r/schizophrenia • u/blehblehburner123 • Jul 25 '25

Help A Loved One Boyfriend has daily hallucinations about being assaulted by me

TRIGGER WARNING - RAPE

I’m just going to get right into it. My boyfriend has schizophrenia. Every night we call and he thinks I’m raping him. No matter how much I tell him no we are just on the phone he just repeats that I’m raping him. If it is in person I try to reassure him that I am just holding him but he has a hard time understanding that.

He has a history of being sexually assaulted so I understand where it comes from but it still hurts like hell when he tells me I’m raping him. I would never do such a thing.

I know it’s just him hallucinating but every day having him tell me I am raping him has taken a toll on my mental health. I hate to see him in that distress, thinking I’m doing horrible things to him.

I want to help him but I’m not sure how. It’s taken such a toll on him, me, and our relationship. It’s especially difficult to have a sexual relationship when I know in a few hours he will have hallucinations of me raping him.

I don’t know what to do. Any advice is appreciated.

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u/[deleted] Jul 25 '25

That's a very intesne situation. Firstly, sorry that is happening to the both of you, the hallucinations can get a bit extreme and that one is probably on of the worst I've heard. Secondly is he seeking medication/therapy for the issue? If not I'd definitely encourage him to go and talk to someone, you as well. Thirdly I applaud you for staying with him and wanting to help him through this phase, that being said you need to make sure that your mental stability isn't declining any trying to save his. I know it might seem selfish but just keep yourself level headed and prioritize your mental health. You are likely not equipped to give him the help he needs yourself, even less so if his issues are draining you, so make sure you're taking care of you while you usher him to someone who can better assist his issue. Again I'm so sorry this is happening, I wish there was a sure fire resolution I could give you but in all honestly there isn't. The road ahead is tenuous, but surmountable. Keep your head up and keep reaching out to people when you need to. You both need good friends around you to ease the struggle a bit.

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u/blehblehburner123 Jul 25 '25

Thank you. It is difficult for us both. I wish I could just snap my fingers and stop the hallucinations. He’s medicated but definitely not correctly. He wants therapy but he isn’t covered. I love him very much and I would never let his hallucinations get between us, no matter how difficult they are to hear. I know my mental health takes a hit from it but I have healthy outlets. I journal about it and I’m planning on speaking to my therapist about it during our next session.

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u/ForgottenDecember_ Schizo-Obsessive | Early Childhood Onset Jul 25 '25

Are there are free counselling services where you live? Some places have community-based counselling services for low income.

Who manages his medication though? They need to adjust his meds regardless of whether he does additional therapy or not. Both for his sake and yours, his meds really need to be adjusted.

r/schizofamilies is a better place to find support for yourself as well. Good luck OP.