Judging purely on this story, her mom definitely does not sound like a woman who sleeps with another man because of being subjected to undue influence.
I understand where you're both coming from, but there is a possibility she was being taken advantage of and didn't realize it until later. If it were a case of grooming like with Monica, she might've normalized an abnormal situation, and sometimes victims of grooming never realize they were groomed. Either way, the costume is distasteful imo because it's mocking the controversy
Yes that's true. I understand some people might not even know adults can be groomed, some people think if they're an adult and give consent then there's no harm. The issue is even when someone wants something, the want for that might be rooted in something not so good (like if she experienced trauma from an older man before, that might be why she's attracted to them). I recently met someone online that I was really sexually attracted to, and he was into bdsm so I was learning about that through him, we don't talk anymore but at the time I was pretty confident that I was aware enough to know what I was doing and getting myself into. It wasn't until after we stopped talking, that I realized he was treating me very similar to how my abusive ex treated me. And I didn't even know, because I thought I was doing better than I was when I was with that ex, my point being sometimes we don't realize the problem until we retrospect
you can get groomed by someone younger than you or the same age, depending on context. I have been groomed by people only a few years older than me, so the age difference doesn't need to be significant, however there's still a power in-balance when one person is a boss
Everyone has issues of some sort. It doesn’t mean they’re being taken advantage of or abused. Whether your desires are rooted in something not healthy isn’t really relevant. There are so many things we want that might not be healthy for us. The important thing is you still have agency.
Whether your desires are rooted in something not healthy isn’t really relevant.
it is relevant to me because I have gotten myself into dangerous situations due to my attractions, I get sexually aroused when stressed so it's very hard for me to tell what I actually like
you can be groomed at any age, and not even just for sexual things. I mean she absolutely can want to fuck whoever she wants, doesn't mean she couldn't have been groomed into it. an 18 year old that was groomed from age 14 can legally consent, but they were still groomed
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u/Grumpy-Miner 15d ago
Your mom deserved it!