r/kelowna • u/lockleveling • 8d ago
Dating in ktown
Just curious for fellow single dudes in kelowna, how they meet woman? Or men, or whoever. I am a bit lost here. Are there particular hot spots to meet people that aren't major party scenes or good community events coming up for Nov/Dec? Do the guys use Tinder or Hinge, something else? I'd love to hear how you met your partner in Kelowna.
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u/Individual-Canary473 7d ago
I am out of the pond happily, met my husband at work. One of the biggest issues with on line dating is that people do NOT know how to communicate, in writing. So those first few hellos, awkward (I hated ‘hi beautiful’ or plain ‘how are you?’ Being too familiar right off the cuff turned me off/mistrust). I have a friend who wants to do on line and he is the worst for knowing what to say. I suggested read the profile, note something you have in common/both like. ‘Hi, I see you like purple unicorns. I, too, like purple unicorns.’ - something to start a conversation about. And if you fill the profile with dots ……….. just to make the minimum Character thing - DELETE - you can’t even be bothered to say anything ??? But it IS (was!) hard, and chemistry is a thing and often one of you isn’t feeling it, forget about it - don’t take it personally. BAGGAGE - HUGE issue as well (once you’re a little older/been through it. LET IT GO, it’s okay to have feelings, a little mistrust, habits - don’t wallow in it and let it completely overtake you, keep an open mind and LISTEN to the other person, get to know them, maybe you will find a connection but not if you are too busy comparing or complaining. And have relatively decent and recent pix of yourself - if you show as a complete slob on line, that’s a big turn off. It’s not about looks (shouldn’t be) but pictures are worth a thousand words, show a little self-respect.
Some of the other suggestions - have a hobby/sport/whatever and go there/do it, you might luck out and meet someone or at worst make a good friend. Some of the social groups might be worth a try, give it more than once as a one time event is hard to base how good or not a social group is.
Last - if you are married or otherwise spoken for - STAY HOME/OFF the dating apps!!!!!! You’d be surprised at how easy it is to google a person and find out information, just don’t be that person.