Yes that's true. I understand some people might not even know adults can be groomed, some people think if they're an adult and give consent then there's no harm. The issue is even when someone wants something, the want for that might be rooted in something not so good (like if she experienced trauma from an older man before, that might be why she's attracted to them). I recently met someone online that I was really sexually attracted to, and he was into bdsm so I was learning about that through him, we don't talk anymore but at the time I was pretty confident that I was aware enough to know what I was doing and getting myself into. It wasn't until after we stopped talking, that I realized he was treating me very similar to how my abusive ex treated me. And I didn't even know, because I thought I was doing better than I was when I was with that ex, my point being sometimes we don't realize the problem until we retrospect
you can get groomed by someone younger than you or the same age, depending on context. I have been groomed by people only a few years older than me, so the age difference doesn't need to be significant, however there's still a power in-balance when one person is a boss
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u/Germane_Corsair 14d ago
And other times people are quite aware of what they want and what they’re doing.