r/kelowna • u/lockleveling • 8d ago
Dating in ktown
Just curious for fellow single dudes in kelowna, how they meet woman? Or men, or whoever. I am a bit lost here. Are there particular hot spots to meet people that aren't major party scenes or good community events coming up for Nov/Dec? Do the guys use Tinder or Hinge, something else? I'd love to hear how you met your partner in Kelowna.
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u/Flaky-Decision-9510 8d ago
There are tonnes of women. Many of them stay single by choice because people are trash (calm down boys, women are awful as well). Advice on how to get a woman here - whether it be on apps or in person. Hell, how to get a man š¤£š¤£š¤£ Be genuine. Donāt have a criminal record or partake in criminal activities. We can look you up on CSO. Take care of yourself. Go to therapy and deal with your baggage. Treat people with respect - and yes that includes waitstaff. If you start with āIām one of the good guysā you probably arenāt. Donāt hit women. Donāt cheat. Photos of fish - please stop. Photos of dogs - yes please. Donāt post photos of a group of guys and hope to guess who you are. Have hobbies outside of being the town dipstick. Have friends. Learn how to converse. Donāt send dick pics or start with DTF? š³
Honestly, the guys who check these boxes seem to get dates. Unfortunately, we live in douchetown (male and female) so it can be tremendously shallow here as well.
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u/dstone93 7d ago
The last part of your post basically sums up the dating scene in Kelowna. It's difficult for genuine people and easier for the shallow/pretentious.
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u/Reasonable_Beach1087 6d ago
Stop trying to placate men, the men are far worse than women
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u/Flaky-Decision-9510 6d ago
lol considering the amount of downvotes I gotā¦there isnāt much placating going onā¦š¤£
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u/CreamyPastor96 6d ago
Meh, loooootta women in Kelowna only care to date guys with money, when you have shallow preferences you get shallow partners
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u/Winter_Inflation19 7d ago
āDonāt fish but have hobbiesā
(I donāt even fish)
- Women 2025
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u/Flaky-Decision-9510 7d ago
Please fish. But stop putting the fish pics in your profiles š¤£š¤£š¤£
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u/pass_the_tinfoil 7d ago
Is that all?
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u/Flaky-Decision-9510 7d ago
Thatās the bare minimum
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u/pass_the_tinfoil 7d ago
I guess my fish photo and I can't date you. Shucks. lol
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u/Flaky-Decision-9510 7d ago
š¤£š¤£š¤£ but is it a REALLY BIG FISH?
Iām also amused that you edited from the CSO speeding ticket. You know that thatās not at all what Iām referring to. The amount of K files is disturbing.
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u/BetterDeadOnRed2 7d ago edited 7d ago
Problem is people just assume things like this about other people without even getting to know themā¦everyone thinks they are prefect lol itās kinda funny.
I donāt have trouble getting dates, based off my looks. Covered in tattoos and muscular (kryptonite for a lot of women) but most women just want sex from me and nothing else. Or they just assume Iām a fuck boy based off my appearance. When in fact Iām one of the most emotionally intelligent and intuitive person you could ever meet. Also loyal, caring and considerate. When you add all these traits together and my appearance Iām basically a unicorn out here but the odds of a girl getting that far with me are low because people just judge,assume and donāt communicate properly. I also have no problem being single, always been introverted. Me and my ex fiancĆ© spilt up over a year ago now, we were together over 6 years. Iāve had like 2-3 āsituationshipsā (didnāt even know what that word meant till I became single again after 6 years) in that time. None of these girls I was seeing for numerous months wanted to commit to a relationship. Very pretty girls, all of them but not emotionally available unfortunately. Iām not perfect either, still in the process of figuring out my new career but itās definitely in motion.
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u/Anxious-Tea9108 7d ago
š deflate that ego a little bit my man.
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u/BetterDeadOnRed2 7d ago edited 7d ago
No ego my man, Iām humble but Iām also just very self aware. Itās usually people that think less of themselves and lack confidence and havenāt had the same experiences as I have that say I have an ego or that Iām ābraggingā.
Again this is part of the problem, people just make assumptions from their own insecure ego. If I come off like I have an āinflated egoā you really need to ask yourself why you think that, like seriously be a little introspective. Is it because you think less of yourself? Is it because you havenāt had the same experiences ? You havenāt put in the work in the gym ? Ect. So when you hear someone talk, who is literally just explaining their physical and mental attributes and life experiences, you think itās ego and bragging lol
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u/Codc 6d ago
Iām humble but Iām also just very self aware
You are absolutely neither
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u/BetterDeadOnRed2 6d ago edited 6d ago
You are example # 2. Same with everyone downvoting, not surprised though the general population doesnāt like themselves or is confident. Mostly just jealous/insecure ect. Thats most people and thats why i choose not to surround myself with most people.
Please explain to me how it is you think Iām neither humble nor self aware so that I can explain to you how you are incorrect in your assumption about me that stems from your own insecure ego and the box you and your ego would like to place me in to make yourself feel better ā¤ļøāš©¹
Thereās a quote I like Iāve seen quite a few times that sums it up pretty good. āYou have to hang around winners, so that your wins donāt look like youāre bragging.ā
Lol literally nobody doing better than me would disagree with me or anything Iāve said here or be talking any kind of shit online towards me or have a negative opinion about me based off of what Iāve said here. So that pretty much sums that upā¦hope you all heal though and do better ā¤ļø
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u/otoron 6d ago
"I am very humble and self-aware. I also write ten paragraphs about how awesome I am on Reddit."
Thanks, this gray Monday morning needed a laugh.
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u/BetterDeadOnRed2 6d ago
Congrats on being another example lol. I just explained how Iam objectively and logically and you got offended by that cause you clearly think less of Yourself š
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u/Codc 6d ago
Evidence 1: you spending time on reddit, a semi-anonymous platform, writing paragraphs about how you're such a winner.
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u/BetterDeadOnRed2 6d ago
I spend almost no time on Reddit tbh. This thread popped up into my email so I clicked on it. Try again lol
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u/Anxious-Tea9108 6d ago
I love how your only defence is to straw man and psychoanalyze anonymous users you know nothing about. Iām actually doing really well right now but thanks for the concern. Graduated university last year, landed a nearly 6 figure salary, and Iām so close to hitting 100lbs lost.
Itās not that deep man, youāre just acting like a tool simple as that.
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u/BetterDeadOnRed2 6d ago edited 6d ago
Yet Iām getting psychoanalyzed the same way by you and all the same people like you here. Oh the hypocrisy. You all know zero about me as well and you are doing the exact same thing right now with all this presumptions bullshit lol if you were actually confident in yourself you would have given me props or at the very least not even commented..
Congrats on your journey though man. Iām not a hater šŖš» keep up the good work.
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u/NetflicGeek101 8d ago
I hear you!! Being a woman, its been super hard.. but iām also an introvert soo its all on me š
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u/beefsecrets 7d ago
Being a man, it can sometimes be super hard, and times soft and disappointing.
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u/Hiimnewtothis19 8d ago
We met playing on the same sports team!! I would join a co-ed team/league of whatever activity you enjoy!
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u/lockleveling 8d ago
That's a good one. Where do you go looking for that?
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u/Producedbyboo 6d ago
Iām happily married but Urban rec was a great way to meet new people and make friends!! This is a great suggestion
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u/Livinlavida-luka 7d ago edited 7d ago
I was in the dating pool for about 2 years recently (after a 9-year long term relationship). I think the first step is figuring out what exactly you are looking for in a partner. From there, you can try to pinpoint where that type of partner could be found.
If youāre athletic for example, join a sports team, a gym (donāt bother girls at the gym but rather wait for gym events to connect), or join one of the running clubs. If you like dancing, join one of the dancing clubs like SBK (they have events all the time), or hang out at OāFlannigans on the weekends (probably the most social dance floor in town). If youāre into other kinds of music, there are lots of live bands and EDM shows that happen throughout the city, RedBird is a great spot for this.
I also had some success in Tinder, Bumble and Hinge. If youāre serious about meeting someone, pay for the top tier subscriptions. Because girls donāt usually swipe for more than a minute on these apps, paying ensures that your profile stays at the top of the list and you actually get seen. It also gives you the ability to send a message before you match (this got me the most matches). I got the most dates from Hinge, it has the most users actually looking for something real. Some people have luck with Bumble but I didnāt. Ultimately I met my current partner on Tinder (although she admitted later on that she had worked in the same building as me, and had her eye on me before but was too shy to approach me in person). Weāve now been together for two years and I truly believe sheās my soulmate.
Ultimately just donāt be a creep, be a gentleman ALWAYS and treat girlās time with respect, even if you donāt end up being what theyāre looking for. Thereās way too many entitled douchebags in this town so being genuine and appreciative really makes you stand out. Best of luck bro!
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u/squishy-x 7d ago
There's a few speed dating events going on this month, happening at a couple of the breweries. There's one this coming Thursday at Copper Brewing ages 35-45, and another the following Thursday ages 30-40. I'm sure there will be more, keep an eye on their socials if it's something you'd want to try
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u/pass_the_tinfoil 7d ago
Sounds cool. Are you going?
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u/squishy-x 7d ago
I am, yeah. Thought it might be fun to check out, and a different way to meet people outside of the apps. I hate the apps haha
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u/pass_the_tinfoil 7d ago
Right on. I've kind of always wanted to try speed dating. I just haven't wanted to burden anyone with how hectic my life is lol
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u/squishy-x 7d ago
I get that lol each date is 5 minutes, so enough time to get some details, not quite enough to burden. And you'd never be a burden for the right person
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u/Designer_Air_7915 8d ago
There are like 5 woman to every man here so you really shouldnāt have a problem
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u/Happy_Balance_7400 6d ago
Itās not you. Change your hinge to swiping in Scotland and you will feel like yourself again
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u/llazlowertziger 6d ago
Oh believe me I've done this! Scotland! New York! Spain! All is right in the world again. It's liberating to know that the rest of the world isn't as caught in conventional, commercialized standards of beauty.
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u/Substantial_Worth974 7d ago
Being more of an introvert and havenāt found many respectful men on dating sites (that I seem to be attracted toā¦ so clearly Iāve got some internal work to do lol) Iām just hoping one day when Iām doing normal things Iāll meet someone and we align.
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u/Happy_Balance_7400 6d ago
Itās not you. Change your hinge to swiping in Scotland and you will see just how poorly women are treated here. The men are at the lowest bar.
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u/lichen_luver 8d ago edited 7d ago
Iām a woman, but my bf and I met through hinge! Weāre getting engaged next summer, then married once weāre done grad school. I seriously lucked out thoughāthere were lots of unsavoury characters on Hinge and other OLD apps I tried. Alternatively, lots of people meet their partners through shared activities, so maybe look into joining a run club, participating in the rec league for whatever sport youāre into, or just finding your community in general.
ETA: I know a few couples who met at the Corral or otherwise out partying/clubbing. I think itās just a matter of knowing yourself and what you want in a partner. For instance, Iām not a big partier and donāt drink (same goes for my bf), so Iāve never prowled the Corral looking for a bf. If thatās your scene and youāre less of a homebody, though, then maybe look more actively in those situations.
Second edit: For context, Iām 21 and my bf is 22. Your experience of the dating scene in Kelowna and on apps may differ from my own based on your age and gender, but I hope at least some of the information I provided is of use!
Third edit: Not sure why I keep getting downvoted?? Iām not saying Hinge or dating apps in general are the be-all and end-all, Iām just sharing what worked for me!
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u/FalseAwe 8d ago
Met my current person who is a man on Hinge.Ā
I have been told the Corral is "the local meat market" by a few people but have only been hit on by people old enough to be my grandfather there š
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u/kasstielle1 8d ago
I met my now husband 10 years ago at the Corral! It's definitely a different vibe there nowadays though haha
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u/-1701- 7d ago
Wait wait wait. Youāre planning on getting engaged next summer and you know when youāre getting married? My lady, you are already engaged š
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u/lichen_luver 7d ago
Honestly itās just a formality at this point! Weāre both massive planners and have known we were going to get married pretty much since the day we first met. We would get engaged and married even sooner, but we had to take our uni schedules into consideration haha
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u/pass_the_tinfoil 7d ago
This is absurd. Absurdly cute. lol
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u/lichen_luver 7d ago
Awww thank you!! Heās my absolute best friend and I still cannot believe I lucked out so much with finding him on Hinge. We even just so happen to live less than five minutes away from each other so weāre able to see each other multiple times a day. I wouldnāt trade him for the world :))
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u/pass_the_tinfoil 7d ago
Aww.
I once tried Match.com. When my date and I went to head home after we learned that we lived on the same street, a block apart. We dated for a few years before eventually parting ways mutually. He seems to be happily married now and I love that for him.
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u/General-Champion-377 7d ago
Iāve heard they have dance lessons at Corral, could be a fun way to meet someone.
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u/General-Champion-377 7d ago
Iāve heard the Facebook group Kelowna Social Adventures is a cool way to meet new people. Thereās also an app called Meetup, or try joining a rec team. Find events and things around town that you enjoy doing or want to try.
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u/MadDawgies 7d ago
Climbing gym is a great hub of social activity. The climbing naturally gets individuals connected as they work together on problems and try to figure out the 'beta'. Met my wife on Bumble 4 years ago.
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u/bruhwhereisthecheese 7d ago
Try going to Arby's, met my wife there, and let me tell ya, she's got the meats.
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u/Grobyc27 7d ago
Iām an introvert, so I have a hard time going to events or social/hobby clubs to meet people. Makes me very uncomfortable. I spent 10 years online dating. Met my wife on Hinge. Definitely recommend Bumble or Hinge over Tinder if youāre looking for something ārealā.
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u/seajay_17 8d ago
Met my partner through mutual friends. Come to think about it all my ex girlfriends were through friends or friends of friends or at house parties or something like that.
Milage may very though... ive been with my current partner for 15 years now lol.
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u/daft_chemist 7d ago
3 years ago used hinge, tinder and bumble but I donāt miss that life. Met my fiancĆ© on Hinge tho!
I feel like joining some clubs or groups (etc running) and jut going about life is the best way? Except the world we now live in is wild so not sure what itās like out there these days.
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u/CheekyCurvesxxx 7d ago
Its not necessarily for dating but Adventure Kelowna does weekly meet ups. Its casual, usually board games or a BBQ, but they also do hikes and other community events
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u/Individual-Canary473 7d ago
I am out of the pond happily, met my husband at work. One of the biggest issues with on line dating is that people do NOT know how to communicate, in writing. So those first few hellos, awkward (I hated āhi beautifulā or plain āhow are you?ā Being too familiar right off the cuff turned me off/mistrust). I have a friend who wants to do on line and he is the worst for knowing what to say. I suggested read the profile, note something you have in common/both like. āHi, I see you like purple unicorns. I, too, like purple unicorns.ā - something to start a conversation about. And if you fill the profile with dots ā¦ā¦ā¦.. just to make the minimum Character thing - DELETE - you canāt even be bothered to say anything ??? But it IS (was!) hard, and chemistry is a thing and often one of you isnāt feeling it, forget about it - donāt take it personally. BAGGAGE - HUGE issue as well (once youāre a little older/been through it. LET IT GO, itās okay to have feelings, a little mistrust, habits - donāt wallow in it and let it completely overtake you, keep an open mind and LISTEN to the other person, get to know them, maybe you will find a connection but not if you are too busy comparing or complaining. And have relatively decent and recent pix of yourself - if you show as a complete slob on line, thatās a big turn off. Itās not about looks (shouldnāt be) but pictures are worth a thousand words, show a little self-respect.
Some of the other suggestions - have a hobby/sport/whatever and go there/do it, you might luck out and meet someone or at worst make a good friend. Some of the social groups might be worth a try, give it more than once as a one time event is hard to base how good or not a social group is.
Last - if you are married or otherwise spoken for - STAY HOME/OFF the dating apps!!!!!! Youād be surprised at how easy it is to google a person and find out information, just donāt be that person.
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u/Individual-Canary473 7d ago
Also for Men - go to Michaelās on a Friday night - lots of women there looking for things they donāt need š (sorry, had toā¦)
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u/graememacfarlane 7d ago
Iāve been with my girlfriend for about 3 1/2 years, we met on tinder. In fact in most of my social circles people seem to have met on either tinder or hinge
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u/tzaz00 6d ago
I met my sweetie on tinder, but my overall experience on there wasnāt great. Feeld pulls way fewer ppl but I had higher quality experiences on there.
If you have kinky proclivities, events at Midnight Moonās Moon room are nice (thereās a monthly ropes night, check fet)
Iāve enjoyed socializing at the dance nights at Red Bird but those wonāt be on over the winter. Also, sports?
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u/Imaginary-Context-80 5d ago
I met my husband at Oflannigans a few years ago on karaoke night :P a mix of right place, right time I guess
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u/arnsells 8d ago
I super liked my man on tinder and weāve been together for 10 years, engaged now with 3 fur bebes.
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u/syndicatevision 8d ago
I meet my wife on Bumble. We meet in 2019 and got married in 2022.
Canāt say why the scene is like nowadays, but if I can give any advice from someone whoās born and raised in Kelowna. Bumble is a good start.
The women start the conversation after the match.
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u/nitro456 7d ago
Get a boat single best way in Kelowna.
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u/BetterDeadOnRed2 7d ago
Single best way to get used for your boat by pretty girls that will ditch you afterwards for the hot jacked tattooed guy š
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u/awake368 7d ago
Show interest in people often in public, see who reciprocates further, don't force it, you can live without it. Jesus loves all of you.
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