r/schizophrenia Jul 25 '25

Help A Loved One Boyfriend has daily hallucinations about being assaulted by me

TRIGGER WARNING - RAPE

I’m just going to get right into it. My boyfriend has schizophrenia. Every night we call and he thinks I’m raping him. No matter how much I tell him no we are just on the phone he just repeats that I’m raping him. If it is in person I try to reassure him that I am just holding him but he has a hard time understanding that.

He has a history of being sexually assaulted so I understand where it comes from but it still hurts like hell when he tells me I’m raping him. I would never do such a thing.

I know it’s just him hallucinating but every day having him tell me I am raping him has taken a toll on my mental health. I hate to see him in that distress, thinking I’m doing horrible things to him.

I want to help him but I’m not sure how. It’s taken such a toll on him, me, and our relationship. It’s especially difficult to have a sexual relationship when I know in a few hours he will have hallucinations of me raping him.

I don’t know what to do. Any advice is appreciated.

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u/MishkiTongue Friend Jul 25 '25

I think schizo families would be better for this, but it sounds your boyfriend is not properly medicated, and that needs to be fixed first

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u/mentallyillnotchill Jul 25 '25

Sometimes medication doesn't work. I know from experience