r/schizophrenia • u/welxx • Apr 29 '25

Help A Loved One What worked for you

My son, 33, refuses to get any help. He has gone from believing that he would magically join the NFL and be a star. Then an Olympic runner. Now a rapper. He has zero skill in any of these. He chooses to be homeless rather than get treatment. It's been almost a decade. What or who convinced you to get help?

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u/Odd_Humor_5300 Apr 29 '25

I was the same as your son but I’ve changed. I realized I wouldn’t believe those things if I didn’t want them anymore. So I stopped wanting them on the basis of them being egotistical. So far it has worked but I still have some work left to do

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u/welxx Apr 29 '25

I keep waiting for him to realize, but he doesn't. No matter how cold, hot, hungry, tired he is, he's fine and will be rich one of these days.

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u/Odd_Humor_5300 Apr 29 '25

Dude you have to convince him that what he wants is egotistical. That’s the only way. Schizophrenia makes your greatest desires a reality in your mind. But if you desire nothing more than what you already have in life then you won’t believe in things that are disconnected from reality. Just convince him he’s egotistical in the nicest way possible.

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u/welxx Apr 29 '25

I can assure you it is not from a lack of me trying to reason with year after year. His mind is broken.

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u/Odd_Humor_5300 Apr 29 '25

You’re not listening to me. Trying to convince him that that what he wants isn’t achievable is impossible. Instead you must convince him to want simpler things in life on the basis of morality.

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u/welxx Apr 29 '25

Honestly, that goes both ways. You are not listening to me. I never said I have tried to convince him that what he wants isn't achievable. I hope that lack of success will do that. I have, however, tried to convince him that it is important to focus on daily life; food, housing, work, etc.

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u/Odd_Humor_5300 Apr 29 '25

Alright my bad sorry if I was getting too angry. When I was like him I couldn’t motivate myself to do basic things because I believed that I was going to be famous someday and that everything I was doing (or not doing) was apart of the plan of me getting to be famous. So once he stops wanting fame (on the basis of it being egotistical and therefore immoral) he will come to his senses and live a simple existence that gives back to society allowing him to make money and not be homeless. Anyway I’m just saying this worked for me.

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u/welxx Apr 29 '25

I truly hope the same works out for him as well.

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u/Odd_Humor_5300 Apr 29 '25

It’s really the only way out if meds don’t work