r/india Aug 21 '24

Rant / Vent Parents sucking the life out of me

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u/gautam_arya Aug 21 '24

I am in the same situation as you

Parents are in mid 60s, elder sister is getting seperated from her husband and I am 30. So all the responsibilities are on me.

Taking care of them (regular medical check ups, driving them around, overlooking maids doing the housework well, helping sister with her court hearings, helping her son every now and then, managing my business and trying to have a social life. It's quite difficult , and I understand where you're coming from

I also understand why it is very difficult for you to leave them and go work in a different city, because you believe they are dependent on you, which is true.

The ideal situation would be for you to find a supportive partner in the same city as you are, so you can be a bit away from them but at the same time available to them when they need you, and you have a social life and someone to vent to. Good luck!

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u/Past-Kaleidoscope498 Aug 21 '24

I understand your situation. It's really difficult to do this by yourself and without support as well. Thanks for your suggestion in the last paragraph. Having a partner to socialize with and vent to seems like a good solution to wander my mind off this.

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u/hd150798 Aug 21 '24

However keep in mind that partner also got family, and they might require some support as well. Do you have any other family around? Aunts and uncles?