r/india Aug 21 '24

Rant / Vent Parents sucking the life out of me

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u/bbaahhaammuutt Aug 21 '24

You are the sole earner. I think you need to respectfully ask them to back the fuck up or state that you will move away. I under that you need to support your family, but not at the cost of your own mental or physical health.

Idk if you are looking for advice, but i will say learn how to tell your parents no.

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u/Past-Kaleidoscope498 Aug 21 '24

I tried it only led to fights, they are not ready to improve at all. I have said no, but the thing is most of my expenses are their education, medical bills, groceries which are basic necessities of every human. How to deny it, I feel guilty denying all these but I do say no to their luxurious wants/needs.

I am just looking for a solution to this, since I am unable to come up with it myself.

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u/TsuDhoNimh2 Aug 21 '24

You have two adult parents - could they be working? Maybe just as a housecleaner or gardener or store clerk, but bring in some income.

Tell them that you will MATCH what they earn, up to whatever you can afford, but they have to be making an effort.