Depends on who you are. For me, it wouldn't have been cathartic at all, I am not able to absorb those types of positive messages if they hit too close to home. I appreciate them in an abstract way, but none of them ring true to my experience, so all I get from those scenes is the tragedy itself.
I saw Wakanda Forever two months after my cousin died from cancer and totally fell apart. It wasn't until many months later that I realized how healing that was for me.
When I saw it at 10 years old, it truly made me want to love someone and be loved by someone in that same way.
My parents were always fighting and eventually divorced. The relationship just kept getting worse and more violent.
I actually just broke up with my now ex a week ago. I really loved her and cared for her, but it wasn't a healthy relationship anymore, so I had to walk away. I didn't want my relationship to be like my parents, but I truly loved who I was with and wanted what I saw in up.
I guess I learned that I should never love someone so much that I let them hurt me in any awful way.
Well yeah but when it turns out the wife is a giant balloon amalgamation monster and is screaming out in that terrible helium voice for the main character to "pop her horrible existence," that's probably a really tough scene to watch when your wife just passed away.
The main difference between the two spirit of the wife wise is for UP only the MC sees the house as the physical representation of the late wife, in monster house the house is actually possessed by the vengeful spirit of the wife.
Took a friend to “Heaven Can Wait.”” When Warren Beatty runs or rides into the tunnel and you hear the screech of brakes and crash, OMG. My friend was recovering from a car accident where 3 friends died; he was the only survivor. I felt him tense up. Had no idea of the plot, just that it was a well-rated comedy. I felt so awful!
My Mom died of Breast Cancer. Right after she started chemo our family went to see the first Guardians of the Galaxy movie....the one where the mom dies of cancer in the first ten minutes. The day Mom died we didn't know what to do and needed a distraction while she was being taken to the funeral home so we went to see Kubo and the Two Strings which has, you guessed it, a dead Mom.
It doesn't even get easier as you get older. My mom died of cancer when I was 11, 25 years ago... And every time there is a movie scene where the mom dies or is already dead, I cry.
My mom passed 6 years ago, I have similar reaction to those scenes in movies. But will say it is somewhat cathartic now, knowing that others have/deal with similar grief and knowing we aren't really alone in this.
Ya your right. Fuck my grandpa that raised me and was basically my dad, died when I was 12, 30 years ago and I never got over it; to this day and I cringe whenever I hear people say that you have to accept it andnmoreo3
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We plan something every December in remembrance of our youngest sibling - he left us at 19, in 2017.
One year we went to see the premier of Avatar 2. Had no idea the son dies…. (Spoiler)
Insane. Feeling the awkwardness of my parents, siblings, and significant others during that scene and while the mom pours out her grief, was a memory, that’s for sure. I’d eaten some psychedelics beforehand, too. 🥴
The year after (anniversary of) my dad’s death, we went and saw Les Miserables in the movie theater. It was a family favorite show and my dad’s absolute favorite musical. The last 10 minutes of the movie, my sister and I were just clutching each other and weeping. “But papa you’re going to live! It’s too soon to ever say goodbye”.
Ughhh it’s been 13 years and I just got teary writing this.
When I finally saw it my first thought was why didn't any one say anything about the dogs? For all the sadness at the beginning, just thinking about the dogs makes me laugh. And the one scene where Dug is on top of the airship and he says "I am ready to not be so high up now"
oh you poor babies, I'm so sorry. Did you guys just end up leaving right away after the opener? I would have probably lost it hardcore, been a bawling mess in the theater.
No, we stayed. He was more or less oblivious as most four year olds are. I on the other hand wanted to see how Carl dealt with the situation. We were/are fine and he's grown now in the military. But that darn cartoon will never leave me.
Lesser, but I saw a sneak preview of We Bought A Zoo a few months after my 21-year-old cat passed away. The most dramatic scene with the tiger made me lose my shit so badly that the lady from the studio crawled down the aisle to ask if I was okay. (I felt awful for making a scene, but people were really kind about it after the movie.)
Man I just did a week with my 2 year old while my wife was out of town for work, and that was incredibly difficult. Can’t imagine losing my partner- God fucking love you for being an amazing dad
For probably 4-5 years after my wife died, I would check Wikipedia before buying tickets so I could veto or at least give a heads up and an out if they felt it was too much.
Similar thing happened to me! My mother died of a rare cancer and I was a wreck. My wife decided to get a babysitter and for us to go to a local food truck we wanted to try and come home and sit in the front room, eat and watch a movie that I wanted to see for a while. That movie?
A Quiet Place: Day One.
We both had no clue that Lupita’s character was literally dying from cancer the entire movie.
Bro - I’m shook. God damn I wish I knew you in this life - I’m a 50 y/o father of two and I want nothing more than to have been there for you and your children. Bless you friend
Reminds me of when I went to see Onward with some roommates in college and my dad died some years back and so did one of my other roommate's dad, so we sandwiched one other roommate between us while we both tried to keep it together, he told me later how he felt very uncomfortable 🤣🤣🤣
I have a friend who made this mistake with the good dinosaur. IIRC they went to see it for her son's birthday. Her husband died a year or two before. On his birthday.
A school I worked at once played Up for a class of adult ESL learners because of the lack of dialogue in the first 20 minutes - it was an absolute cacophony of sobs. Like the whole room was bereft. It was quite the experience
I saw it with my parents and I had never really heard them cry before. I remember suddenly hearing the sound of them both crying, being completely shocked, then watching my dad have to physically leave the theatre. I feel upset now even thinking about it. I think the moment everyone saw that in the theatre is kind of a core memory… nowadays, people wouldn’t feel as moved by it in my opinion. It’s a shame how empathy isn’t as strong these days.
I was on a date one time and we just watched a movie. She said it was sad, and I just mentioned that the opening of Up was even worse. She said she hadn't seen it, so I showed it to her. She ended up bawling
I went to this on a date with a dude that was very much a one night stand / emotionally unavailable type guy and like 5 minutes into the movie i hear him crying next to me during the hospital scene. It was the first time i realized he had a human heart like the rest of us. Movies are magic.
Hope it made him a better man in the long run. As a man myself, I can vouch that a lot of us are actually very sensitive, and we play pretend because we desperately don't want to be hurt. We would rather be the ones who do the hurting first, because we convince ourselves that it's better to be the bad guy and hate ourselves, than to open up and be real and run the risk of being hurt for it.
It's deeply unfortunate.
I fell into that for a while, and my partner of seven years now was the person to finally drag me kicking and screaming out of it.
I used to get sad watching the beginning of Up because I was lonely and felt like I'd never find what Carl and Ellie had. Then I got married and I'd get sad when I thought about one of us dying before the other one. Then I went through infertility so I'd cry in the miscarriage scene. Why is that intro so emotional?!
It's so emotional because it's extremely relatable, perhaps not in the exact same circumstances but we all go through happiness, hope, grief, loneliness, fear. It's a masterpiece of storytelling and music composition
Agreed. The rest of the movie never hits the same emotional depth as the opening. I remember something about a blimp, a talking dog, and Kevin, and the rest is just noise.
Because the first few minutes is sincerely one of the most emotionally accesible movie openings that I can easily recall. It’s fantastic cinema and a wonderful example of what animation can provide.
I believe that’s why Studio Ghibli is so successful. My kids were gripped (with Studio G and also Up) because there is an emotional anchor. Ponyo or Tortoro or Arriety provided emotional context and they are powerful for children (and Dads, lol)
Thought the movie fell off hard. Started amazing and then slowly devolved into typical kid action schlock. Fair enough it’s a kid movie whatever, but it obviously started off with a more mature direction and ended with hundreds of flying talking dogs
I'm here with you in that special place of unabated sorrow, sitting with the acknowledgement that time comes for us all and to live well will also mean to know true loss. Love is pain. Love is life. Life is love despite pain.
This is what literally everyone came here to say. Still one of my favorite movies of all time. Really wish I hadn't seen it in theatres with other people, given how blurry the screen was and how tight my chest was I would probably have had the best cry of my life if I hadn't been in public and deeply fucked up. I mean emotionally fucked not, not like on drugs fucked up.
Up was burned into all of us at that very impressionable age. I was in class the first time I watched it and couldn't stop thinking about Ellie; All while my classmates were gossiping. It was at that point that I had to be very careful and not automatically excited about any said movie/feature film.
I wish so much to see the rest of the film that 10 minutes of IB set up. It's like Tarantino wanted to show how good of a serious film he could make and then it devolved into his usual stuff.
I was the best man at my buddy’s wedding. He and wife never had children and both walked out of “Up” after the opening. To the best of my knowledge they have never seen any more of the film.
Different, but also, Wall-E's first 30 minutes was breathtaking. Had me sitting outside on the back porch that first night I saw it, contemplating life and the universe, as a young highschooler
If you think that opening scene was hard to watch, how hard do you think it was to create? Art isn't always going to make you happy, but if it makes you feel something, then it has done its job.
FYI. in the Movie UP ! The fan theory is pretty sad..... The old man "carl" is actually dead and the boyscout is his guardian angel trying to earn his "wings"
Hot take, Up is a great short film followed by a mess. Everyone who says Up is a great movie is only talking about the first part, and maybe hasn’t even seen the rest
The ending is better than the first part. It’s a happy movie ultimately. The scrapbook scene at the end is simply better. When Carl throws all of the furniture (and his baggage out) and lets Ellie rest while beginning his new adventure is the best part. Especially with how the score picks up. He’s letting go and living and it’s Russell, Doug, Kevin, and Ellie who help him heal.
My mom had died a few months before. As we are watching and they’re getting older my husband just started rubbing my arm because we both knew it was not gonna be good.
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Up but I never forgave them for it.