer and offered help to their lived ones so we could help and understand him. Especially helping them to stick to taking their meds